Her husband does a lot of the shopping and cooks many meals. He loves to vacuum and clean bathrooms. He NEVER leaves his clothes on the floor! He's a wonderful father and buys her flowers often. Her husband is amazing and everyone would agree. How do you respond when you hear this and your husband has NEVER cleaned a toilet, loves to watch lots of television, and rarely buys you anything?
When you have a husband that has fallen short of your expectations, how are you to handle this disappointment? Joyfully. Tell your friend what a great husband she has and then go over in your mind all the great qualities your husband possesses. You must never let someone's husband make you dissatisfied with the one that you've chosen.
Also, you must never speak poorly of your husband to others when he doesn't do the things you want or act the way you think he should act. Don't let others speak poorly of your husband either. Having a husband that helps with housework and showers you with flowers isn't great gain; godliness with contentment is GREAT gain!
Your circumstances aren't what God commands that you rejoice over. He commands that you rejoice over all the riches you have in Christ: dead and freed from sin, walking in newness of life, delivered from wrath and condemnation, etc. If you are a believer, you have ALL these things in abundance. You are blessed and a mansion is being prepared for you. The God of the universe lives inside of you and loves you.
This life has nothing whatsoever to do with how much your husband helps or how he treats you. It has everything to do with glorifying Him and being content in whatever situation you are in knowing that all things work together for good to those who love God and are called according to His purposes.
We must have NO other idols besides Jesus before us; not our marriage or wanting a husband, not our children or wanting children, not our health or food, not our home, not our blog or job, etc. We are called to seek those things above. If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God. {Colossians 3:1-3}
We must have NO other idols besides Jesus before us; not our marriage or wanting a husband, not our children or wanting children, not our health or food, not our home, not our blog or job, etc. We are called to seek those things above. If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God. {Colossians 3:1-3}
Therefore, the next time you read about or hear how wonderful someone's husband is, don't be discouraged or get upset and unhappy with your husband. Speak Truth to yourself and REJOICE; for this is the day that the Lord hath made. Keep your eyes focused upon the Lord and His goodness and continually renew your mind with His many promises to you.
