Sunday, December 14, 2014

A Simple Christmas Without a Tree


When my children were young, we would go out and cut down a live tree to decorate. As they got older, I would just go to Home Depot and get one that had been cut down. I got very tired of the tree being almost completely dead and dried out a week after I put it up and the branches not being able to hold up the ornaments that I eventually went for a fake one. I loved my fake one! 

This year, I asked Ryan to put up my tree for me. Before he was going to do it, I decorated the rest of my home. I don't use many decorations. I decluttered my decorations years ago so it wouldn't take me hours to decorate and take down. Once all my decorations were up, I asked Ken if it was okay not to put a tree up. It takes a lot of time to put all the ornaments on it and take down. He said he didn't care, so we aren't having a Christmas tree this year. Yay! Christmas trees are a LOT of work.

Our home still is very festive. You can see my fireplace. I know no one will want to pin it or think what a great decorator I am like others. It just has never been my thing. I like it to be pretty but I don't care if its "pin worthy" at all! However, it feels plenty like Christmas without the tree! Life isn't about having everything decorated perfectly.

I've never gotten into the Christmas hullabaloo. It's never been a stressful time for me. I do what I feel comfortable doing and that's it. My children have never gotten a lot of presents. I don't bake a ton. I've never shopped much. I usually send out cards and a letter to those who I don't keep in contact throughout the year. We have everyone here for a big but simple Christmas Eve dinner after church and then on Sunday morning, we all go to my mom's home for brunch and sharing. Afterwards, we all go on a long hike.

I think life is easier when you're not a perfectionist and things are simple. It's so easy to get stressed out and get caught up in the hustle and bustle but Jesus never lived His life that way. We are called to be like Jesus and if Jesus was never stressed out, neither should we. After all, it's ALL about Jesus anyways.

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
Matthew 11:28-30

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I agree. I have often said that if I didn't have children I wouldn't put up a tree. This year our decoration consisted only of our tree, stockings on the mantle, and a very few things out on the front porch. And it looks just as pretty and I am not stressed out! So glad to (finally) find someone like me!! :) Merry Christmas!
1 reply · active 536 weeks ago
If my children were still at home, we'd put it up but it sure is nice and simple without it! I don't think anybody will miss it. Merry Christmas to you also, Nicole2
So confirming as to my own attitude towards holiday hullabaloo. Thx for sharing. I grew up with a stepmom who's whole life revolved around our beautiful home and how it was decorated. My dad was put to work the second everyone left for thanksgiving to clean emmaculately and hang decor, wreaths on our two story windows outside. Her home is definitely pin worthy and I want no part of that. It was ridiculous how stressed out we all were about her Christmas. And in general in her museum southern living-esque home. We got tons of presents every Christmas. My friends were always jealous. We got whatever we wanted. But I didn't have anyone buy me clothes throughout the year. I was left alone most of my childhood. All I wanted was her time. But for whatever reason that was not possible for her to give. My home is not magazine worthy but I love being in it. And people tell me they feel very comfortable here when they visit. I am not judging, but I have learned what I feel is closer to God's heart and that is time spent with my children. And time spent with God. My Christmas decorations are old and out of style I am sure. But I won't carelessly spend money I don't have on non substantial things. We will have our stockings until they tear or the kids move out. We get a new ornament for the girls each year (I did take that from my stepmom). And we keep things simple. It's hard not to overindulge on gifts as it's all I ever knew. But I try to balance it all. Very important to me.
1 reply · active 536 weeks ago
I agree. There are so many more important things to be spending money on that tons of Christmas decorations and presents. Most children would MUCH prefer their parent's time than things.
AMEN!
No tree, just music and a few candles.
Baking? My husband loves chocolate chip cookies and that's what I bake. (I do that all year around.)
Cards, only for those I don't see but Love.
Gifts are for our two adult children and always homemade. The grand kids get money. (I give them gifts year around).
Simple and full of love!
1 reply · active 536 weeks ago
Sounds perfect to me, Christine!
Great thoughts, Jane. We must always remember WHO is suppose to be glorified in our lives.
Once the children reached adulthood I stopped putting up a tree. I have simple decorations for the dining table and a small cluster of Christmas decorations on our large coffee table and that's about it. We also stopped the Christmas tree the year we brought home a new kitten that would have scaled it in no time toppling it over! Perhaps when grandchildren arrive I might put up a small tree, perhaps not!

