Always Learning: My Husband, My Hero

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

My Husband, My Hero

This blog has been a blessing to me. After so many years of being sick, I asked the Lord to show me how He wanted to use me. I love mentoring and teaching people God's ways. This has been a wonderful way to do that.

I have received comments from people who disagree with me and that is okay. I don't expect everyone to agree with me. I like to hear other people's opinions, however, there is a line that can be crossed...

Yesterday, when we got home from seeing my dad in the hospital, I checked my blog and saw eight mean-spirited, hateful comments on Teach Kids To Hate Evil. I researched it and found they were coming from this website who took out one sentence and posted it. I ran up to Ken and asked him what to do. He said to delete them. Shortly after, the person who put that comment on the other site, wrote that everyone must comment "nicely" so they could convince us naive ones that spanking is bad.

I allowed civil discourse on the post but no name calling. Ken just got home from a trip and was exhausted, but he stayed up late commenting and trying to reason with these people. He rarely comments on my blog, but he was fighting my battle for me...Whenever I get some disagreeable comments, he helps me. He is so good!

Whenever anybody needs anything, they ask him because they know he will do it. He is a giver of his time, money, and talents. He is a wonderful father, husband, and provider. I feel protected underneath him. I like that feeling.

When I was in bed last night, thinking about him fighting this battle for me, I wept. God is so good to have given me a husband like him. I am so happy that I am a good wife to him now. He deserves that. He tells everyone what a fabulous wife I am. I had to earn that title. I am so happy I know how to be a good wife now. Life is so rich with a good marriage...Oh, the sweet ways of Jesus!

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. I Peter 3:7

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FABBY · 708 weeks ago

How wonderful it is to have a good and kind husband, one can feel very protected, I know what you mean, as I do too. How sad there are people like the ones from the comments, don't pay attention and offer your suffering to God. It happened to me with someone who wrote me something mean on my 4th. of July tablescape because I used the flag as a tabletopper...just used it for the fantasy of the pic, not to actually eat from it! She never said who it was, well. You just do the right thing for you and God and that's it! Have a nice week. Hope your father feels better soon. FABBY

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Lori Alexander 122p · 708 weeks ago

I guess some people don't have anything better to do with their lives than criticize flags??? It seems ridiculous to me. Thank you for your kind comments.

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Mrs. T · 708 weeks ago

Hello! I just found your blog this morning. I have not read your "controversial" post, but it is your site, your right to post what is on your heart. I had a different blog long before I have my present one and learned a lot of things . One that my own husband has a great urge to defend me!

There is an excellent series on blogging to be found on the Far Above Rubies blog. You'll find the link at the bottom of my side bar under "Good Posts by Other Bloggers". The best way to deal with trolls and troublemakers is to completely ignore them. The post on trolls explains it far better than I can.

I hope this helps! ☺

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Lori Alexander 122p · 708 weeks ago

I did read it. Thank you so much. I guess it just comes with the territory of blogging!

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BethAnn · 708 weeks ago

I subscribe to your blog and look forward to your Godly message. I don't always agree, but I still thank God for your blog and your message. I am just coming back to God after a... ahem, hiatus... and I thank Him often for bringing his word into my life through blogs such as yours. I also thank Him for bringing a good, honest and hardworking, prayerful, God-fearing man into my life who protects and supports me. Praise Him and thnak you for what you do!

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Lori Alexander 122p · 708 weeks ago

You are welcome and thank you so much for your kind words. I am happy that you have such a wonderful man in your life also!

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tzdelar 4p · 708 weeks ago

I defended the Pearls ministry about 2 wks ago I guess it was and had 3 ladies spout their nasties at ME because they believed the Pearls teach abuse. I only let that junk go so far and then I took down the comment thread. I had one lady comment out of the blue about me taking down her comment about the "crazy child abuser Pearls". I publicly told her I'm okay with disagreeing but not with harassment and I left THAT comment up. She never retorted back and its there for all to see.

Some people are just flat out ugly and nasty. And I'm expecting my review on the Pearls books To Train Up a Child & Created to be His Help Meet may bring the mean people back ;(

Thats great your husband stood in the gap for you :)

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Lori Alexander 122p · 708 weeks ago

I would love to read you reviews on the Pearl's books. Where can I find them?

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tzdelar 4p · 708 weeks ago

I haven't done them yet, just posted a review though on the book As America Has Done to Israel (very good research on correlating national attitudes/actions for and against Israel and the national disasters that soon followed).

Soon I should have my Pearl reviews up - they'll be at my blog http://www.halloffamemoms.com

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Ken · 708 weeks ago

Thanks doll for the fun post about me :).

It is easy to defend the wife of my dreams, especially when she is having such a fabulous ministry speaking what God has placed on her heart. I love who God has made you and love our New Life in Christ together. May our heavenly Father continue to bless us both and may we always be found faithful in His love and service. Thanks for your commitment to "Always Learning" what Jesus wants to teach you.

With all my love, Happy Birthday! ken

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Gen · 708 weeks ago

Gotta love that man of yours! Just loved his comment. He is a wise advisor. Your comments on this issue were "Biblical" and how can you argue with That! I am so sorry for your hurt. I stand with you! Please keep those wonderful posts coming so that we may contunued to be blessed.

