Our Grandmothers, those who lived during the Great Depression era, were never ever asked what they did for a living. A woman's job was her home; where she cooked, cleaned, and raised a family. The majority of them were very content making a house into a home because they knew they were right where they were suppose to be.
They were home most of the time since the majority of them didn't have a car. They had plenty of time to clean their homes. They didn't have a lot of money, so they didn't have a lot of clutter to have to deal with. They didn't have many clothes, so they didn't have piles of clothes to wash. They always dressed modestly. The food they fixed was nourishing since it wasn't sprayed with a ton of chemicals. Many of them ate from their own gardens.
They spent their time wisely since they didn't have computers and iPhones distracting them. They raised their children to be obedient and respectful of elders. They gave them a good spanking on their bottoms if they misbehaved. They had time to teach them morals and values since they were home all day with them.
If their husband couldn't find work or didn't make much money, they weren't expected to go out and get a job. The family, church and community would all pitch in and help. They would live on less and make due with what they had. They could care less about keeping up with the Jones' since there were no Jones'. They were content with simple furnishings and were probably very thankful for the roof over their heads and food in their bellies.
Men were the providers and protectors, while women took care of the home and family. There was no blurring of lines. They each knew what was expected of them. Their vows meant something. When they promised to love their husbands until death do us part, they kept their vow. They didn't expect romance and a lot from their husbands since they were working hard to provide a living.
They didn't think about "me time." They knew their time was to be spent serving their families; keeping them well fed with clothes on their backs. The majority of them knew there was a God and the Judeo-Christian values that this nation were built upon. They were thankful for the freedom to live in this great land.
A young woman asked me the other day if she should marry a godly man who wants her to work outside the home. He isn't interested in her being a homemaker full-time. I wouldn't have dreamed of marrying Ken if he felt this way since this is all I wanted to do since I was a little girl. So many women write me and tell me how much they want to be home full-time but their husbands don't want them to be. It is a very sad state we are in.
Homes are the most neglected places in America. Women don't need to be taught how to make more money. They need to be taught how to keep their homes clutter free and clean, how to cook nourishing food and not overspend, how to raise obedient children, and how to respect their husbands.
Thus says the LORD,
"Stand by the ways and see and ask for the ancient paths,
Where the good way is, and walk in it;
And you will find rest for your souls.
Jeremiah 6:16
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terrigrothe 27p · 527 weeks ago
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Lady Virtue · 527 weeks ago
The fact that most men expect their wives (or wives to be) to be in the paying labor force and are opposed to them being "just" housewives and homemakers is evidence of how feminism has damaged men as well as women. Some men think full time wives and mothers are parasitic, like leeches who just drain resources but contribute nothing in return if they don't earn their keep. I hope the young lady you referenced in your post finds a godly man who knows the role and place God gave to women and that he wants a wife with those convictions. Not only are many women today not feminine, but many men don't expect or want them to be.
Conny M · 527 weeks ago
Actually I'll go so far as to say (which we told our son and son-in-laws) they should not consider marriage if they are not able, ready or unwilling to provide for a wife and family.
The home is where children are taught how to be the people God wants them to be, and are taught how to be parents, home makers and providers as well as good citizens.
Additionally, I understand that homeschooling is not something most are considering, but we feel it is one of the most important aspects of parenting and learning because of the need to transmit values, principles and not having the secular culture influencing the children to be worldly. Living a simple life is very rewarding and lends itself to much more contentment, our parents and grandparents knew this secret very well.
At home they can be taught to be in the world without being of the world, and as parents we are commanded to bring up our children in the way of the Lord, to my knowledge no school, especially public schools, but even today (private Christian schools) are not doing this.
teach simplicity, contentment and whole living and see the people prosper.
Diane · 527 weeks ago
Jennifer Dunn · 527 weeks ago
Oh to walk in the old paths that God had set out for us.
God Bless!
katy010305 45p · 527 weeks ago
Ken · 527 weeks ago
A wife who willingly accepts the role of homemaker and primary nurturer of children is worth far more to her husband and family than one who sees her value primarily outside the home. It is perhaps not impossible for a wife and Mom to both work and fulfill her value roles at home, but I find too often it is the wife who loses trying to do it all. Tired, frustrated, half fulfilled, wanting to have two feet firmly planted instead of spread so thin. The saddest part is to watch Christian family after Christian family be destroyed through divorce, or by way of rebellious children, all because the focus was taken off of what is the greatest priority, the lives and souls of our godly offspring.
Christ says that one cannot serve two masters. So too it is few who can truly serve two purposes in life and not neglect the one for the other. My heart breaks for those women who feel they must work, out of necessity as a single Mom or some other reason that creates such a necessity. I understand that life at times is not pretty, or fun, and we all must step up at times to contribute in ways that are outside our comfort zone, perhaps even heroic in the case of a single Mom. But God's ideals always hold true even if exceptions are to be found, and when 75% of women are working outside the home, this is far from God's ideal for the Christian family. There can't be that many legitimate exceptions to His values and His ways. Too many husbands and wives are self-seeking instead of seeking His best for their lives and the lives of their family.
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Roxy · 527 weeks ago
Wonderful Godly wisdom! There is an ancient path, and no matter what the worlds says being a homemaker and staying home was God's idea!
And yes, God will continue to provide for those who seek and follow this pattern and path!
Always, Roxy
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Ruth Ferraz · 526 weeks ago
I loved this post, then I translated it into portuguese for the women from Brazil and Portugual can appreciate it also. If you dont mind, if not i can delete it, if you dont agree leave a comment in my post. Check it out: http://sobrearochadocristo.blogspot.com/2015/03/c...
Thank you