Monday, March 23, 2015

A Warm Home is a Comfortable Home


My Mom's home was warm and comfortable. People loved coming to our home when I was growing up. All of her furniture was very comfortable. She always had a big bowl of salad for people to help themselves to and big canisters of raw nuts and dried fruit on the counter. {She's always been a health nut!} She loved entertaining and feeding people. She fell in love with all of our boyfriends and was heartbroken when the breakup occurred. Our boyfriends all loved her also! She made people feel welcome in her home and had an open door policy. She was available to whoever stopped by for a visit.

My sister, Alisa, is the same way. She loves having people over. In fact, her home is almost always filled with company. Since her malignant melanoma diagnosis, she eats completely different. She is in her kitchen often fixing nourishing, healthy food for her family and anyone who drops in. When Alisa talks with you, she looks you in the eyes and carefully listens. She trained her children to do the same. She asks questions about your life. She isn't distracted by other things. She won't leave to answer a phone when you are talking to her. She makes you feel like you are her best friend. She makes people feel loved. This is why she has MANY friends. Plus, she is SO generous. In the evening, she has her fireplace lit and people gather around eating and having a wonderful time. Her home is always warm and comfortable. My other sister, Debbi, is the same way. She loves to have people over and is extremely generous and loving towards others.

When I choose furniture, it HAS to be comfortable. I care way more about comfort than style. When I am up to it, I love to have people over. We have had many family parties here. For awhile, when most of my children were around, I would have them all over for lunch after church and anyone else who needed a warm place to eat home cooked food. 

We are called to hospitality. Our homes should be places that people can come and feel loved and cared for. Our homes shouldn't be in constant disarray so we feel uncomfortable having people over. We need to discipline ourselves to keep our homes as clean and tidy as possible, if we are able. We need to love others earnestly, as the Bible commands. Our homes should be known as places that others come and feel warm and comfortable.

But hospitable, a lover of good, self-controlled, 
upright, holy, and disciplined.
Titus 1:8

More posts in my Home Series.

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Very inspiring! I love your living room. It looks so cozy and inviting. :)
1 reply · active 522 weeks ago
Thank you, Tracy! It is very cozy!
Wonderful commentary on your family! What's this about Alisa with malignant melanoma? How long has she known, and what is the prognosis? Stunned by the news, and will be praying for her and family!
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She had it removed, Aunt Genny, and she has not had even one spot of cancer or pre-skin cancer since! She believes it is due to her new way of eating since every year before the malignant melanoma, the dermatologist would have multiple areas he would need to treat. There's been nothing since! It really woke her up to changing her diet and living to prevent cancer. She and Ali go to many health conferences and are learning so much!
Great post! And your home looks beautiful and inviting. It wasn't that long ago when I learned that hospitality is something we should all do, like a command. I am currently reading through the book of Acts, and how believers often met in homes. Priscilla and Aquila, an amazing power couple, provided hospitality which helped strengthen the believers fellowship. I used to look at hospitality as a somewhat of a burden and decided I wasn't gifted in that area, so I didn't need to worry about it. But more and more God is showing me it is a beautiful privelage to show others His love, no matter who enters our home. We may be the only message of the Good News that they see. Thank you for your posts on this subject and how to make it more applicable to our daily lives!
1 reply · active 522 weeks ago
Thank you, Katie! During the early church, everyone did meet in homes and the churches were probably much more intimate than they are now, therefore, we need to do what we can to minister to others and having them in our homes is a great place to begin. Like you said, it is simply putting loving others into action!
My mother taught our family without ever saying a word; the meaning of hospitality. It wasn't about showing off her stuff but sharing herself. Somehow my parent's home seemed to be a hub. Our friends were always over - I remember 30 kids sitting down for supper. Her example was my best teacher. She had a huge flower garden and would make beautiful bouquets for the living room. My mom and dad were truly Jesus's hands and feet. Now that we're empty nesters,we make a point of having young families over. Lots of toys and crafts here. Finger prints and smudges can be wiped off later.
2 replies · active 522 weeks ago
Lovely, lovely testimony, Maria. This choked me up.

Hugs for a happy day,
Kelley~
What an amazing home you were raised in, Maria. You are blessed!
Lori,

When you talked about the furniture you select according to its comfort, I was reminded of the time my husband and I ministered in This Church in That Town, USA. The pastor invited us into his office after the service. Seated in the pair of chairs across from him at his desk, he asked, "How do you like my new chairs? Uncomfortable aren't they?!"

My husband and I looked at each other. We didn't know what to say. The pastor continued, "The pastor I worked under before I became a pastor taught me that. He said to get the most uncomfortable chairs for your office so the people you counsel won't want to stay so long."

I hope I never forget that, Lori. We are all called to love our Good Shepherd's precious sheep, and we're all sheep. Being given to hospitality is a choice. Treating others as we desire to be treated makes this world a nicer place, and EVERYWHERE people are struggling. It's the little things we do that make all the difference.

What a great post you've shared today, Lori.

Hugs for a great week,
Kelley~
2 replies · active 522 weeks ago
Wow, Kelley, I would not want to go to a church with a pastor like that who truly doesn't love his flock. The most important quality a pastor should have is love.
Indeed. We went away feeling sad for the sheep in this flock.
~K
A warm home is a comfortable home - which is why it is nicer going to my in-laws place than having them here. They have a wood stove! We would like a stove, but the owners removed it before we moved in (we are renting). Sometimes I feel bad when we have folks over because the house is cool, but we can't afford to run the heat higher. It would be more pleasant having folks over with a fireplace or stove.
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Just have lots of nice warm blankets around, Nicole, and give them a hot cup of coffee or tea! That would keep them warm.
I love these posts Lori! Thank you so much for going to the effort of writing them as they're just such an inspiration. I also notice how you add little words like, "if you are able", which quietly acknowledges that not everyone is always fit, healthy, agile, young or empty-nesters. Because you've been through so much physically, you understand that sometimes ladies can have various ranges of disabilities/illnesses but you still encourage and motivate us to 'work' to our highest standard. I'm really grateful for your teachings. Thank you.
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You're welcome, Linda, and yes, some women are able to do a lot more than others. We do just need to do what we are physically able to do. Our first priority always needs to be to our family so they are a great place to begin providing a warm and comfortable home to!
This is how I'm striving for my home to be perceived as. It's a work in progress. Thanks for the encouragement.
great post as always Lori

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