Thursday, March 19, 2015

Millennials are Hungry for Success


"Bethany Mota was on Forbes Magazine. When you're on Forbes cover, you've made it and she's 18 years old! There's 80 million Millennials; a huge population that are hungry for success...incredibly entrepreneurial, very collective and collaborative because of social media." These words were said by Chelsea Krost. She's defending the Millennials as not all being narcissists, lazy and entitled as many are labeling them.

Therefore, their definition of success is making a ton of money and becoming famous so they can buy a ton of stuff and live like they want. "They want to follow their passion" and "find out what makes them happy. We don't want to settle in a job that is paying our bills if we're not happy" so they change jobs frequently. Many young women have taken up this goal of worldly success instead of desiring to get married and having a family while they are young and fertile. I am sure some of them want a family but AFTER they have started their career and then have someone else raise their babies. If after they get married and they aren't "happy," they'll simply get a divorce.

The definition of narcissism is "an extreme selfishness, with a grandiose view of one's own talents and a craving for admiration, as characterizing a personality type." What she described as Millennials seems fairly narcissist in my opinion! If they're pursuing happiness, no wonder so many of them aren't working in any job they can find and instead living with Mom and Dad until their dream job appears that will make them "happy."

There was a recent study that found 82% of parents did chores growing up; now only 28% require their children to do chores. The reason is due to the emphasis on extracurricular activities and not enough time for chores. The study also found that chores are one of the most important predictors of future success; teaching self-reliance, responsibility and empathy. No wonder this generation is in trouble!

Compare this to my grandmother's generation; those who went through the Great Depression. They were covenant keepers. They kept their marriage vows. They worked hard not expecting to be "happy" but to put food on the table and a roof over their heads. They feared God and most tried living lives that were pleasing to Him, not to themselves. Most of them wouldn't even think about using birth control for baby control.

Romans 1 teaches the progression towards ruin of those who walk away from God's ways, while fully aware that there is a God. Creation proves there is a Creator, yet they are not thankful. They continue to make choices against obeying God so God turns them over to their lusts, gives them a reprobate mind and they become lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God. Romans 1:31 states they are "without understanding, covenant breakers..." Many Millennials, including all generations after the 60s, are covenant breakers. They think nothing about breaking their marriage vows and not having children. If they are not "happy," they leave their spouse. If they are not "happy" in their jobs, they look for another one. If they are not "happy" being pregnant, they abort their baby.

So how can you raise your children to be like my grandparents generation? Don't give them everything they want. Teach them to work hard; right next to you as you work around the home. Teach them God's Word. Model contentment, so they will be content. Model joyfulness, so they will be joyful. Tell them that trying to find "happiness" in this world is a DEAD END road that leads to destruction.  Instead, teach them these beautiful promises from the Lord ~

Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. 
Proverbs 1:1-3

Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good! 
Blessed is the man who takes refuge in him! 
Psalm 34:8

You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord God is an everlasting rock. 
Isaiah 26:3, 4

Teach your children to build their lives upon the Rock! 
He is the ONLY way to true peace and joy.

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I see a lot of young 20-somethings posting pictures with dogs. I guess that's the substitute for having a child.
I do love Bethany Mota though and can think of a bunch of reasons why women should support her overall. She has gotten to her position through lots of hard work first off. There is no one who would have given her the success she has- she created it fan by fan. She's basically a fashion star who is about a size 8 (although she never actually says or comments on her size) and that is an unheard of no-mans-land size in the fashion industry. She has an average body and celebrates it. She's an ethnic-looking star and we don't have nearly enough of those. She's definitely setting an attainable beauty standard. She's very girly and home-makey and seems sweet. Her whole family is a positive influence on a lot of young people. So hopefully she doesn't turn crazy.
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Thanks for your comment, Jamie. I know nothing about her but it's good if she is a good role model to other young women.
This post reminds me of chapter nine, "Virtuously Frugal", in Erin Harrison's book "Living Virtuously". She gives practical ways and tips of saving money, yet living well at the same time. She also mentions her grandmother and the different things she'd do to save money, and how she always lived by, "Use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without". It reminds me of my grandparents. Both of my grandfathers served in World War Two and they all knew what it was like to do without, and yet they were some of the happiest, most thankful people you could ever know. They loved God, their families and appreciated and took care of the little that they had. Some of my best memories are spending time at my grandparent's farm as a girl and helping them in their garden and picking lots of apples from the trees on their land. Grandma showed me how to peel and cut up vegetables and keep a clean, happy home. It's a new goal of mine to be more frugal and learn how to sew. Then maybe one day I can teach my daughter! iIt's all a good reminder to focus on things of eternal value, not earthly value.

