She Does Him Good and Not Evil

"Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life" {Proverbs 31:10-13} Virtuous means, "conforming to moral and ethical principles; morally excellent; upright; chaste."

This is a high standard set for a godly wife. There is no way that we can live up to this definition unless we have the power of the Holy Spirit living in and through us. Everything I teach women to be and do must come from God's power living and working through you. However, if you are filled with the Spirit, you must continually renew your mind with God's Word and remind yourself that you can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens you.

Conforming to moral and ethical principles means we live lives that are above reproach. Our speech is wholesome; we read and watch things that are God-honoring; and we watch over our families carefully so evil will not invade our home with a ton of prayer mixed in. In order to do all this in this day and age, we must be vigilant and take every thought captive to the obedient of Christ meditating on His Word often.

Does your husband "safely trust in you?" Can he be sure that you are not sharing negative things about him to others or do you build him up in front of others? Do you keep his secrets only to yourself or do you share them? Can he trust you with your household money and make sure you are being a diligent keeper at home? Does he trust you to love him through sickness and health, rich or poor, in good times and bad times? Are you a covenant keeper to him until death do you part?

Do you do him good and not evil? This means you will support him through difficult times knowing that he makes mistakes and will sin once in awhile. You will forgive him easily and love him deeply. Your children will know that he is a priority in your life. You make sure his needs are abundantly met in every way. If he is going through a hard time, you will offer him comfort and encouragement and NOT use this as a time to shoot him down further.

Washington Irvine wrote a beautiful essay about the value of a godly wife, "So is it beautifully ordered by Providence, that woman, who is the mere dependent and ornament of man in his happier hours, should be his stay and solace when smitten with sudden calamity; winding herself into the rugged recesses of his nature, tenderly supporting the drooping head, and binding up the broken heart." Through good times and bad times until death do you part.

After God created Adam and saw he was alone, He created Eve to be his helpmeet and God saw it was good. Marriage was created by God and deeply valued by Him. Therefore, be a godly helpmeet to your husband who only does her husband good and not evil all the days of her life.
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