Happy Mama commented on one of my recent posts. I thought it was so beautifully written that I would make it into a post. I will let her words minister to you ~
Just commenting on some of the comments...It is sad to me that some people think that having two incomes is a necessity. You may need two incomes to keep up your current lifestyle, but you don't need two incomes. You just have to learn to live within your means, which may mean getting rid of a second car, living in an apartment not a house, learning to cook simple meals, buying second hand-only things that are really needed.
My husband is disabled and we live on his disability income. It is extremely financially tight, but I would never leave my role as a homemaker for more money. I have found ways to help us earn a few extra dollars {selling things online} that has blessed my family without leaving my role as homemaker {the Proverbs 31 woman made money through her extra work at her home}. I completely accept we will always live in an apartment, we will always live humbly. But nothing is more important than caring for my home and family.
A simple humble life with my loved ones is better than any big paycheck. People are what make life great, not things. As long as your husband has an income, however small, you can live off it. Nothing is more precious to me than raising my children and caring for my family.
A simple humble life with my loved ones is better than any big paycheck. People are what make life great, not things. As long as your husband has an income, however small, you can live off it. Nothing is more precious to me than raising my children and caring for my family.
After reading Money Saving Secrets of the Amish, I was really inspired by even the things I think of as necessities. The Amish were asked if they could spend extra money on some luxuries what they would buy. One of the Amish mentioned a salad dressing they really liked, but was only a special treat. One of the ladies mentioned Ritz crackers. Even many food items aren't necessities {I have always thought all food counts as necessities}, but really if you look at how people who live the most humble eat ~ much of even the food bought and sold in America are luxuries. I was greatly encouraged to think more simply after reading this wonderful book, and it really made me think about what are true needs vs. wants, even with regards to food. Just wanted to share that too.
We need to get back to being unmaterialistic and living simply so we have time to enjoy the things in life that really make us rich!
She rises also while it is yet night,
and gives food to her household.
Proverbs 31:15
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We need to get back to being unmaterialistic and living simply so we have time to enjoy the things in life that really make us rich!
She rises also while it is yet night,
and gives food to her household.
Proverbs 31:15
picture source
Jane Beyer Swanson · 603 weeks ago
Although we live on one income, and don't have the latest in whatever, we certainly live more than comfortably. I had to laugh as we feed our dog mostly people food, and guess what -- she eats Ritz Crackers daily. :) I will definitely have to check out "Money Saving Secrets of the Amish" and Mrs. Sharon White's blog.
Thank you Lori for your ever-great posts! ♥
Phyllis Sather · 603 weeks ago
I wouldn't trade the opportunities we've had to watch the Lord provide for us over and above what we could have on one income for all the money in the world.
Lindsay Harold · 603 weeks ago
Brit · 603 weeks ago
We have chosen to live with his parents instead of me working outside the home. Our family of 5 (almost 6 any day) live in 2 bedrooms in my in-laws basement. This is the HARDEST thing we have ever done, but we feel it is worth the sacrifice (we could live on government support, but we do not believe in that so it's not an option for us).
So while I agree it is usually possible, it is not always doable. My husband is still actively applying and looking for a new job that will hopefully at least double his income, but it's a hard job market out there!
Jamie · 603 weeks ago
Allyson Bossie · 603 weeks ago
I always live by the motto that you pay your bills when you get paid and if anything is left, then you go grocery shopping, etc. I decided to do the math on paying out vs what we were making because I hated my baby going to a sitter. When I did, I found out that if you included gas money and the necessary business clothing I had to buy and wear just to keep the job I had (because they were always letting people go, and professional look REALLY matters even if they don't say so out loud) I was paying to work. Even if I didn't include clothing, I came straight even.
I decided to stay home with my children, raise them myself because I was making ends meet regardless, and one way I get the benefits of my children. I wouldn't change it for the world. Times get tight. Times get tough, but we are always happy and both of us want one of us home with our children!
Deb · 603 weeks ago
Joluise · 603 weeks ago
Whilst I and my circle of friends are two income families (in professional careers) we all cook from scratch (most eat organic), most have their own vegetable gardens, many give donations to groups such as World Vision, help others such as extended families. I make some of my own clothes which I wear to work and I am currently teaching myself to knit. Yes, my clothing budget is probably more than yours, but I work and I need a working wardrobe. Ok, we don’t need to struggle like those on lower incomes but that doesn’t mean we are wasteful and go on expensive holidays etc.. We are careful and saving for our retirement and helping our children such as setting their homes, fund their education. I accept your choices, please don’t make assumptions about our choices.
Amy · 603 weeks ago
I know for me, even though I work full time in a career I love now - I want to have kids and be able to stay home with them some day. So if I ever get married I plan for us to live on just my husbands income and use all of mine to pay off our debts before having children. In that way we'd have less hanging over our head and we'd also be used to living on just the one income before any children come along.
It's a choice. And I'm not judging families for making that choice (my own parents did), but in most cases it's not truly a "need" either - and I think it's important that people know that too.
RosevineCottageGirls · 603 weeks ago
~Rosevine Cottage Girls
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Crystal & Co · 602 weeks ago
Sometimes we get wrapped up in what others have- the $200-300,000 homes, the brand new cars, the magazine designed home. While sometimes I have envy, I ALWAYS know what my priorities are as a wife and a mother. And being here is my priority.
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Robyn · 602 weeks ago
Now, my husband has his own company that is doing well, but we are paying way too much for health insurance. It's absolutely insane. Because my kids are all a bit older, I've decided to go back to work. I'll actually be working in their school district, so I'll still have summers off / holidays / etc. I'll be there before and after school. It feels like a good compromise, and it relieves enormous pressure from my husband.
It works for us.
I grew up dirt poor, and it did me no favors. We are committed to saving for our retirement and college for the kids...so we live modestly and save a lot.
Lanaya 117p · 602 weeks ago
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Bethany · 505 weeks ago
When I chose to leave the work force one of my (very unhappy) coworkers said she works to "provide her kids opportunities". These "opportunities" included very expensive competitive cheer, a very large house, vacations and a new car.
To each their own but being able to put my daughter on the bus, cook delicious meals, get her off the bus and spend summers with her are the best opportunities.
ACM · 461 weeks ago
i have good benefits and ample personal time, vacation time, etc for a pretty liveable salary in my area. we don't have all the latest gadgets (although, my phone.. pretty important! haha) and don't even have cable, just the internet. i could drive a brand new car on my salary, but i am choosing to save my money for my future and for my daughter. if i dont ever get married, i would only have my Social security to live off of and that would not cover the cost of even living in my area. i don't like to work, but we have an organized schedule between the two of us and live a generally happy life. if i do get married and end up having another child, i will definitely not work because i didn't get the chance to do it when my daughter was a baby. i did things backwards before, want to try the other way this time :)
i read other comments (granted they are old) about choices. yes, sometimes we don't have a choice (in cases where you are single, widowed, etc) but we have to make the best of our choices, including ones that are different. cost of living has exploded so much. if you live in an area where it's expensive your husbands good salary might not go as far even for housing costs. where i live a typical 3-4 bedroom house would cost 400,000. lots of folks cannot afford that. even renting a 2 bedroom (which i do) is around 1500 a month. i make a good salary and paying 1500 a month in rent is a killer. hopefully some day our wages will go up and not too badly affect our cost of living