Wednesday, March 4, 2015

Did Women in the Bible Work Outside of the Home?


Are there women who worked outside of the home in the Bible; leaving their homes for hours every day and their children in the care of others? I read this on another blog, "There is nothing wrong with a woman who works {Acts 16:14}; what's wrong is a woman who puts her career ahead of her family." When this person wrote "works" he was referring to working outside of the home, since women who stay home work also. Let's looks at this verse that somehow justifies working outside of the home ~ "And a certain woman named Lydia, seller of purple, of the city of Thyatira..." or they use this from the Proverbs 31 woman, "She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant." That's it! There's only two verses.

Neither of these verses tell us that these women worked outside of the home. In fact, they most undoubtedly made their clothing in their homes since there were no factories back then. Maybe Lydia went to the market place to sell it, but we don't know. She could have easily sold it from her home. It didn't say whether or not she even had a husband and children. The Proverbs 31 woman "delivered girdles" but it certainly doesn't mean she was away from the home for hours every day with others raising her children. Some claim the Proverbs 31 woman was a real estate investor since she bought some land and planted a garden on it. It always amazes me what great lengths people will use to try and justify women working outside of the home from a biblical argument. 

Then I read this comment on another blog to someone else, "As for the staying home to be with your children issue; I had the impression that your children were school age. So who exactly would you be staying home with? I have never been able to come to terms with the idea of not working, although I have my frustrations with it. I find it selfish. If I am not going to bed exhausted every night from the effort I have put in trying to make the lives of everyone around me better, then I have wasted my time here on earth for this day. And I have the ability to care for more than just my immediate family."

It's NOT selfish to stay home. It is biblical. There is nowhere in the Bible that tells women to go away from their homes and get jobs. This is what the Bible prescribes for older women, "...having been the wife of one man, well reported of for good works; if she has brought up children, if she has lodged strangers, if she has washed the saints' feel, if she has relieved the afflicted, if she has diligently followed every good word" and for the younger women, "I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully" {both verses are from I Timothy 5}. 

Some women feel uncomfortable sharing posts like this on their Facebook page because other women get mad and accuse them of judging. I have gotten this a lot. I was even told years ago not to speak about women being "keepers at home" at my church for fear of women feeling judged. We are commanded to speak the Truth in love and teach young women to be keepers at home. If others feel judged by hearing the Truth, it is their problem, not ours. Truth is intended to convict and change. {I realize some women have no choice but to work. The Bible commands the church and family to support older widows. Younger widows are commanded to remarry. Women are never commanded to go out and work outside of their homes.}

Society was a much better place when women were at home taking care of their husbands, children and homes. God clearly wants women to be home; there is NO doubt about it. Some argue that God doesn't say women can't work outside of the home, but He is very clear that He does want them working at home. 

We must NOT try to make the Bible fit our lifestyle and what we want to do. We must fit our lifestyle according to how God wants us to live. This is the best place for a believer to be; in the center of His amazing will!

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I agree that society was a much better place when women were at home taking care of their husbands, children, and homes. I actually work outside of the home right now, due to some finacial issues, but my husband and I have a plan for me to stay home soon! I am 37 years old and my generation grew up with the idea everyone goes to college and then get a good job. You put career first. Now looking back I disagree. My mother was a stay at home mom. Even though we were not weathly and had to sacrifice things, we grew up in a loving home with home cooked meals. You don't realize how wonderful it was to have a stay at home mom until you become a working mom yourself. :( All those expensive vactions, clothes, and toys we could have had would never compare to having a stay at home mom.
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Again, I completely agree with you Lori. :) You always say it so well. It is refreshing to read your words (and comments of others) who truly understand the biblical calling upon wives and mothers to be workers at home! :)
1 reply · active 525 weeks ago
Amen! Love this post! Before God blessed my husband and me with our daughter, I worked 50-70 hours a week and really enjoyed my job. However, I was constantly stressed, did a poor job of cooking nutritious meals (we ate out way too much), and struggled to even find time in the Word consistently. After the arrival of our daughter, my husband and I decided that I was needed more at home than anywhere else. By the Grace of our Good Provider, we dramatically went from two incomes to one teacher's salary. It was difficult financially, and on paper it looked impossible, but God provided what we needed when we needed it. Since then, my husband has earned his doctorate and has many many opportunities to provide additional income. At times, this wonderful man diligently works five jobs at a time...just so I can stay at home. Sadly, my husband is the only one of his coworkers (many of which have small children) whose wife is at home full time.

