The excuse I used for not being a godly, submissive wife for so many years is that older women didn't teach me as they were supposed to teach young women. Virginia Fugate said, "God's method of having older women teaching younger women is a preventative measure that helps to keep the patients healthy, thereby preventing serious epidemics." There was no older woman in my life teaching me that I was to love and obey my husband until Debi Pearl. I was modeled a marriage in conflict. When I did see a great marriage, I always thought it was due to the husband being a perfect husband. I had literally NO idea how to be a godly, submissive help meet to my husband.
There is a serious epidemic in our society. Marriages are crumbling left and right, even in the church.The majority of marriages that are sticking it out, aren't happy. We are a nation of vow breakers and when we aren't happy, we leave. There is a desparate need for older women to take up the call of God and begin teaching young women to love and obey their hsubands, love their children, be chaste and discreet keepers at home so God's Word will stop being blasphemed among so many Christians today!
If you are an older woman and you feel the call and decide you want to walk in obedience to God, begin finding young women in your church and ask them if they need help. Help them with their housework and children, if needed. Fix a meal for them when they are struggling or simply go and visit with them in the afternoon when they are tired and need some adult conversation. As you minister to them, begin sharing what has helped in your marriage. If they begin to complain about their husband, ask them how they are doing in their role of being a wife. Are they obeying the biblical principles of submitting to, obeying, pleasing, serving, loving and respecting their husband? Comfort and encourage those who are in difficult marriages with disobedient or unbelieving husbands.
It would be great if you could begin a mentor program in your church called the Titus Two Mentorship Program. This way you'd have a group of young women to teach and you could all learn from each other. When I started out, I began with a group of women going through Debi Pearl's book. It was so much fun! Mentoring others is the best way to become a better wife since you are held to a higher standard.
The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:3-5
The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:3-5
