Jill Duggar is an amazing young woman. When her family was sharing the qualities they loved about her, I was thinking that these are the qualities all of us should strive to attain. Josh said that he doesn't even remember Jill doing anything wrong, "She's like a little angel." The words that her family used to describe her are loving, delightful, sweet, energetic, bubbly, giver and fun. Michelle added, "Jill has really always had a servant's heart. She is very giving."
As women of God, we all need to be pursuing these character traits. We must put off the clothing of anger, bitterness, and resentment and clothe ourselves with gentleness, goodness, forgiveness, compassion, and serving others. It is good to have role models like Jill! If you have watched her show, you know that she has inherited these traits from her mother. Her mother always seems to be kind and loving. Since she has 19 children, you know she has a servant's heart. Not many women would be willing to give up their "freedom" to have that many children.
Do you know how much easier it is to have godly traits when you are raised by a godly mother? Many young men are married to rebellious wives. Their wives were never modeled gentleness and submission so they have no idea what it looks like or simply refuses to allow anyone else to "control" them. I know. It isn't easy for me but it doesn't mean I want to allow rebellion to rule me. No, I want the Lord to rule me and He commands that I be submissive to my husband.
Jill, undoubtedly, has a very easy time being submissive to her husband. She was modeled it by her mother and she has a gentle, submissive spirit. I don't sense any rebellion in her at all. She was never influenced by feminists thinking. She was homeschooled by her mother and didn't watch television to see the many rebellious women running around who claim being self-sufficient, independent and trying to be like men is a good thing.
Therefore, women, pursue godliness for there is great gain in this pursuit. Become women of the Word and doers of the Word. Love the Lord, your husband, and children. Be willing to have a servant's heart towards them. Jill, at a very young age, is a role model to older women like me!
Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another,
for God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.
I Peter 5:5
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Ken · 544 weeks ago
Recently we had a young man contact us to lament that he married a wife who went through all the pre-marital classes on how to have a great biblical marriage, including a loving husband and submissive wife, and early in marriage his wife is telling him she has no desire to be submissive. Perhaps he is being overly directive in his leadership style, we have no way of knowing, but our response to him is the same response we would give to a wife with a rebellious husband, that he must still do his part as a loving husband and accept his wife where she is at, until such time was the Lord changes her heart.
The prescription for the sin and rebellion of a spouse is to still play our role. Certainly abuse is not acceptable, nor to be tolerated, but the model of young Christian husbands who consistently misuse their God given leadership in an unloving way does not ring true. At least not to the degree you seem to have seen. Tell me what area of the country you are from and what church this is a part of. No legit church I know of allows young men such license to sin.
A Christian marriage is a choice. A women can choose not to marry, or not to enter into a Biblical marriage, but generally, most Christian women will lose out on God's best for their lives if they do not both marry and live in right relationship with God and His Word. Christ shines through our obedience. A woman can indeed shine Christ to the world through other endeavors and not just her marriage and family, but the percentage will be small who can get all of God's best from life without a husband and family.
There are not "many" paths for the woman of God that do not go straight through the domestic side of things. Before and after she has her family at home to focus upon, a women does have many opportunities to shine Christ outside of family. Let's keep priorities straight, especially God given priorities.
Lastly, I am not opposed to teaching young Christian wives that if your husband is seemingly unreasonable in his requests of you, or overly demanding, that they should get some wise counsel from an older godly women. Vulnerability is a good thing and vital in a marriage from both husband and wife. You seem to be advocating a protectionism model that goes contrary to both the BIble and the needs of an intimate marriage. At times it may be necessary, if a husband is proving to be dictatorial or overly demanding, but generally we men desire our women not to wear armor, and to be gentle of spirit willing to please us. We in turn as husbands should want to be the same, vulnerable, gentle and wanting to please our wife.
Desiree · 544 weeks ago