It's not easy being an older woman trying to teach young women in this day and age. Submission is a dirty word. Keepers at home doesn't really mean being at home. Modesty doesn't include bikinis since everyone wears bikinis and children should be able to rule the home. Firm discipline is a no-no.
I teach things so contrary to even Christian women. All of the excuses I mentioned above have been thrown at me by Christian women. If you want to be an older woman who teaches young women, you must develop a tough outer shell and be confident in what you teach. Many older women just don't feel they can do it. It's difficult but knowing I teach the Truth of God's unchanging Word, having Ken's support, along with my Mom and Dad and many others, helps tremendously!
Satan has so manipulated the word submission that it is barely recognizable today. Most Christian marriages don't want to say there is one leader in the home. Both spouses are the leader. Little do they realize that a submissive wife is a strong woman. It takes strength to give up your will and trust your husband to lead. It takes strength to honor and resepect his wishes knowing that when you obey your husband, you are obeying God.
Many older women have a difficult time teaching young women to be keepers at home since they have careers and are hardly ever home. God commands older women to teach young women and I know this is a ministry that is badly needed in our churches today. Yes, I realize some women have no choice but to work. I am addressing those older women who want to work so they can have more money and stuff, instead of ministering to the young women around them in any way they can.
Modesty means different things to different peoples and cultures. The best way to find out what modesty is is to ask a godly man his honest opinion. He will most likely tell you the more flesh, the more difficult it is to not lust. Bikinis are NOT modest.
Concerning children; no, parents are to rule the roost. When children rule, chaos reigns. It isn't easy to discipline your children but it is something that needs to be done.
If God commands that older women teach young women, it only makes sense that young women should have teachable hearts, willing to listen to older women who have good marriages and raised godly children. If you can't listen to them and trust their wisdom and experience, who can you listen to?
I just received this comment from a woman who I shared these thoughts with, "I agree, we need more women not repackaging the Word, as to not offend modern Christian women. Modern? God is timeless and His Word transcends the ages. Modern is an excuse to continue living from a position of "self," packaged as new and improved. How quickly we forget how appealing deception is; one of the empty promises of sin. Continue boldly speaking and teaching Truth. What a mighty ministry you have been entrusted to carry out. As Pastor Bob often reminds us, 'If the Truth is not acceptable to you, you are welcome to leave.'" ;-)
I just received this comment from a woman who I shared these thoughts with, "I agree, we need more women not repackaging the Word, as to not offend modern Christian women. Modern? God is timeless and His Word transcends the ages. Modern is an excuse to continue living from a position of "self," packaged as new and improved. How quickly we forget how appealing deception is; one of the empty promises of sin. Continue boldly speaking and teaching Truth. What a mighty ministry you have been entrusted to carry out. As Pastor Bob often reminds us, 'If the Truth is not acceptable to you, you are welcome to leave.'" ;-)
For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine;
but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers,
having itching ears.
2 Timothy 4:3
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2happy4 66p · 522 weeks ago
I have found a lot of women use the excuse that it worked for their parents so why should it not work for them. (Like both their parents worked outside of the home/they went to public school/they always wore whatever they wanted/their mother rarely cooked/etc.) and they turned out fine. What do you say to women who say these types of things?
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Katie · 522 weeks ago
I do have a question about teaching. My younger sister was recently married and expecting their first baby. We are so excited for them! She has noticed my being submissive and staying home with our daughter has been helping my marraige and has asked me questions... Is it okay to tell her what I know? I've been sharing with her things that have helped, and suggested she find an older woman to mentor her, and she is having difficulty with that too. Is it okay for a younger woman to help like this? I'm just trying to figure out if I'm overstepping my bounds. I did mention your blog and just lent her some books that helped me. She and her husband are believers, but new to the idea of submission, her being home to care for her family, etc. My husband wasn't sure how much is okay to teach her.
Thanks again for your hard work and dedication to doing what God has called you too!
Psalm1Wife 22p · 522 weeks ago
Thank you for this post. You are such an inspiration and role model to me. I have realized that with a growing and strengthening relationship with God, all motivations to be more worldly or to not acknowledge sin for what it is in an attempt at acceptance from others has slowly faded away. I used to be quick to agree for the sake of "being likable" but now, I have a firm and solid hold on God's Word. I am persuaded that it is 100% God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness. Had I not seen this modeled out so eloquently from you, I would have continued to struggle in this area because I have been so conditioned to strive to be likable by the world, instead of God. Thankfully, you are willing to stand firm even in the face of opposition and therefore, people like me, whom you've mentored, are also willing to do this! You are fountain of Truth. Love, Psalm1Wife
Terry Covey · 522 weeks ago
Thanks for being bold!
Katie · 522 weeks ago
But what does the picture you used have to do with this post? Random! :D
The bride IS gorgeous, though!!! And is that your son? He looks so much like Ken!
Alisha Jackson · 522 weeks ago
Diana · 522 weeks ago
One troubling thing that I have noticed consistently is the phenomenon of Christian women graduating their children and immediately jumping back into the workforce. Translation = These older women become completely unavailable to help or mentor the younger women (like me!) who desperately need and want their help and advice.
The church has only contributed to this massive problem by encouraging women to "stay home when they have children" - the inference being that if they don't have children, they don't need to bother staying home, because a women's only purpose in the home is to raise children. Other than that, their position as homemakers is considered useless and is certainly not honored. "If you don't have children, get a job!"
I believe that the church needs to return to honoring the position homemaker - whether or not a woman has children in the home or not. When women leave the home, younger wives and moms are left without mentorship and physical help, and ministry (to hurting individuals and families who need help) is neglected or completely ignored.
Thank you for your wise words. Keep it up!
Jennifer Dunn · 522 weeks ago
Ann · 522 weeks ago
Thanks always for blessing us with the Truth.
Linda VanDeusen · 521 weeks ago
God Bless.
Michelle · 484 weeks ago
I surrendered my life to Jesus On November of 2014, I used to be a per diem nurse but through reading God's word and His leading, I became a full time homemaker and it has been a blessing. I have been going to a " bible believing" church but I realized that most of the older women are working. When we first came there, the congregants welcome my family warmly. I wrote to an older woman in church about the importance of abiding to the Titus 2 for women. I am greatly disappointed that she has not responded and her close encounters in church including her mother gives me awkward looks. Sometimes, I feel so isolated. I love love your blog and I wish you live nearby...please advise on how to proceed..on whether I should stay in this church. I understand that there is no church that is perfect.