Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Adorning Yourself With Submission


Most women today go to great lengths to look pretty. They fix their hair, put on make up, buy beautiful clothing that looks good on their figure, and some even have surgery to look better. We like to look pretty! We want to feel good about ourselves.

However, the Bible doesn't say anything about these things helping a women to look pretty. God tells us that a meek and quiet spirit should be what we clothe ourselves with. Do you know what else the holy women of old adorned themselves with? "Being in subjection unto their own husbands."

Here, let me give you the entire verse ~

For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands. 
I Peter 3:5

So being submissive to our husbands is how God wants us to adorn ourselves! He doesn't care about fancy hairdos, lots of makeup, or expensive clothing. He wants our hearts in submission to our husbands. Why is this so important to Him?

I believe it is for the Gospel's sake. When we are submissive to our husbands, we are showing the world an example of the church's submission to Christ. When we are submissive, there is no more arguing or quarreling in our home. We give our opinions to our husbands, then allow them to make the final decision. When he asks us to do something, we obey immediately. There is peace and unity in our homes. Others see a couple who truly loves each other. The world is hungry to see this type of marriage.

When the world sees this in a marriage, it will attract them to marriage. It will attract them to the Christ living inside of us. They will want what we have since it is so different than what they see happening around them. They may hopefully want Christ to live inside of them, so they can live a life that is abundant and free from sin, condemnation, guilt, and the coming wrath. 

All of God's commands are so the world will see Jesus in us. They are completely contrary to the way the world lives which is on a broad path to destruction. We need to walk the narrow path that leads to life in hopes of attracting others to jump on the same narrow path with us.

Therefore women, be submissive to your husbands in everything. Learn what pleases them. Stop arguing with them completely. Respect their opinions and decisions. Allow them to lead your family the way they want. Stop adorning yourself with things the world says make a woman beautiful and adorn yourself with submission and a gentle and quiet spirit which is precious in the sight of God.


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Well said! :)
Dear Lorri, This is a very true and Godly post! We're to have our marriages be an example of Christ authority not the men! For Men our also under the supreme authority also. But we do become more lovely as we are not controlling and being a source of contention in our homes and hearts and our marriages!
Loved this... Roxy
I have always struggled with this. I know it Biblically, but often in Christian homes there are differing opinions, very often with the raising of children. Husbands and wives come from different homes and we take what we have learned with us. For me it has been easy to be married to my husband, but I have friends where the husband is legalistic and domineering. I can understand some of the dilemmas that ensue. Mothers are often caught between their teens and their husbands. eg. The father is determined that his son will play football, the son has no interest and mom understands her son's dilemma. It sure isn't always black and white.
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Wife Seeking God · 555 weeks ago

Oh my gosh,please don't ever stop writing!Some of us women don't have a Titus model in our lives.We look forward to your writing AND work on it!!We need you,thank you for being there!May God Bless You Greatly!
I can't argue with the Bible, nor would I want to question God, however I find it terribly difficult to allow my husband to parent our two children. Our children do not respect me, often times I am ridiculed by my husband and children. Surely God would not want me to submit to such treatment? I have noticed that when I have a sweet spirit regardless of the situation, my home is full of peace, but my heart is being crushed.......
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I just like everything about this post Lori, & want to say so! Love & prayers, in Jesus, Cynthia
Hi Lori, I don't disagree with you just think that the scripture needs more context..."Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes; But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God. For it was thus that the pious women of old who hoped in God were [accustomed] to beautify themselves and were submissive to their husbands [adapting themselves to them as themselves secondary and dependent upon them]. (‭1 Peter‬ ‭3‬:‭3-5‬ AMP)

It's not so much that we are adorned by submission, although we can be, but it's the inward spirit. When things are going good or bad, we cry out to Jesus for His peace, a gentle spirit not a waring one that fights back.

Having recently come back to complete submission I know what this feels like on the inside and looks like on the outside. I also don't think that this is a discussion about whether we wear makeup, earring etc but if that is where we are seeking validation from our spouse or others by our external appearance and neglecting the inward woman we are doing it back to front.
Hello and many thanks for this post!

I have no problems submitting to my husband, although recently there has been one. I had my annual physical exam with our Christian doctor. I am in excellent health and take cafe of myself well, however, over the last few years I have put on a few pounds. My thyroid and bloodwork are perfect and I already have fairy good dietary and eating habits-I just need to kick up the exercise more. My doctor suggested weight loss of only 5 to 10 lbs since I am fairly close to my original weight before having our three little children and clinically am only 5 to 10 lbs overweight. The main reason is because there is a history of heart disease, diabetes and cholesterol problems in my family. I explained this to my husband, but he does not want me to lose any weight since he likes and enjoys my curvier body. What do you suggest? I personally want to follow doctors orders and feel better physically, but wouldn't that be nonsubmissive to my husband? Or would it be more sinful to not take care of my health better than I am? I considered asking them to discuss the issue together, but I don't know if that is the proper and right approach either. Is there any advice you might have? I would certainly be thankful for it.
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Sara,

If your husband likes you this way, but your doctor wants you to be healthier, there's a way to achieve both. High protein diets and healthy fats, combined with strength training workouts, will build muscular curves and help you get rid of excess fat. You can add some cardio in the mix for energy and fat burning, but don't overdo it or you'll end up losing the curves that your husband enjoys. Your doctor won't care if you weigh the same amount, as long as the extra weight is muscle and not fat. And your husband will be happy that you've kept the curvature.

I can relate, sister. My husband loves my body the way it is, but has mentioned a time or two that he liked the times I built a little extra muscle. I have a feminine figure, but I'm not extremely curvy. My husband doesn't care about me having a ton of curve, especially since he likes my body lean, but I think the extra muscle makes me look a tad less fragile. I'm 5'9" and hover around 130 (size 2-4), but if I get too close to 120, my hubby starts hinting that I need to bulk up a little. Even though I'm fine with my body at 120/125, I want to honor his preferences, so I keep a little extra weight on me.

I also recommend that wives ask their husband the length they like your hair best. Most men like long hair, though not all. My hair is currently waist-length, but my husband wants me to grow it out until it reaches my butt. That's about 9" longer than I prefer, but I'm happy to bless him in this way. I think it means a lot to our husbands when we take their preferences into consideration, especially since men are so visual.
I am strugglng with the "outward adornment" part of this post. I am a cometologist, I have been for 33 years. I've always loved what I do and have supported my children and myself. I was divorced years ago, due to my husband's infidelity to our neighbor. I am now remarried to a Christian man and I am submissive in all areas of our marriage. We have a wonderful, peaceful, content home and marriage. I now feel that worrying about my own outer appearance and making other women "beautiful" is frivolous and somewhat ungodly. Thoughts??? I feel called to do something else, but not sure what God wants from me at this point. Help!
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Thank you for your thoughts, Ken. I have been praying, a list is also a great idea. I know it needs to be something creative. I will continue to pray, to see what God reveals to me. Thanks again for you and Lori's ministry. You are a blessing to our lives.

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