Sunday, November 1, 2015

What's Important to You?


What’s important to you? An education? A career? Having nice fancy stuff, going on vacations and storing your treasures here on earth? I stumbled upon Joey and Rory's Blog this past weekend. Wow! They love Jesus deeply and their story is difficult to hear but very inspiring. May it bless you today.

Rory, the husband, wrote these words, “When Joey and I got married in 2002, she made it very clear that she was never going to be having a baby. She had never wanted to be a mama; never liked holding babies or had any kind of yearning to be a mom. It’s not that she didn’t like kids, she just never saw herself having any. My guess is that she had her musical dreams and having babies was fine for most women, but it just wasn’t for her. I often wondered if someday she would change her mind, but she never did.

When she married me though, she became a mother to my two girls, Heidi and Hopie. That was something she adopted and embraced and has gotten better at being year by year. The girls and Joey are very close now. But the lack of desire to have a baby of her own never came. But what did come was a stronger desire to trust God with her fears. So one day, about a year and a half ago, she gave it to Him, and said, 'If you want us to have a baby, Lord, I want what You want.' And that was it. She went off birth control and almost a year went by and though she’d have her moments of wanting to 'take it back' from God, she remained faithful and trusting. This past June, on Father’s day to be exact, she and we found out she was pregnant.

They sing a song together that is heart-warming and what many of you, women, have decided is important to you. Please listen to That's Important to Me which will touch you deeply. Here are a few of the lyrics to whet your appetite!

Not planning our day around a TV set
Paying our bills and staying out of debt
That's important to me
Holding hands when we're saying a prayer
That's important to me
Yea, that's important to me
Having somebody to share my life
Loving my husband, and being a wife
And the very best mother I can be
That's important to me

Telling the truth, and being real
Feeding my family a home cooked meal
That's important to me
That's important to me
Planting a garden and watching it grow
Keeping it country on the radio
That's important to me
Yea, that's important to me
Always having you to hold,
Being beside you when we grow old

Joey had her baby at home with a midwife. She never went to the doctor, had tests, or did ultrasounds. She didn’t want any interference with her pregnancy. She had godly midwives who prayed with her while she delivered a breech baby without any drugs. Her baby has Downs Syndrome but they love this baby immensely. They said that even if they knew she had Downs before they delivered her, they would not have done anything differently.

Their baby is one and a half years old and Joey is dying of cancer. It seems so unfair!!! I have wept for this woman I don’t know but I know I will have the privilege of spending eternity with her as well as with Kara Tippets and many others who are in the Lord’s presence. We can’t understand the Lord’s ways but we know that He is good and we can trust Him. Joey and Rory trust Him. They love Him and have no anger towards Him at all; they are simply heart broken and the Lord promises to be with the brokenhearted. No, this is NOT our home. We have an eternal home that will be more than we can ever hope for or imagine. We rest in Him.

In Rory's last post titled For Better or Worse, he writes these precious words about his dying wife, "But please, one thing I ask...don't pray that Joey is healed. Yes, pray for a miracle. But also pray for peace in her heart and ours if God chooses not to let this cup pass from her sweet lips." Not my will but Thine be done. Trust Him whom all blessings flow.

The LORD is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, But the LORD delivers him out of them all.
Psalm 34:18

***On Rory's "about page" on his blog, he writes this about his wife, "I want to out-love and out-serve her, but it is impossible." Do you try to out-love and out-serve your husband?

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I recently found them too??????!! I read every post on their blog last weekend. I cried too. They have some sort of show you can watch as well. She is so beautiful and has such a loving, peaceful soul. It is funny how there are people that have a harshness about them and others that have a gentleness and it can be obvious from moment one of meeting them. She obviously exudes a gentleness. I love the way she talks to Indy (their baby girl). The hymns she sings are enhanced beautifully by her rich voice. THAT'S IMPORTANT TO ME is my favorite song of theirs.
1 reply · active 491 weeks ago
She is a godly woman, Sheila. I have listened to several of their songs. I love the old-time hymns they sing. He sure is going to miss his precious wife.
Lori
this is so very sad, and their baby so young too. My Dad used to play this song by Jim Reeves (a favourite singer of his!) 'This world is not my home'
This world is not my home
I'm just a-passing through
My treasures are laid up
Somewhere beyond the blue.

The angels beckon me
From heaven's open door
And I can't feel at home
In this world anymore.

The older I get the more I realise that the real adventure will start when we reach our real home in glory. Now we see in a glass darkly and we do not understand 'why the good die young' but then we will know fully.

I will pray for them.