As a homeschooling mom I usually get a pass on the pressure to work outside the home. Somehow, our community finds that teaching at home is acceptable since I do more than "just stay at home." I know the day will come when this homeschooling phase of life is done and I will face the questions about returning to the work force. I am grateful that my amazing husband values the work I do at home and has said that I will not have to rejoin that rat race and submit to an employer!

In His All-Sufficient Grace,
Martha
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We must NOT try to make the Bible fit our lifestyle and what we want to do. We must fit our lifestyle according to how God wants us to live. This is the best place for a believer to be; in the center of His amazing will!
WOW Lori this says everything and yet everyday we are guilty of this. That maybe the most powerful message i have heard. Simple yet sooo true

Someone at your church told you not to speak about being keepers of the home? I hope that wasnt an elder, your pastor or anyone in authority at your church. Just goes to prove how even churches can water down the truth to fit todays society, instead of just plain truth!!! Your above comment says it all.
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Thank you. Amen. Society and even Christian circles tells us daily that we should be out in the world working. I believe my obligation is to stay home regardless of the age of my children. Nobody preaches this truth though, not even churches
1 reply · active 525 weeks ago
Lori I so appreciate your boldness in teaching! It is so nice to reinforce the things I believe when I read your blog. I feel SO blessed that my husband and I had moms who were always home. I feel like we were so blessed because of this, and because of it my husband wouldn't dream of having me work. I love being home with my children and hope my daughters will continue the tradition! This IS such a touchy subject with certain people for sure.
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Not one person ever told me that I could "just" be a homemaker/mother. I imagine my life would be different if someone had.
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All the women in my family worked, even my 88 year old grandmother went to work when her youngest started kindergarten back in the 1940s. They look down upon me for being a stay at home wife and mother. My daughter, who is getting married this summer, plans to be just a wife and stay at home and that is what her future husband wants also. You wouldn't believe how the women in my family shared how they were disappointed that my daughter just wanted this. How I did a poor job of raising her and homeschooling her.

Now that my grandmother needs care and so do the other women, my aunt and mother, they are certainly glad that I am around to help because there is NO ONE else available to help them. My aunt never married and my mother's second husband died. I am an only child. Everyone was too busy having careers to want more children. That would have been such an inconvenice. Okay my rant is over.
1 reply · active 525 weeks ago
This is a fabulous post!!! I always enjoy your writings so much. Thank you!
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Lynette L. · 525 weeks ago

Thanks so much for the reaffirming message today! I get asked, "What do you do? Where do you work?" all the time! When I say I am a stay-at-home Mom, people ask how old my children are, and I say I have one in college (still living at home) and one in high school. The looks of confusion and judgment make me start defending myself on why I am at home. The truth is my kids need me as much now as they did when they were babies and toddlers. I am blessed to have a husband who works hard to provide, and really wants me to be at home. My children will be moving out this coming August (one to an apartment and the other to an out-of-state college), and it will just be my husband and I again at home. He doesn't want me to go back to work - ever! I won't lie - it is a hard transition going from raising your children and homeschooling them to - pretty soon here - an empty nest. I am looking forward to this next chapter in my life and all the possibilities that God will show me.
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I have been on both sides of this lifestyle: I was a full time working, full time loving and invested mom for two years while my husband was a stay-at-home-dad finishing up his degree. It was a joy and a sacrifice, a unique season in our lives. I'm blessed to have the opportunity now to be the one staying at home, to have my kid's needs and schedules come before a job, and to have the opportunity to spend every day pouring into their young lives. However, I know many moms who don't have this opportunity. I believe God sees us where we are in the seasons of our lives. I certainly prefer being a stay at home mama, and it would break my heart to have to put my children into childcare and get a job. But I know good, godly moms who have to do that every day to survive, and I respect them for it.

