Is Your Husband Your True Enemy?

Why do you argue and fight with your husband? You aren’t getting what you want. {James 4:1} We are fighting the wrong enemy with the wrong strategy. The enemy isn’t your husband! The enemy is Satan and his desire is to kill, steal and destroy. How are we supposed to fight this enemy? We fight it with the Word of God, faith and with prayer; the armor of the Lord. Many will ask, “But what about me?” The Lord is your greatest defense lawyer; He’s got your back! If God be for us, who can be against us? {Romans 8:31}

These were words I jotted down while watching the movie War Room. Truth was taught in this movie. Many women are constantly battling their husbands and end up destroying their marriages. Every wise woman builds her house: but the foolish plucks it down with her hands {Proverbs 14:1}. God hates complaining and being discontent. He hates a quarreling tongue. We need to stop thinking of our husband as the enemy and understand our true enemy’s tactics.

When we are arguing and fighting with our husbands, God calls us adulterers and adulteresses!  We argue and fight because of our lust for control, our lust to get what we want and our lust to be right. God said this is having friendship with the world since this is the way unbelievers act; whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. When we are lusting to have our way, we are being prideful and God resists the proud. Pride can be traced to the root of all sin.

What is the cure to fighting, quarreling, lusting, pride, and being called an adulteress? Humility; God gives grace unto the humble. This means you no longer fight and quarrel. You no longer need to be right. You no longer care about getting your way. You no longer want to argue with your husband and be in conflict with him. You allow the Lord to work in your life through His Word, prayer and believing. You submit yourselves therefore to God. Then James tells us to resist the Devil and he will flee. How do we resist the Devil? By allowing the Word of God to dwell in us richly, being full of thanksgiving and praise and praying to the Lord. Draw nigh to God and He will draw nigh to you.

The final exhortation in James 4, Therefore to him that knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin. Yikes! Arguing and being in conflict with your husband is sinful. Stop! You know that now so you have NO excuse. Put on the full armor of God, walk in the Spirit and allow His Spirit to work in you mightily. Fight your true enemy; he is NOT your husband.