Blessings to you this Lords Day dear Lori
Helen UK
2 replies · active 490 weeks ago
Beautiful song, Helen.Thank you for sharing!
We still sing that in church all the time. :)
I saw a link to their music on facebook yesterday & was blessed! Didn't know they had a blog...heading over there now! So glad to see this! Hope you are doing well Lori. God literally led me into the desert (Az) to care for a suicidal son. Things are much better now & I believe I will be writing soon, but I am waiting for the right timing. Love & prayers, in Jesus, Cynthia
1 reply · active 491 weeks ago
I'm so happy to hear from you again, Cynthia! It's been a very long time and it's so good your son is doing better. Blessing to you!
What a tragedy for that family. It's such a shame to know that her husband and children will be left without such a beautiful presence in their lives. I haven't listened to any of their music but I'll definitely be checking it out today.
1 reply · active 491 weeks ago
So many of their songs are SO good! They loved the old-time hymns, just as I do. Her music will live long after her and bless many.
Tears in my eyes reading this. What a beautiful love story. I completely believe that God is 100% sovereign and if it is her time, it is her time. But her choice to not involve doctors in her pregnancy could be a lesson that others need to hear. I understand she has stage IV cervical cancer. Cervical cancer can be treated early if caught by a simple Pap smear. And you don't have to go to a dr! Many midwives are trained to handle many aspects of women's health, including routine testing. Thank you for sharing this story. I will be praying for them.
7 replies · active 490 weeks ago
Even if they found out she had cancer when she was pregnant, Gina, doesn't mean she would have aborted her baby or gone through dangerous treatments while being pregnant. I don't think not having a doctor while she was pregnant had anything to do with it. Bad things happen in this life regardless of whether or not we do the "right thing,"
I know :( I totally agree that bad things happen regardless of our actions. I guess my mistake was assuming she was "anti-Doctor" because she chose not to have one follow her during her pregnancy. I think we can be confident that she would have chosen her baby's life over any treatments for herself if she had been diagnosed while she was pregnant. This is just such a good opportunity to remind women to get regular Pap smears. It seems her daughter is still barely a toddler :( So this was growing long before she was pregnant. Stage IV cervical cancer is so rare in developed countries because of our access to preventative care.
The recommendation for non sexually promiscuous women, who have not had a previous abnormal pap smear, is every 5 years.

Clearly she isn't anti-doctor, as she spent the last year doing chemotherapy, radiation and surgery.

She was pro-midwife, since pregnancy is not a disease or condition.

Unfortunately, cancer happens a lot in our nation, and it's roots are likely a lot more firmly planted in vaccines, GMO's, over use of prescription drugs, hormonal/implantable birth control, and chemical laden foods and environments.

God has hand picked the time for all of us. All we can do is move through this life worshipping Him for knowing better than we do, what His plan means.
I am glad you brought up recommendations for pap smear frequency! Just a few years ago the recommendations changed drastically from yearly to every 3 years, since cervical cancer is known to be slow growing (also, because they want to push the HPV vaccine… :-/ But that's a conspiracy theory for another conversation). If the patient desires and is not at risk of STDs, they can go 5 years in between pap smears as long as they have an HPV test done as well.
Since it is the patient's prerogative, please know that insurance will pay for one every 3 years.

I agree that the rising rates of cancer in America can largely be attributed to the toxins we place in our body, knowingly or unknowingly, as well as the ones we receive through the environment. To me that makes preventative screening even more important!

I thank you ladies for allowing me to speak from my soapbox. I pray that you can see my heart and know that because of the loss of friends and family that I have had in my life, preventative screening is something I am very passionate about. I have known too many people who were anti-doctor until it was too late. Sadly, all western medicine had to offer them was chemo and radiation.

If I had the privilege to know you all in person I think my comments would have come off as an earnest "please remember your pap smears friend!" in passing instead of what I am afraid might have been seen as a very rude way to detract/distract from this beautiful woman's story.

Thank you Lori for sharing your wisdom - I have learned a lot about respecting my husband from reading you blog!
I don't know how things are done in America, but here NZ a pap smear can't be done during pregnancy as the cells show up as abnormal anyway, and there can be a risk of miscarriage. 99% of births are handled by midwives here, not doctors, although routine tests (ultrasounds etc.) are standard practice (although can be declined).

What a sad but inspiring story!
Pap smears are a routine part of pregnancy care here :) They want to be sure the mother doesn't have any STDs.
I was happy to see they are looking into holistic methods. Those have been seriously overlooked and the mortality rate for cancer has been unnecessarily huge. I hope they were able to see Ty Bolinger's 9 part Docuseries that was just aired. It had actual MDs (usually in the old holistic documentaries they MDs had to hide their faces) who spoke about natural remedies for cancer and made it cancer with a little c not a capital C. Apparently it was so revolutionary to some MDs who hadn't heard anything different than what they were taught in their Big Pharmaceutical Company supported schools that a memo went out to Kaiser Doctors to tune in.

Hopefully as they said they have now reached out to some holistic methods they will find answers.
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FREEINDEED! · 490 weeks ago

Wow! What a beautiful, powerful story! I only read the last few entries, but his tone is so strong. Thanks for bringing them to our attention. We'll join them in "Joey's prayer"
Lori, I don't know if this has already been posted but thought you and your readers would want to know. Rory and Joey are asking for a prayer vigil Thursday Nov. 5th at 8:00 p.m. CST. You can check Rory's blog for more info on their prayer and their invitation for you to join them.
1 reply · active 490 weeks ago
Thank you, Linda! Yes, I knew about this and am praying for a miracle for that precious woman.

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