Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Finding Sex Boring


This seems to be a trend lately.  Young men, older women, etc. seem to find sex boring.  Millions of women admit to not even liking sex at all.  What is this all about in our sex crazed society?  You would think every one loves it and wants it all the time according to television shows and movies.  Where is the disconnect?

I believe it is because sex is so abused in our society.  Promiscuity is rampant.  Living together before marriage is completely acceptable.  One must give one's girlfriend or boyfriend a trial run before marriage to make sure all the parts fit, right?  Pornography is viewed by many millions on a regular basis which changes the chemistry in the brain.

So our kids are shielded from the good but hard lessons of life, while being exposed to a constant stream of sex, deviance and insanity. They have their innocence and purity ripped out of their souls, but it isn’t replaced with maturity and wisdom. Instead, toxic waste fills the void; all of these weird images — and the confusing feelings they bring to the surface — have nowhere to go, so they just bounce around in your son’s skull all day. He doesn’t know what to do with it or how to process it. Ten years later, he’s sitting across the kitchen table from Chris Hanson, trying to explain why he’s only 22 but already “bored” with healthy sexuality, so he’s moved on to violent fetishes and pedophilia.
{Matt Walsh}

What is the answer?  God's ways, of course.  It's not the playboys, the promiscuous, and the rebellious who are having the greatest sex lives, it's godly couples who follow God's plan for marriage.  When you go out of God's plan, you are cheating yourself and your spouse {or future spouse}.

Sure, God can redeem and transforms people but it is always best to seek God's will and ways in every area of our lives if we want His best.  He told us that sex is to be reserved for marriage between a husband and a wife.  He tells us not to deprive each other.  He tells us to please each other.  Work towards obeying Him in this area and you will be amazed how great your sex life can become.

Why do people find this to be so strange?  God is our Creator and He is the one who created sex.  His commands are to protect us and give us the best.  His ways are good.

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: 
that you abstain from sexual immorality; 
that each one of you know how to control 
his own body in holiness and honor, 
not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God.
I Thessalonians 4:3-5


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The level of intimacy we've reached in the last few years is truly amazing!! We were much further from perfect when we first started dating. Perhaps it is our reward for following closer to Him. The joy and blessings of being forgiven!
1 reply · active 594 weeks ago
It makes sense that sex would get better as you draw closer to the One who designed sex. I am very happy that you are so happily married! It is so rare in this day and age.
I think many people are bored, not necessarily because they have deviant interests or are involved with pornography, but rather because the media tells you sex is supposed to be so great automatically. There is never any instruction about how it takes work to get sex to be great. So when couples don't have great sex their first time or second or third or tenth, they give up. It isn't working for them so why keep trying? I think this is especially problematic for women--it takes a little more work generally for women to enjoy sex and many women, particularly in the beginning of a relationship, are still uncomfortable to voice their desires. So they give up trying to enjoy sex and just assume it as a duty rather than a blessing.

I certainly think there are many people who have this problem because of pornography or other problematic habits, but I hate to think that it is the majority.
1 reply · active 594 weeks ago
I hope you are right, Charlotte, but from what I have heard, pornography is rampant even among Christian men. It is very, very sad. They must be taught at a very young age how destructive it is and to flee it.
what does the submissive wife do when the man she marries becomes addicted to porn, does she pray through the whole marriage that someday God will intervene

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