Thanks for your post, and for recommending Erin's book awhile back. It's one of the best books I've ever read, and I love seeing how she incorporated your advice in it as well! I highly recommend it to everyone.
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Thank you, Katie, I love her book also! You were blessed with wonderful grandparents! I tried sewing when my children were young but it made me so frustrated. I, too many times, stitched the wrong sides together and was always having to take it apart and start over!
It seems rather odd to me, that we should ask inexperienced "millennials" for advice about life. In most cultures of the world, for most of history, expertise came with grey hairs! The hedonistic and profoundly materialistic goals here seem not be in accord with Mark 8:36-37
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Grey hair is frowned upon in our society now, Anthea, and most young people don't respect the wisdom of their elders, unfortunately. It has absolutely been devastating on our culture.
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FREEINDEED! · 523 weeks ago

Anthem- after I graduated college, at age 22, I worked for the department of child welfare in our state as a caseworker. I had very little marital knowledge and no parenting knowledge. But I was trained to instruct families how to live. It was so backward! I taught classes to foster parents and I had no children. There is no way that my college degree prepared me for the work I was doing. The elders in those communities would've been much better equipped to minister to those families than I was. I wish our culture valued the wisdom that our older generations provide. Young families would be so much better for it, in so many ways.
What gray hair? A lot of the older women I know, color their gray away LOL! God called it a sign of wisdom but our society calls it a reproach.
Unfortunately, many millennials seek instant gratification, and are also victims of an increasingly bad Liberal higher education system., which has lost all sense of reality. As someone who recently retired (3 years ago), us "grey hairs" hated having to train these young people. Often, they thought they were too good to do something, wouldn't do it, and complained about everything from what they were being paid. to having to get up in the morning to go to work. They want success, yet so many are unwilling to work for it. You certainly are correct Lori, very few respect their elders, and it has been devastating to our culture. .
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Yes, Patrick, unfortunately the farther we get away from God's principles, the worse our society will become and each generation will only get worse and worse. Our nation is reaping what it has sown.
Its been made easier and easier for woman to have the "best of both worlds" - my daughter brought this article to my attention...I wonder what my great grandma would say to it :( http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-life/1116...
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Lori, your posts are ALWAYS so timely for me! My 7 year old stayed home from school with pink eye today, so since he's not actually feeling sick I made him help me do chores around the house. There was definitely some mumbling and then finally he said, "Why do I have to do all these jobs?! I HATE doing jobs!" I told him that God didn't send him to the earth to lay around and watch TV, (that made him giggle), and that God needed him to learn how to work hard so that when he's a husband and dad someday, he will know how to work and take care of his family, just like his dad does. That seemed to satisfy him and get him working hard. :) I do wonder how to teach them to work without complaint! I also have to put away my perfectionist tendencies of having everything done right, for the sake of teaching my kids to work.
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I posted this post on my Facebook page yesterday, Tiffany! It is a post I wrote last year about teaching your children to clean with joy. You may enjoy reading it ~
http://lorialexander.blogspot.com/2014/04/cleanin...
You described this generation perfectly in what they don't have - " self-reliance, responsibility and empathy." I call it the "Selfie" generation - they love everything about themselves and can't get enough of their own image - self-worship to the extreme. Notice the contrast of a Godly women/wife/mother - she is self-LESS and thinks of others all the time. Yet, she is called unsuccessful in her life until she forgets about her family and husband and becomes her OWN woman. I will take God's definition of success over this world's any day!

I've always said that I would rather have my family around me holding my hand on my deathbed than holding a wad a cash - seems like the cash just couldn't comfort me like that hand of those that loved me and I loved them!
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Your priorities are in the right place, Bev! Everything is going to burn except eternal souls that we raise to know and love Jesus or those we lead to the Lord. We must always keep this eternal perspective so we won't become selfish since selfishness is an empty way to live.

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