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Lori Alexander 122p · 708 weeks ago

Thank you so much for your kind words. I really appreciate them.

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alicia · 708 weeks ago

Such a sweet, tender post. Sorry about your mean spirited comments. I'm learning to let them go, having just received several recent ones myself. But thank you for reminding me what marriage is all about. Happy WW! Thanks for the visit!

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Carolyn · 708 weeks ago

Awww, I'm so sorry about those mean-spirited comments. Everyone has they own right to what they believe and do, and just because someone disagrees, doesn't mean its wrong. Those words can have more of an impact to us than we think. Thank the Lord you have such a wonderful husband who will help with that burden--just as God sent his son to carry it as well! God bless you! Stay Strong!!
~Carolyn

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Sarah · 708 weeks ago

I am so sorry. So glad that your man backed you up.

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Karen · 708 weeks ago

You have a very special blessing there in your hubby.
I am now very curious and am looking forward to reading your "controversial" post. Probably won't be tonight as it is past midnight and I still have to go check out lots of Wordless Wednesday post that linked up. I have parts of the a couple of the Pearl's books. I don't agree with everything, but I don't think they teach abuse.
Thanks for linking up to Tots and Me, glad to have found your blog.

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Rhonnie · 708 weeks ago

I read that post, and either posted somewhere, or declined. My mouth usually gets me into trouble. But it was good. I agree with most of it, though not the Pavlov concept. It works, but I've found more effective ways.
I've studied a lot of things, and have looked into many of those comments and 'suggestions' that were posted. All of those books and theories I've put to the side, though. It seems that the best textbook that I've found on childcare is the old standby - God's Word. Yeah, my kids had a swat on the backside once in a while. But it didn't destroy them emotionally, and they've all come back to tell me that I did the right thing. I got swats, and I'm alright. A little strange (not because of that), but alright. As for a lower i.q. (I red that in one of those posts, didn't I?) it's still a lot higher than it needs to be, as well as those of my children (there was one valedictorian. The rest were bored with it). I'm still autistic, but it hasn't stopped me with what I do. And there's not a thing that I hold against my parents. They are who they are, and I was blessed to have them.
That husband of yours is a keeper. Wow.
Thank you for the blogs.
God bless,
~Rhonnie

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Rhonnie · 708 weeks ago

Please excuse the spelling. I said there was a high i.q. But it sure doesn't show after several hours of classes after working all day. lol

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playingwithmyfood 1p · 708 weeks ago

I just discovered your blog tonight via Good Morning Girls - I'm certain it was the Holy Spirit's guidance as I was just telling another mom yesterday evening that I was so in need of a Titus woman in my life. I love my church but there does not appear to be many women who have the leading to be mentors to younger wives. Maybe its because I don't really "count" as a younger wife. I'm going to be 49 in less than a month but I have 3 young boys (6, 8 12) who I'm raising, through God's grace, to follow closely in His steps. Sometimes I feel so inept. It's encouraging to read another woman's positive perspective on leaning on the Lord. I'm married to a wonderful man who is going through a difficult time and states that he has lost his faith. I will be following your blog as well as hopefully interacting with other women through Good Morning Girls for encouragement and teaching.
I'm so glad that God has given you a heart and desire to be a support to others. God bless you.

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NYCSingleMom · 708 weeks ago

lovely post, thanks for stopping by http://www.nycsinglemom.com/2011/08/31/flower-lon...

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Sandi · 708 weeks ago

Good morning Lori,
Wonderful post! I am visiting from Trish's LACE. I too have a husband who stands by me and takes care of things when I cannot. He is a true blessing. I also have been sick and found blogging to be very theraputic. I don't share about my MD disorder because I choose to dwell on happier things and I am better than I was too so it is easier to do this. Every day I am thankful for God's grace in my life and the mate He has blessed me with. It's very nice to 'meet' you. Have a lovely day.

Blessings,
Sandi

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evelyncox 32p · 708 weeks ago

I'm so sorry to hear you received hateful messages...I'm so impressed with how you handled it, however, and hope and pray that things continue looking upward! You're doing a great job with this blog.

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Lily-Rose Cottage · 708 weeks ago

Hi Lori,
I'm sorry to hear you've been receiving nasty comments!
God forgive them!
You are very blessed to have a wonderful supportive husband.
Your testimony is proof that God redeems not only individuals, but shaky marriages too!
Praise His Name!
Thanks for linking to LACE, my friend.
btw..can you fix the link you put up for me please - it actually links people up to Create with Joy and not my Lily-Rose Cottage.
Thanks again and God bless :-)
Trish

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Penny · 708 weeks ago

I just came across your blog from Amys Finer Things. I am sorry people are so mean-spirited. I am thankful that you have your husband to defend you. Sometimes it is hard to stand up for what you believe, but hang in there, we need more Godly women (and men) willing to take a stand.

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Nell · 708 weeks ago

Bless your heart, Lori... I'm so sorry you went through all that on your blog. Makes me so sad that people would speak to you the way I read on some of your comments. Keep speaking the truth, girl, and thank you for the example of praise of your husband. I've only been married 10 years and I am so encouraged when I see a marriage that has lasted this long and the people STILL like each other! Bless you!! :)

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