Always Learning: Would You Call Your Marriage AWESOME?

Monday, October 27, 2014

Would You Call Your Marriage AWESOME?

There is an article that is titled 18 Reasons Why Being Married is AWESOME. I sent it to my children and Emily wrote back this to me, "I showed Steven the list and he said 'I'll give you 100 reasons!'" {Steven is loving being married to Emily!}

I love this article. I wish everyone thought marriage was awesome. Sadly, I don't believe the majority of couples would use this word to describe their marriage. Would you call your marriage awesome?

"You have someone to have sex with forever! Yay!" I am not sure a lot of husbands agree with this. Well, they probably get sex once in a while when their wife feels like it but not nearly as often as they would like. It is usually on the wife's timetable, not on his. {I realize that sometimes it is the wife who wants intimacy more but her husband withholds it from her. This is just as sinful as a wife withholding it according to God.}

"You get to spend every day with your best friend. AND have the most fun sleep over party every night." I seriously doubt a lot of couples feel that their spouse is their best friend. Best friends accept each other just the way that they are and don't try to change them. They listen to each other and want the best for each other. They love being together!

"You have someone who actually believes in you and wants to motivate you." Do you believe in your husband? Do you speak words of affirmation and encouragement to him? Do you tell him you love and admire him for who he is and not what you wish he were?

All Christian marriages should be awesome. What a huge testimony to the power of the Gospel in our lives this would be to a dark and decaying world. We shouldn't look or act like the world. We have the power of the risen Christ living within us. Christian marriages are to model Christ and the church!

Work on making your marriage awesome as far as it depends upon you. Become a godly, submissive help meet to your husband. Put on the full armor of the Lord daily so you can fight the darts the enemy sends your way in trying to destroy your marriage with unforgiveness and bitterness. Don't fight and quarrel, nag or manipulate. These are not habits friends and lovers should have towards each other. Become a wife where your children and husband praise you!

Her children arise up, and call her blessed;

her husband also, and he praiseth her.

Proverbs 31:28

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mvstephenson 44p · 543 weeks ago

I love being married!! Marriage is awesome!!

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Lori Alexander 122p · 543 weeks ago

Yay!

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Cynthia · 543 weeks ago

My husband and I would say that marriage is awesome - although we'd give some different reasons.

The best friend part is huge for us. It's amazing to have someone that you can always talk with, who makes you laugh, who has your back and is always there to support you.

Unconditional love is a biggie too.

Building a home and family together. We aren't just roommates and lovers. We had a vision of the sort of home we wanted to create - a place where we would put our faith into action, a place where we'd have our door open to family and friends and guests, a home filled with peace.

Raising a family together. It's awesome to be with someone else who is as crazy about the kids as I am. It's even more awesome to be surrounded by so much love, and to have a home that I consider to be an oasis of love and peace.

Having a bedrock of support through the toughest times. We've through some tough stuff, and the silver lining was always knowing the rock-solid love and support we had for each other.

Those are the big things. I can squish a spider on my own.

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Lori Alexander 122p · 543 weeks ago

Raising a family together is AWESOME, Cynthia! My children always have a place to come visit called home. We love watching them walk in Truth and find so much joy in them. We were all together this weekend for my niece's wedding and it was like a big party at my home. They all love each other and enjoy each other so much. We are blessed!

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Stephanie · 543 weeks ago

It makes me really sad that most of the marriages you see aren't like what the article describes. My husband is my best friend, we laugh and joke all the time, we both thoroughly enjoy our intimate life, and we work hard together and cooperate. Life on earth is too short not to enjoy an awesome marriage!

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Lori Alexander 122p · 543 weeks ago

That's wonderful, Stephanie. Growing up, I saw very few great marriages modeled to me. In my life, I see many more happy marriages. All of my children are very happily married, so are my sisters and many of my friends. I just mentor SO many women who are in unhappy marriages. This is why I am exposed to so many bad ones.

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kaygarland 20p · 543 weeks ago

My marriage has always been awesome, from the start and through the years.

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Lori Alexander 122p · 543 weeks ago

Wow, Susan. That is wonderful. Were you modeled it by your parents or were you mentored? Also, I find those with golden retriever personalities simply have great marriages because they love peace so much better than conflict and except each other as they are.

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jackietigerfrench 6p · 543 weeks ago

I would call my marriage awesome. I also call my husband my best friend (he calls me his as well), my partner, my cheerleader, my everything. We've never tried to change each other, we accept and love each other as we are in this moment.

This is a fun article. I wished #9 was true though, in my experience there are a lot of people who don't respect the ring.

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Lori Alexander 122p · 543 weeks ago

I guess I didn't say anything about #9 is because we shouldn't be hanging out with bars any ways, especially without our husbands! You are right, however. People don't respect the ring anymore since they aren't vow keepers.

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jackietigerfrench 6p · 543 weeks ago

I never hang out at bars...I've had trouble at a laundry mat doing my family's laundry (while 5 months pregnant with our 3rd child) and at a Sam's club. Makes me extra cautious/nervous when I'm out by myself.

