Friday, December 5, 2014

She Wants Her Husband to Remarry


These two books are on my coffee table. Every time I want to complain I look at Kara Tippett's book. She is a young mother with four children, an amazing husband, and she is dying of cancer. She is a great writer and her passion for Jesus is evident to all. She is in constant, horrendous pain but tries to enjoy every moment the Lord has given her.

She told her husband that when she dies, she wants him to remarry since he does "husband" so good. When she first thought of dying, she didn't want him to remarry but then she realized it was selfish of her to feel this way. She prays for his future wife and encourages him to find a good one. {Could you do this?} She mourns not being able to help her daughters pick out their wedding dresses someday and being able to see her son's face when his future wife walks down the aisle. 

All of us will one day die. The Bible states,"Since his days are determined, The number of his months is with You; And his limits You have set so that he cannot pass" {Job 14:5-7}. There is a time to live and a time to die. Kara's time is probably not too far away. Many of us have no idea when our time will come but it will come. However, we are commanded to not complain about anything but to give thanks instead. If Kara can give thanks in spite of her pain and knowing she will die soon leaving four young children behind, so can we.

Erin Harrison lives with chronic daily pain also yet she manages to keep a clean and tidy home, plus she is homeschooling her five children. She freely ministers to anyone the Lord puts into her path. Erin also inspires and encourages me to keep on going when the going gets tough. If she can keep her home clean and tidy in the midst of pain and homeschooling five children, so can I! I love what Nancy Leigh DeMoss says about the value of order in a home ~

The heart of domesticity is a devotion to home life. It's a heart for the home. When we are being domestic, when we are having a heart for our homes, for our environment, when we're concerned about preparing and making available food and clothing for our family members, when we're concerned about making our home look attractive and keeping it from being a place of chaos, but rather making it a place of order, we're really reflecting the heart of the Lord Jesus. Home should be a haven from the chaos of the world.

Erin is diligent about keeping an orderly home. I just spent a long time on the telephone with her yesterday and her greatest desire is to serve and minister to her husband and her children. She loves gardening with her children, cleaning house with them, singing and playing instruments together, fixing them healthy, nutritious food and teaching them all about God and His glory. Just seeing Erin's book {She has a 50% off sale going on today until midnight!} reminds me to be content at home, keep my home clean and be thankful for the life the Lord has given me. She encourages me to live a life of ministry and not for myself and to live virtuously in the midst of a dark and decaying world.

Both of these women are godly women who want to live lives pleasing to the Lord. I love to learn and be inspired by women like them. Order their books and support them and their families if you have the means. It will be money well spent!

Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, 
just as you also are doing.
I Thessalonians 5:11

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It's inspiring to see women rising to the challenges of their lives with wisdom and diligence. Sometimes housekeeping and illness are the challenge. Sometimes the challenges are more related to food and shelter than to household chores. No matter what, it's sure admirable.

If my husband is ever left alone by my demise, I would certainly want him to eventually find joy in a new romance (should the opportunity present itself, and if he is so inclined). I love him. I wish him the happiest life he might have, even if it's the case of a future without me. I can't imagine being both dead *and* selfish! It strikes me as terribly mean-spirited to imagine hoping that my loved ones would never be happy again with someone else, if I pass away.
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I imagine a lot of people dying young and leaving their spouses behind probably wouldn't want to think or talk about it because it would be too painful to think of them being with someone else. I think Kara is amazing, however. Her whole attitude about the entire situation could only be given to her through the power of the Lord living inside of her.
Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment on my blog, Lori. I finished Kara's book a few weeks ago. Not an easy read. A friend recommended her book but I told her that I didn't think I could handle facing her sadness. I'm glad she convinced me to read it because it's so much more than just learning how to die well... Kara is teaching us how to LIVE WELL.

I'll have to check out the other book you recommended. I also finished reading, Pursuing an Intentional Life by Fleming. It was very, very good!
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I normally hate to read about anyone dealing with cancer, radiation and chemo also because it is all so very painful but she is so inspiring about the way she deals with it by relying on God's grace and strength. Her testimony will long outlive her. I am sure many have come to believe in Jesus because of her willingness to share her peace in the midst of pain.
Hi Lori!
I have a paper version of Living virtuously, and a kindle version or Kara's book. Can't wait to read them both! I have a lot of books on my reading list. This has always been an issue for me. It hurts too much to think about it now. But I am slowly getting used to the issue. If my husband wishes to remarry after my passing it's ok. I'll be dead anyway so I won't know about it. Will make no difference to me. :-)
Wow. I feel like God is definitely wanting me to read Kara's book. It's amazing how God can wink at you some times and you just KNOW. I had never even heard of The Hardest Peace until - literally - last night. I was at my church for our annual Christmas Party. We do a white elephant party every year and when it was my turn, I picked a gift that happened to have this book inside. I had never heard of it before and after reading the back cover, I hoped no one would steal it (stealing is part of the game). Then today I causually get on Pinterest and see your post with Erin and Kara's books. My jaw dropped! What are the odds?? I'm a regular reader of your blog so God knew what it would take to get my attention. Thank you Lori for all you do! You are a blessing. You have inspired me to start a blog one day. I will let you know when I do! You are in my prayers.
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KingProphetPriest · 536 weeks ago

I know it's a bit late for a comment on this thread, but it made me think of a similar situation which went even farther.

James Wesley Rawles is one of the best-known authors in the survivalist/prepper community. His blog, survivalblog.com, is the largest online resource for this community.

As devout Christians living a demanding rural lifestyle and homeschooling their children, the terminal diagnosis she received was staggering.

What did this godly wife do? She recognized her husband's need for a helpmate and went looking for a new wife for him, with her husband's blessing.

After reaching out on her husband's blog, she found a suitable candidate. Following her death, Rawles married the woman she selected for him, a young widow with children of her own. Although it doesn't nicely fit within the "finding new romance" theme you might see in modern society, it seems to have worked out well for this family.

You can read the late wife's post about her search for a new wife for her husband here: http://survivalblog.com/from_the_memsahib_on_my_b...

This is one of the most selfless acts I have seen from a wife.

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