God's Gift to Man ~ Chapter One

When we look at God's original design for women, we have to look way back to creation. He made man in His own image and then decided that it was not good for man to live alone so God decided to make a help meet for him. Therefore, he took a rib from Adam and formed a woman and everything God created He proclaimed was good.  Woman's original design by God was to be a help meet to her husband. Debi wrote this sentence in her first chapter, "If you are a wife, you were created to fill a need, and in that capacity you are a 'good thing,' a helper suited to the needs of a man. This is how God created you and it is your purpose for existing."*

As you might expect, women were up in arms about this statement! God, the Creator of everything, said clearly in His Word that in the beginning He created woman for the purpose of being her husband's help meet. If you want to argue about it, you are going to have to take it up with Him! For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man {1 Corinthians 11:8-9}. Did you read that correctly? Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man! Debi's whole book is built upon this fact; Created to be His Help Meet. 

By far the majority of women will marry and are called to be a help meet to their husband. If you are married, you are God's gift to your husband! Men need a wife. They need a wife to take care of the details of running a home, bearing and raising children and meeting their sexual needs. This is a fact; no matter how much feminism wants to water it down. Most godly women who aren't married, desire more than anything to be married; it's a God-given and good desire. {Remember, this book was written to married women. Single, widowed and divorced women can learn a lot from it, share it with other women and use it to prepare for a possible future marriage.}

Since you were created to be your husband's help meet, you have been given a very special ministry. When you honor your husband, you honor God. When you obey your husband, you obey God. The degree to which you reverence your husband is the degree to which you reverence your Creator. As we serve our husbands, we serve God.* Therefore, as we fill our role as a help meet to our husbands, we are fulfilling our role to the Lord! {Wow! Isn't our Lord creative in His plan for us!}

Your excellence as a help meet to him may very well be God's plan for improving his leadership role in the family.* Wives do have a powerful influence on their husband; they can be women who build them up and encourage them or they can be women who complain, criticize and tries to dominate their husbands. Women who build up their husbands are a gift and a crown to them while those who are controlling and manipulating are a thorn in their flesh and rottenness in their bones. A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that makes ashamed is as rottenness in his bones {Proverbs 12:4}. Which wife are you? Do you make your husband's life better or worse?

It is our job to learn how we can help our husbands in every way possible.* Would your husband say you are his help meet? Do you try to make his life easier or more difficult?After reading the first chapter of this book many years ago, I ran up to Ken and asked him how I could please him. He almost fell off his chair! The Lord had clearly convicted me that this is what I was created to do. NO! This never offended me. I take great pleasure in the role that the Good Lord has given me. Do you?

Your homework this week is to ask your husband how you can make his 
life easier and how you can please him. 

***Please feel free to write quotes from the first chapter that touched you in the comment section or questions and insights you may have!

*Quotes taken from the book.