Friday, October 2, 2015

My Experience with Public Schooling


My education from second grader all the way through high school was in the public school system. This was during the 60s and 70s. Our Principal in our elementary school had a large paddle and used it when needed. Therefore, there wasn't a lot of misbehaving going on. My favorite part of elementary school was lunch, recess and going home. I LOVED tether ball, dodge ball and handball. I played so much I had callouses on my hands! My school had a large grassy area so there was tons of room to run and play. They gave us quite a bit of time outside. I never made any close friends at this school. I was teased a lot for how skinny I was and that I ate such healthy food. In fact, girls would call me on the phone calling me all sorts of names and making me cry. During one difficult time, a boy was sticking his pencil on my private parts until my mom called his mom and told him if he ever touched me again, she'd call the police, so he quit.

Junior High was not too memorable. I still didn't have any close girlfriends during these years. In fact, all through my years in public schools, I never found one godly friend who was being raised in a Christian home and living out Christian values. Our Bible wasn't ever read in my home growing up. We went to a very biblically-weak church all of those years. I felt very alone in my faith and my values but my parents did love Jesus. I was exposed to porn in this junior high. There was a disgusting picture on the ground that the boys had put there because they wanted to watch people's reaction as they walked by. I learned there was something called homosexuality for the first time.

I went to Canyon High School, a huge D-1 school for four years. The bathrooms were filled with mean girls who were smoking so I tried so hard to not have to go to the bathroom at school. Since I wasn't well-versed in the Bible, I have no idea if what I was being taught was unbiblical or not. We were taught evolution but I don't remember if they taught it as fact back then. There were parties I went to for awhile. They weren't fun parties. Everyone was drinking, smoking and fooling around with the opposite sex. I would hold a beer in my hand and pour it in the bushes when no one was looking, just trying to fit in until I heard that one of my 'friends' gossiped, "It's so cool that Lori is coming down to my level." I immediately thought, "No, I'm not!" and I quit going to them. My only good memory of high school was being a cheerleader my junior and senior year. I loved being a cheerleader!

I was teased in high school because I smiled too much. I was called a goody two shoes. My first date at 16 tried to have sex with me so I told him to take me home and he almost crashed on the way home. My mom did tell us to save sex until marriage. One guy, who I had had a crush on for awhile, finally asked me out. He was an hour late and completely drunk. I got into the car anyway and he took me to a party and directly into one of the bedrooms. I sat on the bed and told him to take me home. On the way home, he asked me if I didn't like him drinking and I said no, so he quit. One of my 'friends' from church had sex with her boyfriend in her home and told me all about it. I think most of my 'friends' slept around with their boyfriends and partied, even the ones in my church.

The only thing that kept me close to the Lord through all of this is having parents who consistently took  me to church every single Sunday and summer camp every summer. I attended Forest Home Christian Camp all of my years growing up and I was saturated in Jesus during that one week every summer. I always loved Him but I didn't realize what being a Christian full-time really looked like until I went to Westmont College when I was 18 years old. It was there that I learned to spend time in His Word, found amazing godly friends, and heard godly speakers in chapel every day. 

I didn't like public school at all but it was all I really knew. I was lonely often since I had no friends with my values, which were rather weak. My mom was my closest friend and ally. I don't remember any teacher having much of an effect on me in a positive way as if they really cared about me. The classrooms were always so large that they didn't have time to really know their students. I felt like a number at these schools, mostly in junior high and high school. I did things that my conscience convicted me about and I knew were wrong so I did have a moral compass but not much support to live a godly life. My parents were raised in a much more innocent time so they had no idea what I was exposed to and I didn't tell them much about the junk. My memories of my growing up years are not fond at all, however, the Lord has restored the years the locusts have eaten. I loved my college years, married an amazing man, was blessed with four wonderful children and the Lord has graciously given me this ministry which I love. For all of these, I am very thankful.

