Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Are Women Inferior to Men?


Some may think that I dislike women and think they are inferior to men since I write so often about women's failings in marriage. No, I do not think women are in any way inferior or less important than men. I think their value to society is immense. I just feel their greatest value is in raising godly offspring to further God's kingdom.

I have been reading Betty Friedan, a founder of the feminist movement, and her follow up book to the Feminine Mystique called The Second Stage. She began the feminist movement because she said that women were bored and unhappy at home taking care of their husband, children and home. She believed the best way to remedy this situation was to take the womb out of the equation; allow women to have complete control over their womb through birth control and abortion. Women were slaves to their womb, she believed and could never have careers, if their womb controlled them.

Therefore, she pushed for birth control and abortion to be freely had by all women so they could go out into the world, free themselves from the shackles of home and children, and have a career. {Consider carefully ~ Do you think God had any part in this?} 

Twenty years later, she wrote this other book where she states all the harm done from the feminist movement. Women have full-time careers, children and a home to take care of, and no husband to help. Some women pursued careers instead of a family and when they were older, they were full of regrets and living lonely lives. Women were getting the same stress related diseases that men had, along with "emotional fatigue" and men were becoming impotent. She actually exposed me to SO many more negative consequences of the feminist movement than I even realized. She even attributes national unemployment and inflation to women leaving the home and getting careers.  She admits that the bridge that got stomped on on the way to women's "equality" was the family. This huge sacrifice was worth women being able to have careers??? 

I love women. They are the more emotional and nurturing part of society. They bring softness, gentleness and beauty into the world by the way they decorate their homes, arrange flowers, etc. They are MUCH better multi-taskers than men which is needed to raise children and keep a home. They birth babies and can raise them to further advance God's kingdom here on earth. God values women. He sent His Son to die for women just as much as for men. Jesus spoke to women who were the untouchables and showed love and mercy to them. He is the One who gave women dignity and worth, NOT the feminist movement.

The feminist movement was a big lie from the pit of hell. Women didn't need to control their womb for happiness. Are women today any happier then they were before the feminist movement? NO! Happiness comes from deciding to be happy, learning to be content in all circumstances, and finding our joy in the Lord wherever He places us. His place for most women is the home caring for their husband, children, and their home. Society was a much better and safer place when women were at home full-time with their children. Now, we have many children as latch-key kids, growing up without a father and being raised by single mothers, besides the millions of babies being slaughtered because they were inconvenient and in the way of a women's rights. This is freedom??? Controlling our womb, killing our babies and destroying our children's lives through single parenting and divorce??? {Consider again ~ Do you believe God actually had any part of this?}

Women, your greatest impact in society will be what you do for Christ. Bearing and raising godly offspring is a high honor from the Lord. If you can't have children, there are many others ways to have huge influences on other children; adoption, teaching, babysitting, etc. Women are good for children. Children need women in their lives, raising and nurturing them. God made us this way and it is good!

Here is God's job description for young women ~

I will therefore that the younger women marry,
 bear children, guide the house, 
give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
I Timothy 5:14

Here's His job description for older women ~

Well reported of for good works; if she has brought up children, if she has lodged strangers, if she has washed the saints' feet, if she has relieved the afflicted, if she has diligently followed every good work.
I Timothy 5:10

Titus 3:4 adds that older women are to teach younger women.

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Thank you for this post! So many women have been enslaved to the thinking that they can do anything a man can do. In the process many women end up doing much more than they should or is even healthy. In the process the children have suffered. So many absent parents, trying to run a home and work outside. We aren't inferior but we sure are different - God designed us this way!
1 reply · active 546 weeks ago
Last night I watched Ravi Zaccharias and his teaching on "The problem of pleasure" and one point he made was that our right to "pleasure" should never infringe on others right to life. He used The illustration of abortion to highlight this point. He drove home how woman would take away the right of a child to life via abortion as it would hamper their own pleasure in finding their goal or career in life. He goes on to say later he wonders how many "Calebs, Samuels,
Joshua's and David's" are killed before they have even had a chance to be the hands or voice of God in this world.
1 reply · active 546 weeks ago
Love this! It is all so true.

Lori, may I ask something? In my situation where the husband is loving, hardworking, smart, kind and patient - he is Christian and believes the Bible to be true. He is happy to look over our daughter's Sunday School lessons and devotionals and may comment from time to time in a way that supports God, and always takes us to church on Sundays. I love him dearly. He works such long hours, especially now during harvest. I am so grateful for him, and I love being at home with our daughter. However, we do not really pray or read God's word all together as a family. I have mentioned it to him, and he always agrees it is something that should be done, but it never seems to happen. There are many days where he works from dawn until late at night, and so I do have Bible lessons with my daughter and teach her to pray. My husband loves that I do this. I am just a little worried that I may be overstepping my bounds as I always thought the husband and father should be the spiritual leader. On days where he is in earlier and has time, devotions and Bible time still aren't done. The only time he leads in prayer is before meals. If it is okay with him that I study the word and pray without him, is that acceptable with God? I know this is off topic and I apologize. But I know you give sound, Godly advice. I know in the Bible it talks about winning over your husband by example... But in my case he is already a believer and so I don't know how to handle this the best way. Thank you!
6 replies · active 546 weeks ago
That sounds wonderful! I will try that. He always jokes that I know the Bible better than him, but I know his example of a Godly life is honestly much better than mine. For one, I definately don't have the patience he does! I really need to give him more credit, and I will. I feel so much better... Thank you so much for the advice.
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Jennifer Dunn · 546 weeks ago

