Monday, March 16, 2015

A Bright Home is a Happy Home


When I was growing up,  there was a girl down the street from me who I would play with sometimes. Her home was always very dark. Every single window was covered with heavy curtains. The parents both smoked. Jesus did not live in this home. It was NOT a happy place. No Light. No Jesus. He came to bring light into a very dark world. He is our true source of joy!

My mom, on the other hand, never closed any curtain! She still never even closes her shades when she sleeps. I grew up with all the windows in my home uncovered and opened if the weather was warm enough. As you can see from the picture above, we keep our windows uncovered also! The only time I have shades closed on any of my windows is in my bedroom at night, so my room will be dark. My home growing up, for the most part, was a bright and happy home. The Light of the world lived there: Jesus! 

I love the feel of sunshine. In fact, I wrote a whole post on The Power of Sunshine! The only problem with letting all the sunshine and brightness into your home is that it shows every dirty and dusty part of your home! {Reminds me how the light of Jesus exposes the deeds of the darkness; a topic for a future post.}

How do we keep our homes from getting dirty and dusty so the sun can shine in and we won't be ashamed of it? Many women really struggle with keeping their homes clean and have asked me for my advice since my post A Clean Home is a Pretty Home. First, get rid of clutter. Buy Clutter's Last Stand, read it and figure out what to keep and what to get rid of. A clutter-free home is MUCH easier to keep clean than a cluttered one. You don't need all the clothes you own. Your children don't NEED all the toys they have. Please, declutter.

The next thing is to make a couple of goals and ask your husband to keep you accountable. Three great goals to begin with: decide to not go to bed with a dirty kitchen and have all the stuff on your floor picked up, plus make your bed each morning. Just waking up to a clean home will motivate you to keep it cleaner. Here are three simple goals to have your husband hold you accountable for. Ask him if he would reward you in some way with something that you like {a nice dinner out, a new dress, etc.} IF you do this for 30 days, since it usually takes this long to develop a habit.

This should, at least, get you going in the right direction. The reasons most women have trouble with keeping a clean home boils down to two reasons: she was not trained growing up and/or she is undisciplined and lacks the self-control to do it. {The exception being she is physically unable to keep it clean.} Both of these CAN be overcome through accountability and practice! Practice does make perfect. A clean, bright home is so much more enjoyable to live in than a dirty, dark one. Open your shades and windows, weather permitting, and get to work! Also, make sure there is plenty of singing and making music to the Lord; for He alone is our true source of happiness and joy. 

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, 
as to the Lord, and not unto men.
Colossians 3:23

More posts in my Home Series.

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I really like a bright sunny house! When we moved up here and were looking for a place to rent, someone told my husband of a house which was partly underground. My husband promptly said it would not work, his little wifey wouldn't be able to stand it! Seeing a home with all the shades always pulled reminds me of the verse about liking darkness better than light because their deeds are evil.
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Your home is lovely, Lori!!
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I agree! Let the light in! Living in darkness physically or spiritually isnt healthy! My spirits are lifted and I feel much better in a light and bright house. I think youre just going to feel gloomy in a gloomy home! Makes sense to me! xx
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I love it that our home has so many windows and we don't cover them up. The main living area (dining room, kitchen, and living room) is all one room and has two sets of glass doors in addition to regular windows. This lets in a lot of light and also allows the little ones to be able to see out and watch the birds and wildlife we have outside. I also try to prevent clutter and it helps make the home much more inviting. It just feels happier and more relaxing here than any other place we have lived.
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Lynette L. · 523 weeks ago

Great post today!
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Great post!! You have a beautiful home! I strive to keep mine like yours. Although it is far from it. I am currently disciplining myself to keep a clean home. The downstairs stays pretty "picked up". Our upstairs WILL stay that way soon. I was not raised in a way where I was taught how to clean. My dad was very clean though, and always said the way to stay happy is to have a clean home and car. I didn't believe him, but now I am realizing what a downer I am for my children. I have made it a point to keep a tidier house and I am indeed happier. I feel like every time I feel down it had much correlation with the messiness of my home. It's like everything you put in its proper spot is the same as kicking out one depressing thought or however you choose to illustrate it. I want a clean home like yours! I have learned so much from your blog on many levels. But I would say the most important lesson I am learning is that most things take discipline. Submitting to my husband - discipline, cleaning my home - discipline, becoming a better reader - discipline. Everything! And God trains us that way also with our prayer life and coming to Him for everything, eventually teaches us how to make our ways straight. And also in prayer we are taught how to discipline our actions to the correct way. Great post! As I am "always learning". haha!
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I think accountability is very helpful! Also, getting kids involved makes a big difference. Kids as young as three can have chores. It helps when we, moms, can't bend over to wipe those darn baseboards. :-)
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My parents were hoarders. They did throw away garbage, but they held on to everything else. It wasn’t because they were ungodly, not at all. They believed very strongly that they should not waste God’s provision and that someday someone would need an item and they would be able to provide. They also believed in Christ-like humility and that cleaning to impress the neighbors was just showing off. I was taught that if I compared myself to someone else, I had better find myself wanting.