And we know that all things work together 
for good to them that love God, 
to them who are the called according to His purpose.
Romans 8:28
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***Voddie Baucham gives Top 5 Reasons NOT to send you children back to public schools.

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I had a mostly good public school experience. However in high school I was sexually assaulted twice. The first time I was 14 and in Earth Science class. We had the the lab partner desks. My lab partner was a fellow 9th grader. Once he put his hands between my legs in class. (Nobody else could see because of the desks) He kept trying with his hands and I would push him away and tell him to stop. I didn't say anything in class because I didn't want to make a scene. He would also whisper nasty stuff. After class I went to school resource officer. The guy was suspended and then dropped out later. The second time was in Biology class. Same thing with the lab desks. He kept trying to get me to grab him you know where. He would take my hand and try to get me to do stuff. But this guy was popular and athletic, I really did not want to report him and have people hate me. I went to the teacher after class and asked to change lab partners.

Other than that I had good friends in high school. Most people I went to school with had parents who worked in agriculture. So it wasn't a wealthy area. The richest people came from families who owned tobacco farms. I ran track and cross-country. I set a school 2-mile record and was part of a relay team that went to state. Sports are probably the best memory from high school.

Some people I went to school had bad home lives. My one friend lived in a camper. Her mom sold weed. My mom paid for her to eat school lunch sometimes because her mom refused to fill out the free lunch forms. Now she is married, a SAHM and lives in a big house. Her husband has a good job. They are strong Christians. Another friend came from a rough home life. One day in gym class another girl noticed she had marks on her. They reported it. It turns out her dad had hit her with a belt. She was placed in JobCorps- which is a government ran boarding school. She has struggled since high school.

All in all, I learned a lot and made good friends. I had fun running track. But there were some tough experiences to get through.
I would like to drop this book title here for someone who may need it to help their daughter escape the rottenness found in public schools and pursue Christ. I am reading it with my 16 yo daughter. Authentic Beauty by Leslie Ludy.
My experience was similar to yours Lori. My best memory was probably graduation. I didn't go to parties but I had a boyfriend the entire time so I didn't make any friends. I grew up in a strong church until age 10 and then we moved to a liturgical church. College was pretty much like high school but I did go to a lot of parties, drank and tried drugs. I wasn't really saved until a couple of years into my 2nd marriage. I was a complete heathen and so was my husband but when things were hopeless I turned back to the church I went to as a small child. I have to say out of 12 years of public school and 3 years of state university I can name 3 teachers who had an influence on me My speech and drama teacher who I loved and she loved her work and her students, my geometry teacher because he was actually a good teacher and able to teach me geometry and he was my mom's homeroom teacher when she was in high school so he took an extra interest in me and my homemaking teacher who I am still friends with today. I find it interesting that 2 of the 3 were teachers of electives. So because of all this I am a homeschool mom!
Other than kindergarten and 5 - 8 grade I was in public school. In 9th grade I was cornered in the locker room by the gym teacher. She made a comment about one of my body parts then let me go. I never told my parents because I was really unclear what had happened. I had been so sheltered and am so thankful for it!! My high school was a small country school surrounded by corn fields and though I am sure there were problems, the small group I hung with were good kids most of whom attended church. But I know that times have changed since I graduated in 1983! My niece just started a huge high school in town. She has already been teased mercilessly for her faith and hears horrible words all day long in the halls. This is her first public school experience and all so she can be in sports. Tragic if you ask me. My heart hurts as each of my sons friends enter the public school system.
I pray you are feeling better Lori.
I had a very good experience at school and whilst not a great student academically I still did ok. I made many wonderful friends and never had any problems with bullying or nastiness. I never saw drugs and whilst I didn't participate in any of the parties, neither was I pressured to. My three brothers all did very well, with one topping the state with his scores academically. I don't think everyone has a bad experience and certainly I know many who have had a great at school as I did. Like all things, some people do well and others don't.

Even schools today can vary with some in our area that are excellent (I live in a more wealthy city), whereas in poor locations the schools are not very good.

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