Very well said! Praise God for those women who follow after the Lord in being keepers of the home! You are such an encouragement to biblical womanhood! Thank you!
1 reply · active 546 weeks ago
Great post, Lori. Feminism is such a lie. I love that my husband and I are equal but different in our God given roles.
1 reply · active 546 weeks ago
I think that one of the reasons some feminists believe women should pursue careers is that they feel that they need to prove to the world, to men, that women are just as capable as men. This fact has been already established, though, when we look around us and see capable female doctors, prime ministers, etc. What feminists don't understand is that God did create us to be just as capable (sometimes more capable) than men, but with the purpose of us using that capability at home. So there is nothing that women have to "prove" to anyone. We have an audience of one- God.
1 reply · active 546 weeks ago
The bottom line is we must all embrace who we are as God has made us. Some tall, some not so tall; some strong, others no so strong; some funny, some humorous, some gifted in one area and others gifted in another. There is no one size fits all in God’s economy but there are specific roles He asks us to play in marriage and family. Doing what I am most gifted or called to do does not make me less of a person than President Obama, nor my wife inferior to me. For that matter the scriptures tell us to “esteem others better than oneself” (Phil. 2:3).

All men should value women just as they hopefully do their mothers, for without them we do not exist. I know how I would treat my mom if she were with us today. She was the best, and to her I owe who I am today and much of my life. You bet women are equal to men, but what they contribute is just different, and often something a man cannot give no matter how much he would like to, making babies. If only women would embrace that important role they play, and without it, society as we know it ceases, and certainly the Kingdom of God is diminished. God says be fruitful and multiply and as far as I know, that command was never abolished. Fulfilling it for the Believer is more important than probably any other thing we can do with our lives; husband and wife together raising the next generation of godly offspring for the Kingdom of God.

It is funny that what many liberal women fear is exactly this, that Christian women should not have too many children, because if they have 4 to the 2 of the liberal unbeliever, with a generation the believers will outnumber the unbelievers in our society. Who told us the lie that we as Christian couples get to decide how many children we will have? That is only true if we first have checked in with God and His Spirit on the subject, and allowed Him and His Word to form the basis of our decision making on the subject. The last I checked Lordship applies to every area of a believer's life. Why would God want us to exclude this most important area? The one thing almost every Christian couple can do to fulfill God’s great commands… be fruitful, and “go and make disciples.” Most Christians will birth more souls into the kingdom than we will win with evangelism. Sad perhaps, but so true. And besides, has anyone thought much about eternity lately and what that may look like with 4 children, or 2, or 6-8? How many do we want to spend eternity with? Now start multiplying the grandkids and the great grandkids. What joy that will be! Yet, Satan’s lies has us focused on this life, our 401K and certain passing pleasures.

Too bad Believers as we only have one life to live. Let’s get it right so at the end we have no regrets when our family, perhaps then grown to 22 or more, all sit around your hospital bed and sing “Great is Thy Faithfulness” to the Lord. For He was faithful in giving us His Word on the matter! Now will we be faithful in return and at least discuss with Him fully how many children He wants us to have?
2 replies · active 545 weeks ago
Quick question, Ken. I am all about having lots of children, and raising them to be arrows for God, but one nagging doubt is in the back of my mind. I sometimes wonder if one of my children (or future children) will not be part of the elect (which was predetermined at the beginning of time, regardless of whether I raise them to be godly). God doesn't promise that all believers' children are part of the elect. Some people are created to perish; He is the potter. So I worry that I might bring a child into this world that will not go to heaven, because he/she was created for wrath, even though I am doing my best to raise godly children. I know I should trust God on this, but I sometimes wonder about it.
2 replies · active 450 weeks ago
Thank you Ken! I really do appreciate your and Lori's ministry. On a side note, I forwarded your blog to a friend who is now considering quitting her job and being a full time mom after reading one of Lori's recent posts.
1 reply · active 546 weeks ago
Lori,
Lately I find myself in the category of a younger woman in need of some advice from an older, experienced lady, and I don't really have anybody in my life who fits that description. I'm 23 years old, and a career of any kind is completely out of the question for me after differing a head injury last year that left me with debilitating headaches several times a week. That's not a problem for me though; I was never career oriented, despite my mother pushing me in that direction since I can remember. Since then I've become a homemaker, and I'm doing alright at it although of course there's room for improvement. I read your blog as well as others to learn better ways to joyfully serve my husband and home. Having me here full time to look after the home front has done wonders for both our happiness, and might very well have saved our relationship as I was miserable working and we fought constantly.
Here's where my problem comes in though: my husband and I have absolutely no desire to have children. Neither of us have ever wanted them. I've never enjoyed being around them, and I feel like having them would do nothing but decrease both my quality of life and my husband's. Are we wrong for wanting to keep our family of two? What would you advise us to do in a situation like this?
3 replies · active 546 weeks ago
Lori, how do you respond to others' criticism of homemakers? Whenever I go to the doctor, the dentist or see family members, they all ask me why I don't work. It's so frustrating.
2 replies · active 546 weeks ago
I can sure relate to that. Even my own mother has a very feminist mindset and she constantly asks "why I haven't made anything of my life yet." I know my husband appreciates my efforts at home, but it gets awfully discouraging sometimes that society in general (and even my own family) seems to view me as a parasite. I wish they could see that living the way God intended isn't anything shameful or "less" than what they're doing.
1 reply · active 546 weeks ago
I'm a not yet married, male college student in Indonesia. And radical feminism start to infect my country (perhaps fueled by radical muslims). Their causes and actions are like in your country (incl. legalized abortion, gay rights, etc.)

Pray for other countries, esp. those who are still quite traditional, to resist this threat. And many receiving Jesus.

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