Tuesday, November 10, 2015

Do You Need a Man?


This poster is being passed around Facebook. Do you need a man?


If you want to get married, you need a man. If you want to have children, you need a man. If you want to have a father for your children, you need a man. If you want to be a keeper at home, you need a man. If you want to be provided for without having a career so you can spend your days raising godly offspring, you need a man. If you want a relationship that is a model of Christ and His church, you need a man. If you want a relationship until death do you part, you need a man.

To teach women they never need a man is the feminist's agenda, women; make women believe they don't need a man and can live perfectly great lives without them; encourage them to get as much education as possible and a career so they can provide for themselves "just in case." Everything this culture is teaching women is completely contrary to God's Word since God created marriage, created men to need a help meet and women to need a provider and protector.

Most women need a man, if they admitted this truth. They need protection and provision for them. God created men to be the providers and protectors. They are much stronger than women. They are the ones who fight our enemies, build freeways and bridges, homes, cars, airplanes, etc. They can also lift much heavier things than the average woman.

One day, Emily, my daughter-in-law, told me there was a dead rat in her bathroom drain and of course, she immediately called Steven and he took care of it. {She texted me and told me she is SO happy there is a boy in her home!} If she sees something she loves on Pinterest, Steven is the one who builds it for her. If I have ever heard something in the middle of the night, it is the Ken who goes and checks it out. When one of my children were badly hurt, Ken would be the one who took care of them since I couldn't bear seeing blood and deep cuts. When Cassi's shoulder went out of her socket, she immediately called Ryan to come and help her. When Alyssa wanted crown molding around her family room ceiling, Jon is the one who did it, along with putting wood floors in and many other things around their home. Ryan installed a new stove top and garbage disposal for his and Erin's home. I could go on and on how we all need our husbands and are so thankful they are in our life. Oh yeah, when I woke up over a month ago and could hardly walk or see, Ken rushed me to the ER, sat with me in the ICU and made sure they weren't giving me antibiotics, shots to prevent clotting and other things I didn't need. We all value our husbands very much and appreciate the strength and leadership they have provided in our lives.

It is a lie that the SMARTEST thing women can learn is to NEVER need a man. The smartest thing a woman can learn is that God is their provider, protector and they can trust Him no matter where they are in life but for the majority of women who will one day be married and have a family, His provision and protection for them will be their husband.

Next time you see a post like the one above being spread around Facebook, make sure it is in agreement with Scripture. Don't just "like" it thinking it sounds good. God created marriage and it is good. We compliment each other and fill different needs for each other. Men need a woman to meet their sexual needs, provide a warm home, give them children and care for them if the Lord blesses them, fix good meals, and encourage them.

The bottom line is that God, our Creator, created marriage and He said it is good. We must always remember that our marriage reflects Christ and the church. We are the bride, the church and we NEED Christ! Since most women will get married, instead of acting like they don't need their husband, we must be appreciative and thankful for what our husbands add to our lives and treasure them as the church treasures Christ. 

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, 
and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Ephesians 5:31

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I am so glad I have a man in my life. He supports me where it would be uncomfortable for others to do so. He loves me, cares for me, and adores me. I would never trade it for not needing a man. If you don't need a man and besides from what God's wonderful plan is for us, you will never know what you have missed out on. I need a man and have a wonderful man because God showed me the way how to be a true help meet. I am blessed with needing a man.

Thank you for this wonderful post, Lori.
1 reply · active 489 weeks ago
Like a lot!
My first thought when I read the title, before I read the post, was "I don't need 'a' man. I need 'the' man that God provided for me."