This is definitely a hot-topic issue and I commend you for tackling it! :)
1 reply · active 315 weeks ago
Very interesting insight. I do believe though that this particular scripture about Lydia is descriptive and not prescriptive. I am a Pastor's wife with no kids who works outside the home advancing God's kingdom. i do believe that a God-centered home with both mother and father and a lifestyle of living within one's means work so much better with the wife at home.
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I would say what is explicitly outlined in Scripture is that we are to raise our own children.... Nobody else is supposed to do it for us! Whoever has your kids for the most amount of time is raising your kids. Deuteronomy says we are to talk about God and His ways when we get up, and when we lie down, on the road and at home, to our children in order to train them. How does that happen if we're not home with them?
3 replies · active 524 weeks ago
Just out of curiosity, have you read "The Measure of Success" by Carolyn McCulley? It is a book about the 'Biblical perspective' on women and work. It uses a bunch of Scriptures, including the ones in this post, and combines this with a historical argument that 'women have always worked', to present a theology of work for women at all stages of their life. I read it but I have to say I didn't find it entirely convincing. I would love to know what you thought of this book if you have come across it (and maybe even worth doing a review because I understand it is quite a popular book amongst American evangelical women!).
Anyway, I liked this post and I think you make some great points. God bless :)
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I agree Lori and you won't be popular today standing for the Bible truths. I'm so sorry that you experienced that at your church. I attend a church that preaches women's role in the home, so I only really experience opposing views online and with my extended family.
Through your blog Lori, I came to realize the importance of raising and training my children. I've read your blog for a few years now. At the beginning, I didn't agree with your teaching that it's best for a woman and a mom to stay at home. I still believed that women can have it all. I've always worked part-time and believed that was the best way of managing my life. However, two things prevented me from whole heartedly accomplishing my role as a wife and a mother - 1) I found that work has a way of spilling into my non-office days and 2) I could never really immerse myself into the role of a keeper of my home and a mom. Maybe some women are able to balance it all better, I find it very challenging. As I prepare to exit the workforce, I've been focusing on changing my mindset toward my work at home. I used to think that staying at home was a way to take it easy and didn't structure tmy days or set daily goals. Now, I treat my work at home like work - cooking, cleaning, training my children, time with husband - all are scheduled into my day. Before, "when I was asked are you off today?" I would reply "Yes". Now, I reply "I'm not off today, I'm never off - I am taking care of running my house and taking care of my children, which is a full time job". Because the society, overall, diminished the role of a stay at home mom, many moms don't take their role seriously. I was one of those moms until I realized the importance of my role. Sometimes people think in terms of money only - if a woman is able to earn more than she pays for the childcare then she should work instead of stay at home. This is still the way my husband reasons, although I have been patiently and slowly explaining the fallacy of this reasoning. Keep on teaching God's ways, Lori!
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Great read. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I enjoy coming to your blog for authentically written words like this. May God continue to bless your ministry.
I have been so blessed to stay home. Being content with it has taken time, but I am grateful for the experiences of working in daycare that showed me how much children do not thrive in that environment. Thank you for your words here!
I am so thrilled to read this post. I have come under a ton of fire for believing this way, even in some of my own bible study groups. Last year we read The Christian Homemaker's Handbook together and you would have guessed it was the most controversial piece of literature ever! You have made me feel supported in my conviction and I appreciate your willingness to share.

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