He Doesn't Love Her Anymore

She has been in a healthy marriage for 20 years. They have 20 acres of land, a nice home, children, and pets. She feels like she has it all, then her husband comes to her one day and says, "I don't love you anymore...I'm moving out."

Instead of throwing a fit, crying, screaming, and hitting him, she looked at him and simply said, "I don't buy it."  She then asked him, "“What can we do to give you the distance you need, without hurting the family?”

He would come home late often and spend holidays elsewhere. Instead of moping around and stewing about it, she made lemonade, cleaned dishes, and played with her children. 

She never spoke evil about her husband to her children. She told them that their dad was going through a hard time. Her friends thought she was crazy. She told them she was "ducking" and getting out of his way so he could solve his problem. She knew he was in pain.

Here is the rest in her own words ~

And one day, there he was, home from work early, mowing the lawn. A man doesn’t mow his lawn if he’s going to leave it. Not this man. Then he fixed a door that had been broken for eight years. He made a comment about our front porch needing paint. Our front porch. He mentioned needing wood for next winter. The future. Little by little, he started talking about the future.

It was Thanksgiving dinner that sealed it. My husband bowed his head humbly and said, “I’m thankful for my family.”

He was back.

She doesn't mention God or Jesus anywhere but she won him without a word. She lived her life humbly and simply in front of him and he came back. God's ways work for the believer and unbeliever alike.

She is a wise woman. She knew the value of keeping her family together and fought for her man. Women, fight for your man. Don't let the enemy destroy your precious family. This is spiritual warfare taking place in the heavenlies for the soul of your husband. Put on the full armor of the Lord every day and pray like crazy.

Love suffers long, and is kind...Love bears all things,

believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never fails.

I Corinthians 13:4,7,8

Here is the entire article from the NYT ~

Those Aren't Fighting Words, Dear