Let me just start by saying, if you don't protect your children from the evils in society, no one will. I will never forget the first time I saw pornography. I was in junior high, minding my own business, and walking down the hall.
On the ground was a pornographic picture of a woman. I will never forget that picture. Some boys had put it there to watch the reaction of the people who saw it. Most men become addicted to pornography in junior high. If you send your children to public junior high and high schools, they will see a lot of pornography, particularly your sons.
We homeschooled our sons through junior high because we wanted to protect them. I asked my oldest son recently if there was something he wished we did to protect him more.
He told me "No, you did a great job protecting me compared to all my friends." He knows many young men who are addicted to porn because they were not protected from it when they were young. In his Christian college, all his friends kept each other accountable.
We were always open with our sons about pornography. We had them read Every Young Man's Battle when they were teenagers. We monitored what television shows and movies they could watch, even in high school. We knew the trap pornography is to men and took the warning seriously from the Bible about fleeing the youthful desires of youth.
You, too, cannot expect to send your sons to public schools and not expect them to see it. At the Christian high school my boys attended, there were Christian teachers and coaches monitoring them. They were protected. Of course, they couldn't monitor everything but it was way better than the public school which is so huge there is just no way to monitor all the poor behavior.
Protect your children. Be wise where you send them and who their friends are. Don't let them have iPhones until they are 21 years old. Really! I still don't have one and I am fine without it. Put computers in the family room. Don't allow televisions in their bedrooms. Ask God for wisdom in raising them. Be vigilant for the Devil roams around like a roaring lion looking whom he may devour. Don't let the Devil devour your children because he will if you let him.
Flee from sexual immorality.
All other sins a man commits are outside his body,
but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.
I Corinthians 6:18
Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims,
abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul.
I Peter 2:11
Pour Your Heart Out, Mommy Moments
Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims,
abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul.
I Peter 2:11
Pour Your Heart Out, Mommy Moments
Ed C. · 635 weeks ago
I've been following your blog for months but this is the first time that I've ever chosen to comment.
On the subject of porn and erotica, I would strongly encourage you to to take a look at this website: http://www.mychainsaregone.org
This website has changed my life permanently. In fact, it is still re-wiring my mind and heart even as I am typing this.
I believe that it is vitally important to teach both our young men and young women about the dangers of porn which directly and grotesquely objectifies people and the slippery slope of so-called "erotica" which tends to objectify sex acts between people. The genre of erotica is showing mass appeal to women today as evidenced by the wild success of the novel, 50 Shades of Grey.
I am currently teaching my sixteen year old son Paul the value of godly purity. However, what I am teaching him today is not exactly the same as I was teaching him two years ago. A few nights ago, my boy and I watched the critically acclaimed movie Schindler's List about the Nazi persecution of Jews and it was deeply moving to both of us. I never watched when it first came out because I was warned by Christian media that it had violence and full frontal nudity (the Jews in the camps). Now, I can see that it was a mistaken judgment because the context of the nudity was not an intention to sexually titillate but to accurately portray what actually happened in that dark period of history.
I could say much more, but please look at that website thoroughly and tell me what you think. I'm very curious as to what your impressions are -- or anyone else for that matter.
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Ugochi · 635 weeks ago
Thanks a lot for sharing, visiting from Titus Tuesday.
Have a super blessed day!
Love http://www.ugochi-jolomi.com/
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Jodi · 635 weeks ago
A few resources I have used are Joshua Harris books such as Not Even a Hint or I Kissed Dating Goodbye or to introduce this topic, Family Life Today has an excellent package called Passport to Purity as well as other good books. This helps to introduce this topic and open it up for discussion to which I endeavor to explain that young women are not objects for his lust but made in the image of God,etc. Thoughts for young men by JC Ryle isn't a book on the topic but exhorts a young man to pursue godliness.
This is an ongoing battle and one that I sadly had to explain to my teen that it may be for the rest of his life. But to teach him to think biblically and to turn his eyes away from worthless things as it says in psalm 119:37, as well as Job making " a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl" is a worthy battle. Thank you for your encouragement!
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My marriage.
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Brit · 634 weeks ago
We are now helping with youth in our new church. We were talking about something off this topic, but it came up somehow. Every boy in the class didn't understand or believe that it is a sin to look at a girl lustfully. They said, "that's just how God made them." I was sick to my stomach. The girls left, and my husband had a whole different talk than planned with them. It made me so angry that their Christian parents had never talked about it, protected them from it or anything (and one was the pastor's son)!!!
Lori Alexander 122p · 634 weeks ago