There are plenty of women who can "get by" without a man. And they can feel very fulfilled. There are plenty of women whose husbands have passed on, or were called to a single celibate life, etc. who live perfectly wonderful lives without the a man. But if God calls you to marriage and gives you a man, you NEED him! You need that man in your life. Otherwise you're just "getting by".
1 reply · active 489 weeks ago
To me, "need" means that you can't get by without a man. I don't think that's true for most people. I think men are wonderful, and my life would be infinitely worse without my male neighbors, church friends, father-in-law and especially my husband. But in my mind calling that a "need" means that I literally could not survive without him. I guess it's important to specify what I need him for. Do I need him in order to be married to him? Of course. Do I need him to fulfill the calling given to me by The Lord? Absolutely. But do I need him just to "get by?" I'd say no to that, and that's how I interpreted the image. Maybe I'm just being too nit-picky about words.
1 reply · active 489 weeks ago
Sentiments like this make me sick. I'm so thankful to be off Facebook as I avoid silly photos like this one.
Of course we need men! Our whole civilization would be lost without men. Men build our infrastructure. I think feminists conveniently forget these facts. I'm thankful for the men who keep our world running, by the grace of God.
2 replies · active 489 weeks ago
I would be lost without my man! Even my little men are super helpful! My oldest son killed a cricket that was in our living room, just last week! Haha!! I love my boys!
1 reply · active 489 weeks ago
I need my husband and my husband needs me. We are a team. I love having him to fix things around the house and kill the spiders (yuck!) and he loves having me to cook for him and clean the house and care for our babies. God created a beautiful thing in marriage and it's sad that today's society makes marriage sound like such a negative thing.
1 reply · active 489 weeks ago
I couldn't imagine my life without my husband, I pray that my daughter gets a good man like her daddy. I want my daughter to want to have a husband, being without a man would be so lonely.
1 reply · active 489 weeks ago
This mantra is modeled after the first man that was never needed…God…by the first woman that was told the very same lie, and acted on it. That seed of discontent has always been out there, just in various stages of fertilization. And the feminist fertilization is hot and heavy in these times.
1 reply · active 489 weeks ago
It is definitely wrong headed thinking that a woman never needs a man and it creates the lie that somehow one should consider going through life without at least seeking the Lord's will on the matter. Certainly some may be blessed abundantly being single all of their lives, but even as a single they should be surrounding themselves with great friends and family. Man and woman were not intended to be alone, so God gave the opposite sex to be the one they could bond with for life. The natural order of things is marriage and it should be aspired to by most Believers. Some are called to a higher purpose in remaining single so that they can minister more effectively for the Lord.

Marriage is a model for the church, where we all "need" each other. To say I do not need a man is to say one does not need others in general, and in the body of Christ we must be one with others as they fill in our weaknesses and help us to grow up into Christ Jesus.

You bet I need my woman... as my life could not be so full or rich without her and the gifts and grace she brings to me.
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Lady Virtue · 489 weeks ago

Great post today, Lori! I knew the Lord before marrying, thank God, but life without my husband was very lonely and scary. These women who are always bleating about how strong and independent they are truly are not; it's just feminist pride.
1 reply · active 489 weeks ago
Anytime I have needed help with my house: fence repair, roof, plumbing problem, water damage, paint, carpet, countertops, a troop of men have shown up to help. Not once has a woman come by. So yes I know I need men! And of course I need my very own man.
1 reply · active 489 weeks ago
I need my man. And I am very grateful for him. But my sister is 32 this month and is still single; she has never married. It's not that she doesn't want to, it's just that she hasn't found a man she wants to marry. She has a great career, owns her own home and is generally happy, strong and independent, but she has told me more than once that she yearns for a man to share her life with.
My mantra used to be that "the only thing men are good for is opening the jam" - I believed I could do everything a man can do, and I got a truck licence and a job driving a big truck to prove it. I no longer drive trucks, and even though I drove for a living, my husband is a much better driver than me. Even though I can do pretty much everything a man can do, I love it when my husband does it for me. I can split wood, but my husband can do it twice as fast. I can change the tyre on the car, but my husband can do it much quicker. I can build and do manly things, but I'm so glad I don't have to - my husband is much better at it than I am, and he enjoys doing those things for me.
I am so glad my attitude towards men is different now - I agree with you Lori - we need men!
We need each other - I need my husband for lots of jobs and he needs me equally :)
Great post! We do need good men in our lives. Thanks for this post, Lori!
If you look at the living proof of women who subscribe to this mantra it is sad. We are told to test things and examine the fruit. At the end of a woman's life that has chosen career over husband and children all I can see is: harshness, loneliness and bitterness. In my view, these are not a good return on a woman's life.
I definitely don't agree with the feminist movement but I would like to address a "just in case" scenario regarding education and needing to provide.
I struggle with where to point my girls for school. My goal for them has never been that they would grow up and be successful in college or career but that they would be Godly women wherever they were led to be. I didn't finish college and have no degree in anything but I find myself in a position that may require me to work. My husband has a kidney disease that will end up in dialysis or a transplant and when that time comes he won't be able to work - and me working a minimum wage job won't support us. I have looked into school for me but with 5 daughters and homeschooling it isn't something I feel I could handle well. So my thought process has started to lean toward encouraging them to work toward a job they could do from home or working on weekends for the "just in case" incidents. I know the Lord can provide, we have seen it so many times, so maybe this is just fear.

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