I have learned it is possible to keep a house clean and not be wasteful or vain. I view cleaning simply as a job – my job - and as with any job, I wish to do it well. I learned my job by starting with a few simple routines and built from there. Practicing routines makes them into habits and cleaning becomes more natural and requires less effort. For me Flylady helped a lot in forming routines and Motivated Moms is great for the day to day. I like Motivated Moms checklist better than Flylady’s control journal.

I too like a lot of light and like to keep the blinds and draperies open when possible, but like another commented, I live in the desert and need to close them to keep the sun out in the afternoon or risk destroying the furniture and carpeting.
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Does asking a husband to keep a wife accountable lead to the wife not growing up and in to her own responsibility? Does it put more pressure on the husband already pressured with work?
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Ksdee,

Accountability does not need to be any big deal. Just knowing that your spouse is going to check in on you and ask you how you have been doing in these areas you request help, helps to motivate many of us who need a little extra help with staying disciplined in the things we decide to do. When one spouse begins to ask for help from another it often leads to both spouses holding each other accountable for the things they use to nag each other about because they are our weaknesses. Think about it. Instead of a husband getting upset over a messy home, or dishes always in the sink, he simply can smile and say, "You asked me to check in with you in these areas... how are you doing?" You know it's coming, so a quick apology and I know I can do better and you are off to the races to meet your own desires in the areas you struggle with discipline.

I find that we are all most disciplined in the things we want to be disciplined it, yet we can be way off in areas we don't care about. As Christians, we are to show discipline and self-control in all areas of life, and seek help and accountability from our brothers and sisters for our weaknesses and sins. So this is nothing more than the church in action in your home. It is no burden to a husband who truly loves his wife to help her stay focused on her own values. I am not one that likes to keep things spotless, but I do enjoy things picked up and decently livable.
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I grew up in a home with big windows and sunny rooms and my own home is the same. I always think there is a feeling of joy and cheerfulness when you walk in a room bathed in sunlight. I do close the front window curtains on very hot summer days when it is over 100F as it keeps the house cooler (we don’t have air-conditioning) and I close them at night as I prefer the cosy initiate feeling, especially in winter. I have been reading a book called “The making of home” by Judith Flanders and she talks about the introduction of larger panes of glass and the reaction of the people – they found their “extra bright” homes too much to take and started to hang fabric over the glass (to make the rooms dark again) and this was the beginning of curtains (previously the windows were covered with timber panels).

The other reason for having my curtains wide open during the day is to allow my cat (Ruby) to enjoy the view and watch the birds – she doesn’t like it if the curtains are close and block her view!! I also love to watch the birds play in the trees too!!
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I love this post, and that analogy is a great one. If I get up and open the blinds, I'm automatically motivated to make the bed...then carry the laundry downstairs, and so on and so on.
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The light and the windows were part of what made me fall in love with our house! We do close blinds at times, however. In the summer our west facing windows let in LOTS of sunlight, which heats up the house. I try not to run the a/c unless it's really hot outside, so I close the blinds when the sun is hotter. Also, in the winter, keeping the blinds closed at night helps keep our home warmer in our cold climate. Today was the first day since last fall I was able to open up all the windows and let the fresh air in! Ah, heavenly!
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THANK YOU Lori for this wonderful post. I'm always SO excited to check for your posts each morning (and Ken's input.) I wonder what provisions and/or adjustments you make for your grandchildren in regards to making/keeping your home pretty, clean and tidy? I adore our minimalist and decluttered home and now seem to be progressively filling it up (neatly) with educational toys, cot, change table, bath toys, books, library books, writing equipment, single bed, summer and winter linen, beach paraphernalia, extra fresh-food, spare grandchildren clothes and shoes ETC. I suppose making it a 'family' home again rather than just catering to my darling husband and myself. (We've a 2yr old granddaughter, and a grandson due in July and are very welcomed and included in their lives by our son and daughter-in-law who live half hours drive away.) Also I'd love any ideas, thoughts and practises on how you keep boundaries, interact, help and support your grown children, their husbands/wives and their children. I do so love being part of their lives although I can find it a little overwhelming at times because I plan to do a very, very good job of this role. ..(And who knows how many children they will eventually have.) However I want to be sure not to misplace my husband from my top priority. (We homeschooled our two children and I also feel I put much time and will into the future, helping with our grandchildren's education, as they plan to homeschool even though our son teaches in a nice Christian school.) I have some physical health issues although you wouldn't know by looking. Anything really about your grandmother role would be so appreciated...Thanks Lori.
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FREEINDEED! · 523 weeks ago

When I was a little girl, I had a yellow bedroom. My mother used be sure it was responsible for my sunny disposition:). Now I have a yellow laundry room. And I am never bothered by laundry!

I love opening up the house first thing in the morning! At our house, this is the first sunny week after a loooong winter :). The sun is so motivating! We've been very productive :)
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I love the look of windows without curtains/blinds, but I would hate the lack of privacy. To me it would seem like living in a goldfish bowl. How do you cope with the privacy angle, Lori?
Kay, England.
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Lori, What color did you use on your walls?
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Thank you for the encouragement! You are absolutely right. I personally struggle with self-discipline. I go through phases of keeping up well with cleaning house, and then I crash and burn. By God's grace I'd like to persevere. What a beautiful home you have!

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