Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Lovelessness In Marriage


On our way up to visit Alyssa, Cassi and I were listening to a preacher on the radio.  He said some incredible things ~

"Lovelessness between a husband and a wife must be repented of because it is a serious sin...It is the same as lovelessness between Christ and the church which must be repented of.  A marriage reflects the image of Christ and His church and we must not mar that image.  We must keep the covenant we made before God to love our spouse no matter what."

He encouraged his listeners to pursue their partners with passion and  win their heart every single day.

Wow!  This was amazing to me.  We tend to think of marriage as something to be tolerated and if it doesn't work out, oh well.  But think about it; the greatest command given by God is to love God and to love others.  If we don't love our husbands, we are definitely disobeying God!

Most of us who are believers want to obey God, but for some reason we forgot to or just don't want to love our husbands. A loveless marriage makes you unhappy every single day. A loving marriage makes it much easier to be happy and enjoy life.

I have experienced a loveless marriage turn into a loving marriage. God's power working through me accomplished this. I can tell you, by experience, a loving marriage is SO much better; a comparison between night and day. It is what God commands and like I have said a million times. God knows what He is talking about!

Sooooo...go love your husbands, please!

Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.  'This is the first and greatest commandment.  And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.  
Matthew 22:37,38

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Your posts this week have been wonderful! This one and the Scary Love one, were out of the park!
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Karen in MD · 710 weeks ago

Okay, that post is like a wallop upside the head. I have been feeling bad all day because I wasn't very nice to my spouse this morning. It's been a major guilt trip, I prayed asking for help to change, and then started checking some of my favorite blogs : ) once I got home and this is your post. Amazing. Question for you: I know you read "Created to be His Helpmeet" but how did you change your attitude, your mindset, etc., to get out of the loveless marriage and to get back to what you had? Would you mind sharing?
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Here is my testimony:
http://lorialexander.blogspot.com/2011/05/my-test...

Most of my blog is about the change that has taken place in my marriage. The first place to start is recognizing your part in the loveless marriage, repenting to your husband and to God, and start choosing to love, serve, and please him knowing you can actually accomplish it....You can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens you...and believe it to be true! It took time and I am still working on it but God IS working powerfully in me to make me the wife He has called me to be.
Great post!! We do need to be passionate about our marriages. It certainly honors God.
Blessings,
Cyndi
That is a beautiful post. Life really is better when your marriage is full of love. Then you aren't living for yourself and you don't have to go through things alone. I am very thankful that my marriage is still full of love and devotion. You are right, turns out God knows what he is talking about. I think a lot of the outlooks on marriage have to do with society view. We are constantly looking for the easy road to take. Marriage does take work, just like any other relationship, but what people don't realize is that the work is worth it!
Marriage is something to be CELEBRATED- not tolerated!
A husband is be cherished, and christian wives who love Christ should understand this most of all.
A godly marriage is a living prophecy of the heavenly Wedding to come.
Thanks for linking to LACE.
blessings..Trish
Thank you for such a beautiful reminder that when we love our husbands it honors God.
Great advice! Love is a choice...not strictly a feeling. When we make the choice to love our husbands, we will be blessed and our marriages will flourish.

Blessings, Joan
I thank the Lord always for blessing me with man and a marriage that that is full of Love. Thank-you for such a wonderful post.
My maiden name is Alexander, I have always loved that name.
God Bless,
Ginger
Yes, we honor God with our love. So thankful for my marriage. Thank you for keeping the importance of a Godly marriage in front of us.
What an interesting post. It is so true. I've known some pretty miserable people. Most of the problem was a loveless marriage. It is so sad, and you're so right. Love is the most important thing in the world and love in a marriage makes all the difference in the world.
Thank you for sharing.
Blessings,
Charlotte
I really appreciated this post. I am so glad to hear that God restored the love in your marriage. It gives me encouragement as I continue to stand for mine!
Carrie
Our walk with our Lord must begin within our homes, which is our husband and our children, THEN our ministry and walk with Christ can go everywhere with us. If there is not TRUE LOVE, which means giving and caring and serving, within our own marriage then we are surely deceived.
We can choose to love, just like we decide to be happy! Paul learned contentment, and we can learn to re-love if that is the case. Excellent Post!

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