Wednesday, November 13, 2013

He Wants Me To Work

Many women finally come to the realization that they would love to be home full-time taking care of their homes, children, and husbands, only to find out their husbands want them to work.  They come to me asking me what advice I can give them or what they should do.  Should they work outside the home and be submissive to their husbands or should they obey God and become keepers at home?

This is a very tough question and has no easy answer.  If a woman personally came to me and asked for my advice, I would tell her to make out a list of all the things she can do to save money.  She can make all her meals from scratch, buy things at garage sales, stay home often to save wear and tear on the car and save gas, not eat out, cancel magazines subscriptions, hang laundry to dry, learn how to cut hair, etc.

Then prayerfully give it to your husband and tell him your desire to stay home.  If he still refuses, you must give it to the Lord and let him convict your husband.  In the meantime, stay as cheerful as you can and do the best you can at your job and at home.

One woman wrote to me telling me her husband wanted her to work full-time even though they had four children and he was completely stressed out.  She already worked part-time and is exhausted.  I told her to make an appeal to him that if she could be home full-time, she would have a hot, home-cooked meal when he got home.  She would be rested so she would be up to being intimate with him consistently.  Her home would be orderly and peaceful since she had so much more peace in her life.

My greatest piece of encouragement to you, however, comes from God's Word.  I go back to this verse over and over again since God is our Creator and knows best ~

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation {lifestyle} of the wives. 
I Peter 3:1

This is God's instructions to you.  Don't cry, manipulate, pout, fall into a self-pity party, get angry, etc. to try and change your husband's mind.  Work on becoming a godly woman of God who is full of the fruits of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance.

This is your greatest path to changing your husband's mind.  God's ways are so contrary to our own inclinations but they work.  You will have more influence in changing your husband by becoming submissive than anything else you will try.