I have done a little baking (we all love mince pies) but nothing to extravagant. We have even cut back on gifts to just a few per persons as it all gets out of control and such a waste of money.
1 reply · active 536 weeks ago
I haven't missed my tree at all. I'm not sure I'll ever put it up again. My grandbabies' parents put up a tree. It's so much extra work. I love simple and uncluttered just like you do, Jo! Oh, and my cats play with all the ornaments, mess the tree skirt and try to climb it!
great reminder!thank you!god bless!
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Melissa M. · 536 weeks ago

I have a 14-year-old son and have skipped putting up a Christmas tree a couple of years because we always spend Christmas Day with my parents or my husband's parents. Christmas trees are a lot of work to put up and even more so to take down! Merry Christmas to all!
1 reply · active 536 weeks ago
Lori, this was such an important reminder as I think moms often feel the pressure to beautify and create "Christmas magic" in their homes this time of year. I'm definitely more of a "Martha" than a "Mary," and I appreciate your reminder to focus on what is actually important!
1 reply · active 536 weeks ago
Life is too short to make a too big of a deal about decorations and stuff. We need to always make an effort to keep the main things the important things, namely relationships.
I do enjoy putting up a tree. No theme tree - just a cozy tree. I love going outside with clippers and bringing in greens and then arranging them. Gift givng - we keep it simple. No turkey dinner here either - we order in Chinese food on Christmas Eve. It's busy enough with 24 of us. Christmas Day finds us in church being so thankful that because of Christ, we have Christmas to celebrate. Lots of mini lights here - much better than the glitz in the malls.
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Yes, Maria, everyone just has to find what they enjoy and not be overwhelmed with it. It sounds like you have found a great balance.
I think that with young kids in the house it is important for us to have a real Christmas tree etc etc... However, once I don't have young kids in the house anymore and am in your stage of life I am certain I will either not do a tree at all or do a small fake tree. A small tabletop fake tree is what my dad has. I think it is totally fine! Your house looks very beautiful. The grandbabies might miss seeing a tree.
1 reply · active 536 weeks ago
No, they have a tree at their home and they love playing with all of my decorations. As long as I fix them popcorn, color with them, and throw the ball with them, they are very happy!
Love this! This is how it should be. I completely agree with making Christmas a simple time and about Jesus and our relationships.
I got tired of having a big tree, so for the past few years we have used our (fake) small tree that is so easy to manage and decorate and then take down too. I have lights around our bookcases and in the kitchen because Christmas lights are so cozy to me and make me smile! ;-) Other than that, just a few things here and there and that is about it.

I decluttered a LOT of my Christmas decor a few years ago because it was such a hassle to put up and then take down every year and I do prefer the simpler decor we have now - just "enough" to make it feel "Christmas-y" around here!
"I think life is easier when you're not a perfectionist and things are simple. " Excellent quote and I couldn't agree more! My house isn't very pin-worthy either but we have space and are comfortable in it and that's more important to me!
My grandparents and my parents always did a tabletop tree. They had some ornaments and other decorations that were passed down for the early 1900s. I loved it, very sentimental and the tradition was nice. And personal I love when the church is decorated at Christmas time.

Myself, I just do a wreath. Living in an apartment, it becomes a storage issue. I try not to have too many seasonal decorations because we lack a place to put them when they are taken down.
Your post made me smile because only last week I said to my husband that I'd like a twig tree next year. Just a very simple tree (you can google twig trees) with no decorations, just lights. This year, my 33 year old son put up our tree for us and we were very grateful. Neither of us enjoy putting up a full Christmas tree anymore. I think it's because we've done the very decorated tree thing for so many years and now we want simpler and easier (my husband is disabled and I have mobility problems). It's strange how often I get an idea in my head about something and then I start coming across similar ideas from other people. :)
Kay
Very innovative thought and experiment Lori, We can celebrate Christmas without tree by lighting and colourful decoration of our house which makes it different and attractive from all others and unique also.

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