Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Admire His Masculinity

The second secret to having a husband that adores you is to admire his masculine qualities.  I have to admit that I am not very good at this but it is never too late to change. {I write this blog for me as much as I do for you.}

A husband's greatest need is to be admired.  In Genesis 3:16, God told Eve that "he {the husband} shall rule over you."  A man wants to be the leader.  God designed him that way.  This is why women are to be in submission and the man is the head of the home.

This is a good thing.  This strong, God-given pride is what drives men to want to lead, and to protect, and to provide for women.  When we try to manipulate and control them, they erect an invisible wall around themselves to protect themselves.

On Page 48 of The Secrets Of Fascinating Womanhood, she gives a list of ways women hurt men and their pride.  Some of them are ~

Sharp or angry tone

Compare him to other men

Criticize his weaknesses

Pouring cold water on his ideas

Giving him advice when not asked

Reminding him how you struggle on his income

Not praising him when he does something well

Only long term acceptance and admiration will restore him to normal.  So praise and admire him...his muscles, his strength, how hard he works, what a good provider he is, etc.

I use to think if I praised Ken, he would get a big head.  I thought his ego was big enough already.  But I was the person he wanted praise from the most.  The world beats our husbands down.  Just by accepting him as he is has gone a long way to building up his ego and happiness!

Finally, learn to be sincere as you build him up with words.  He will know when you don't mean what you are saying.

Let the wife see that she respects her husband. 
Ephesians 5:33

Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.