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Lindsay Harold · 543 weeks ago

My marriage is awesome! I love being married. Every bit of it. My husband is my best friend. We're a great team. I enjoy raising a family together, having someone to be there for me and someone to be there for, making decisions together, having sex together, sharing hopes and dreams, having someone who is my biggest fan. It's all great.

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Lori Alexander 122p · 543 weeks ago

I can tell you have a great marriage from your comments, Lindsay. I sure wish I had half of the wisdom some of you godly young women have when I was younger!

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Nancy · 543 weeks ago

I want to have an awesome marriage but I am struggling with how to balance my time between God, my husband, and 3 very young kids. I was inspired by Laine's letter where she said she woke up at 4 to spend time with God, so for the past few days I have been getting up at 5/5:30 to spend time with God (a big feat for me), be a Proverbs 31 woman and get breakfast ready, and hopefully exercise to take care of my health. It worked fine except that in the evenings I am absolutely exhausted and look forward to going to bed early so I have energy to do it again the next day. Now my husband wants to spend time with me in the evenings, and I have nothing left for him but I make the sacrifice and do whatever he wants. Inwardly though, I am feeling resentful that there is not enough of me to go around and everybody wants a piece of me. I resent that I can't go to bed as early as I need to because of the time I need to spend with my husband. He does not think it is necessary for me to get up so early to do my quiet time because he does not read the Bible or pray (even though he is a believer). There is no other time during the day I can do my quiet time. Plus, I'm supposed to tithe the firstfruits of my time. I think my husband somewhat resents my dedication of time to God and I resent him for taking up the precious little time I have when the kids are asleep. Do you have any advice you can give me Lori?

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Lori Alexander 122p · 543 weeks ago

I just asked the Joy Filled Wife to write on this very topic! She has young children, helps her husband in his business, and has a great marriage so I asked her awhile ago to write about this and she just sent it to me. I will get it into a post soon and publish it. In the meantime, your husband is your priority. If you are too tired from getting up early and spending time with the Lord, sleep in longer so you can enjoy your husband in the evening. I believe the Lord has grace upon women with small children and the little time they have to spend with Him. We all don't need to be like Laine. I require a lot of sleep and couldn't get up early and stay up later. Have a Bible near your toilet, on your kitchen table, and anywhere else you spend some time {next to the chair where you nurse your baby if you are nursing}. Listen to praise music in the car or while you do housework. I always made my children have 2 hours of quiet time in their rooms after lunch. This is a good habit to get your children into as soon as they are old enough so you can rest and spend some time with the Lord. Put your husband and his needs first! You were created to be his help meet! Everything else will fall into place.

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thejoyfilledwife 62p · 543 weeks ago

Nancy,

Absolutely. God moves in grace and He says that His yoke is easy and His burden is light. Listening to sermons, playing praise music, being in continual prayer in your heart, reading for a minute or two in the restroom, during nap time, while nursing, etc. means that you will be in a constant state of fellowship with the Lord. There was a time when I used to get up hours early to do my quiet time. Now that my evenings have become later than normal and because I require a decent amount of sleep to function as normal (I'm an enthusiastic person so I use up a lot of mental and physical energy throughout the day) and I would become quite sick if I had to continuously go without enough sleep.

Even as productive as my schedule is (and my schedule is more packed than most women I know), I found a time in my daily schedule to do my devotions. Be on the lookout for my upcoming post. I hope it will offer some ideas from a mom and wife who can definitely relate!

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Cynthia · 543 weeks ago

Can you listen to audio versions of the Bible or inspirational talks while exercising?

I also found it helpful to make a master schedule, 24/7, with all of the child and household tasks written in. It really makes it clear where your time is going, and it also shows your husband what you do and why you are tired without saying anything.

Do schedule in time with your husband, just as you would schedule anything else. You can even see if there are things that you can do together - even doing dishes together or exercising together can be a way to catch up.

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Loving being Mrs. W · 543 weeks ago

Yes I would! I love my wonderful Hubby more than words can say and I am so blessed because he says the same about me, daily! Being married is like having a sleep over with your best friend; that lasts forever!!! I love being married to my best friend! God has blessed me so much!!

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Helen UK · 543 weeks ago

Hi Lori

I have been married 25 years this year and feel very blessed. My dear hubby has been away since Sunday night with work and he returns this evening, I can't wait to see him and greet him with a hug. He has phoned me of course and texts but it's not the same!. I have kept myself busy with some extra deep cleaning upstairs, work at church
and making bread and making and freezing meals!.
Blessings
Helen UK

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tnjcupido 0p · 543 weeks ago

This was so encouraging. I'm so blessed to have an awesome marriage. The more married couples I get to know the more I realise how special my marriage is. You're right not all marriages are awesome but it's the testimony of Christ in us that makes our marriage great. Thanks for sharing on Titus 2day. Jenny x

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adityasg7 23p · 542 weeks ago

I love to be with my wife. It is a perfect marriage. She is everything for me and I am not talking about sex only. Nice thought.

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Chris Thopson · 541 weeks ago

Great post on marriage! Please come join the link up at somuchathome.blogspot.com! I host a party each Wednesday. The link up parties last a whole week, so you can link up at any time. Feel free to link up as many posts as you'd like.
God bless.

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