Monday, March 14, 2016

To Love Their Children ~ Chapter Seventeen

The most important thing a mother will do for her children is to create an atmosphere of peace and joy by deeply loving their Daddy and being satisfied with life.* There are so many children today being raised in unhappy homes and they want more than anything to have their parents love each other and be at peace. Unfortunately most of their parents fight a lot of the time. Their parents are divorced. Their parents don't talk at all. Their parents work full-time so they rarely see their parents. So few children have a mother and father who deeply love each other. Are you loving your children by loving their father?

It amazes me how often I hear of women divorcing their husband but they still want to do "what is best for the children." They are fooling themselves if they think divorcing their husband is what is best for their children. It is worse for their children and even their grandchildren. The consequences are long lasting and devastating. There is a couple who lives near us and they didn't discipline their children much. However, they were deeply in love with each other and the wife respected and honored her husband. Those children grew up to be secure and happy children. Loving your husband is more important to your children than disciplining them.

Many women today are dissatisfied being at home raising their children. This is how feminism began; discontentment from mothers. The majority of your time needs to be home with your children. It takes most of your time to train them to be hard working, secure and happy children who love the Lord deeply. For a mother who loves her children, training is not a chore, it is a full-time consuming passion. They are worth every minute of time and trouble to every "dedicated" mother. Don't allow the 'lonely women's club' mentality to sweep you away from your role as wife and mother. Your time at church and prayer meeting is sufficient enough time with other women. Focus your life on your home, husband and children.* 

A mother loves her children by being a keeper at home and with them full-time. In order to bond properly and grow up emotionally stable, a small child must spend the vast majority of his time with his one true, permanent mama, whom God has ordained to daily pour knowledge and love into that little life.* You must obey the Lord and be a keeper at home to love your children so as not to blaspheme the Word of God {Titus 2:3-5}. Consider this your fair warning. You cannot improve upon God's design. In life, there are a few things that must be done right the first time around.*

A mother who loves her children disciplines them for the purpose of obedience and godliness. I have written about spanking a child before since I believe it is the right thing to do since God tells us in His Word that it works! As women, we might feel we love our children too much to spank them. God calls our sentiment silly and unloving {according to verses in Proverbs}. You cannot expect God's personal blessings on your life and on theirs unless you do it God's ways. Study these verses and ask God to give you a heart of love and a backbone of courage to walk by his principles {Proverbs 13:24; 22:15; 29:15}. The training of your children is the deepest expression of your love for them.* I can tell you from experience that spanking a child is difficult, but the results are wonderful; children who willingly obey you the first time you ask them to do something.

Finally, look into your child's eyes and smile many times each day. Take a five-minute break every thirty minutes or so to just play with him or her. Never work alone; always have your "little buddy" helping you.* Their eternal souls are worth every single moment that you invest your life into theirs, Mothers. Treasure this time for children are a gift from the Lord that keeps on giving.

Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand doctrine? them that are weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breasts. For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, and there a little.
Isaiah 28:9, 10

*Quotes from the book