Monday, July 14, 2014

He Looks At Sexy Women!


We live in a VERY highly sexualized society. Almost everywhere we go, we see scantily clad women. They are on magazine covers in the airport, plastered on big posters in the mall, and selling burgers on television. Lot lived in a city that was overrun by sexual immorality and this is how the Bible described him, "For by what he saw and heard that righteous man, while living among them, felt his righteous soul tormented day after day by their lawless deeds"{2 Peter 2:8}.

It is difficult living in a land filled with so much blatant sin. How are we to overcome it? How can a young man keep his way pure? By keeping it according to Your word. With all my heart I have sought You; Do not let me wander from Your commandments. Your word I have treasured in my heart, That I may not sin against You {Psalm 119:9-11}.

You see, Lot didn't have the Word of God to meditate upon. He also didn't have the Holy Spirit working mightily inside of him like we do. No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it {I Corinthians 10:13}.

We, as women, will never understand how a man's mind works. We think all men who see scantily clad women want to have sex with them. We get mad at them for looking. However, one man on another blog, made this very interesting comment ~

I’m not blind. I see attractive women all the time and I don’t want them AT ALL. I want my wife. She’s 50, has had and raised five kids and it shows. It has not diminished my desire for her and her alone in the least. The curious thing is that exposure to a highly sexualized society does not make me want “sex” more and it certainly doesn't make me want that sexy woman in the commercial, it makes me want HER more. She cannot comprehend this.

Ken has tried to explain this to me before. I am beginning to understand. God gave men wives to satisfy their sexual needs for it is better to marry than to burn. Yes, they WILL see beautiful, sexy women in this world but our husbands chose us to live with all the days of our lives and most Christian husbands live faithful to us, thankfully!

Yes, most men will be attracted to a beautiful, sexy woman walking by but that doesn't mean he wants to have sex with her. It may get him more excited to have sex with you, but we need to stop taking this offensively and understand that this is the way God built them and live in an understanding, instead of judgmental way with them.

Just as most women struggle with their emotional nature, men struggle with their sexual nature. But, since the Holy Spirit lives inside of us, we are overcomers! We are new creatures in Christ. We can have victory over sin! {Just remember to give your husband lots of sex, don't try to control him in any way, and learn to please him. This makes his battle against his sexual nature SO much easier.}



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Thank you for this:) Very enlightening.
Thank you very much. I'm sure I, along with many others, need to take this to heart. It can be difficult to remember when they are bombarded with all of what world says they should desire.
I know my husband responds to seeing sexy women out there by wanting me more often. It doesn't bother me because I know that I am supposed to be there for him sexually (just as he is for me). When something gets him thinking about sex and feeling needy, he is supposed to turn to me and it brings us closer together in the process. If I turned him away when he is needy like that, it would be harder for him to focus on us and easier to lust for someone else. By being there for my husband sexually, I am helping him in the fight to stay pure and it helps our marriage as well.
I just love this. My husband tells me all the time that he prefers my post-babies body compared to anyone else. He said he doesn't know how to explain it but he is actually more attracted to me know than when we 1st got married because it shows the sacrifice I made for our children. It's hard for me to believe him and just think he's just telling me it to make me feel better about stretch marks. Hearing this from another guy about his wife is awesome. I'm working on understanding!!
My husband does not find sexy women attractive. He finds wholesome women attractive. He hates that his sisters take selfies with blank stares and pouty lips showing the top of their cleavage. To him that is just a huge "I've got problems" advertisement. He tends to be impressed by women who do things: run, bike, swim, teach, have something to say. He's a "Mr. Steady"
Like Cabinetman says, my husband has "wife goggles" :)
My husband feels the same way. He has serious wife goggles. Going through life together has just made our attraction to each other that much better.
My husband works at the mall and I know he does a LOT of people watching! I remember when I quit worrying is when he came home after he closed the store and squeezes me tight and says I'm the best thing he'd seen all day. He says I'm a sight for sore eyes even in my pjs with no make up all strung out after getting 3 kids to bed. Most guys see right through all that "game" girls think they have lol... They know who loves them takes care of them and is always there for them and that is true love and true beauty from the inside out. It doesn't get any "sexier" than that!
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KingProphetPriest · 535 weeks ago

I first came to your blog a few days ago through a link from somewhere else and I've been slowly making my way through your older writings.

When I got to this post and read the words from the man "on another blog," I thought, "hmmm, I think I read that before." Then I realized that it was my comment. I WROTE that.

Small world.

My wife still doesn't comprehend it.
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I loved it. But could you explain to me why it makes you want your wife more? I'm forever afraid that if my man in excited by the sight of another woman, even if it makes him desire me more, I would still only be there out of convenience, as he can hardly have sex with the other woman. I'm not the one that excited him in the first place.

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