Defending The Pearls

The hate being spewed out towards the Pearls and their book To Train Up A Child is difficult to watch.  Even Christian blogs are speaking evil towards them.  They say that three children have been murdered due to the teachings the Pearls advocate.  This is simply not true!

Only evil parents beat their children to death.  Here are some quotes from the book  that specifically warn against abuse ~

“Train up—not beat up. Train up—not discipline up...A child needs more than ‘obedience training’, but without first training him, discipline is insufficient” {page 4}.

“Disciplinary actions can easily become excessive and oppressive if you set aside the tool of training and depend on discipline alone to do the training” {page 9}.

“Parent, have you trained yourself not to discipline immediately but to wait until your irritation builds into anger? If so, then you have allowed anger to become your inducement to discipline” {page 25}.

“Parent, if you are having problems with your children, you can be assured that you are not alone. Your children are also having problems with you. You are going to have to make adjustments in your own life if you are going to help them with their problems... the responsibility for making a significant change is completely yours” {page 32}.

“There are always some who act in the extreme. These individuals are capable of using what has been said about the legitimate use of the rod to justify ongoing brutality to their children” {page 50}.

“The rod should never be a vent for parents’ anger. Where the supreme motivation is anything other than the child’s good, it is inevitable that such behavior by the parent will assuredly create problems” {page 51}.

Now the Pearls are being attacked on Amazon by those who want to destroy their ministry.  They are writing horrible things about them and trying to have Amazon remove their book.  The Pearls have asked those who support them to give a good review of their book to fight evil with good.  If you feel led, please go HERE and give them five stars.

Here is their message they sent out to their supporters ~

Please do not engage in an online debate via the Amazon comment pages. The vast majority of these people have already made up their minds based on false information that agrees with their own preconceived ideas. They are resistant to the truth that challenges their prejudices. “Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest thou also be like unto him” (Proverbs 26:4).

If you read those opposed to the Pearls, you can see the sheer hatred they have for them which is clearly not from God!   We raised our children the way they teach.  We rarely had to spank our children because they learned very early that what we said is what we meant.  The Bible admonishes us to use the rod.  It worked for us and for many others who use it in a proper way.

The Pearls main mission in life is to spread the Gospel to all the ends of the earth.  We, as believers, ought to do everything we can to pray for and support ministries who do this even if we don't agree with them 100%.  Ultimately, they rest in the wonderful fact that GOD is their protector!

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, 

but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.

Proverbs 22:15

***I am not sure writing a positive review on Amazon is going to help much.  Since their email went out, their attacks have gotten much more numerous and vicious.  It is a spiritual warfare and our God is much stronger than them.  He will fight this battle for them.  Keep them in your prayers.

HERE is a wonderful youtube of the Pearl family explaining the way they raised their children and what the children thought of it.  Very good!