If you want to get married, you need a man. If you want to have children, you need a man. If you want to have a father for your children, you need a man. If you want to be a keeper at home, you need a man. If you want to be provided for without having a career so you can spend your days raising godly offspring, you need a man. If you want a relationship that is a model of Christ and His church, you need a man. If you want a relationship until death do you part, you need a man.
To teach women they never need a man is the feminist's agenda, women; make women believe they don't need a man and can live perfectly great lives without them; encourage them to get as much education as possible and a career so they can provide for themselves "just in case." Everything this culture is teaching women is completely contrary to God's Word since God created marriage, created men to need a help meet and women to need a provider and protector.
Most women need a man, if they admitted this truth. They need protection and provision for them. God created men to be the providers and protectors. They are much stronger than women. They are the ones who fight our enemies, build freeways and bridges, homes, cars, airplanes, etc. They can also lift much heavier things than the average woman.
One day, Emily, my daughter-in-law, told me there was a dead rat in her bathroom drain and of course, she immediately called Steven and he took care of it. {She texted me and told me she is SO happy there is a boy in her home!} If she sees something she loves on Pinterest, Steven is the one who builds it for her. If I have ever heard something in the middle of the night, it is the Ken who goes and checks it out. When one of my children were badly hurt, Ken would be the one who took care of them since I couldn't bear seeing blood and deep cuts. When Cassi's shoulder went out of her socket, she immediately called Ryan to come and help her. When Alyssa wanted crown molding around her family room ceiling, Jon is the one who did it, along with putting wood floors in and many other things around their home. Ryan installed a new stove top and garbage disposal for his and Erin's home. I could go on and on how we all need our husbands and are so thankful they are in our life. Oh yeah, when I woke up over a month ago and could hardly walk or see, Ken rushed me to the ER, sat with me in the ICU and made sure they weren't giving me antibiotics, shots to prevent clotting and other things I didn't need. We all value our husbands very much and appreciate the strength and leadership they have provided in our lives.
It is a lie that the SMARTEST thing women can learn is to NEVER need a man. The smartest thing a woman can learn is that God is their provider, protector and they can trust Him no matter where they are in life but for the majority of women who will one day be married and have a family, His provision and protection for them will be their husband.
Next time you see a post like the one above being spread around Facebook, make sure it is in agreement with Scripture. Don't just "like" it thinking it sounds good. God created marriage and it is good. We compliment each other and fill different needs for each other. Men need a woman to meet their sexual needs, provide a warm home, give them children and care for them if the Lord blesses them, fix good meals, and encourage them.
The bottom line is that God, our Creator, created marriage and He said it is good. We must always remember that our marriage reflects Christ and the church. We are the bride, the church and we NEED Christ! Since most women will get married, instead of acting like they don't need their husband, we must be appreciative and thankful for what our husbands add to our lives and treasure them as the church treasures Christ.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother,
and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Ephesians 5:31
Talita · 489 weeks ago
Thank you for this wonderful post, Lori.
elspethbreathinggrace 46p · 489 weeks ago
Nada · 489 weeks ago
There are plenty of women who can "get by" without a man. And they can feel very fulfilled. There are plenty of women whose husbands have passed on, or were called to a single celibate life, etc. who live perfectly wonderful lives without the a man. But if God calls you to marriage and gives you a man, you NEED him! You need that man in your life. Otherwise you're just "getting by".
Taylor · 489 weeks ago
wordsofgoldblog 11p · 489 weeks ago
Of course we need men! Our whole civilization would be lost without men. Men build our infrastructure. I think feminists conveniently forget these facts. I'm thankful for the men who keep our world running, by the grace of God.
mvstephenson 44p · 489 weeks ago
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Ken · 489 weeks ago
Marriage is a model for the church, where we all "need" each other. To say I do not need a man is to say one does not need others in general, and in the body of Christ we must be one with others as they fill in our weaknesses and help us to grow up into Christ Jesus.
You bet I need my woman... as my life could not be so full or rich without her and the gifts and grace she brings to me.
Lady Virtue · 489 weeks ago
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Guest · 489 weeks ago
My mantra used to be that "the only thing men are good for is opening the jam" - I believed I could do everything a man can do, and I got a truck licence and a job driving a big truck to prove it. I no longer drive trucks, and even though I drove for a living, my husband is a much better driver than me. Even though I can do pretty much everything a man can do, I love it when my husband does it for me. I can split wood, but my husband can do it twice as fast. I can change the tyre on the car, but my husband can do it much quicker. I can build and do manly things, but I'm so glad I don't have to - my husband is much better at it than I am, and he enjoys doing those things for me.
I am so glad my attitude towards men is different now - I agree with you Lori - we need men!
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Lindsey · 489 weeks ago
I struggle with where to point my girls for school. My goal for them has never been that they would grow up and be successful in college or career but that they would be Godly women wherever they were led to be. I didn't finish college and have no degree in anything but I find myself in a position that may require me to work. My husband has a kidney disease that will end up in dialysis or a transplant and when that time comes he won't be able to work - and me working a minimum wage job won't support us. I have looked into school for me but with 5 daughters and homeschooling it isn't something I feel I could handle well. So my thought process has started to lean toward encouraging them to work toward a job they could do from home or working on weekends for the "just in case" incidents. I know the Lord can provide, we have seen it so many times, so maybe this is just fear.