Sunday, January 11, 2015

Friends For Almost Forty Years!



There is not one friend that I can recall being close to in elementary school. There was one friend who lived across the street for awhile in junior high that I loved and we had wonderful times together. Through high school, I hung out with some girls in the class under me who were fun and kind, but other than this, I didn't ever have a best friend that stuck closer than a sister to me. I literally thought something was wrong with me. Many girls were actually cruel to me while I was growing up. My sisters, however, had wonderful girl friends!

For college, my dad decided he wanted me to go to Westmont College in Santa Barbara. When I was getting packed and ready to go, I remember my Mom telling me that she couldn't wait for me to bring all of my girlfriends home for a weekend. I responded, "What girlfriends? I've never been able to find and keep kind and loving girlfriends."

I was placed in an old dorm at Westmont called Page Hall. I didn't know anyone in my dorm. All of the women you see in the pictures above lived on the 3rd floor in the B Section with me, except the middle one. We became close friends almost from the beginning. There is not a mean one in the bunch. We LOVED each other. We hung out together all the time. On the weekends, we'd go to each other's home and raid the refrigerator and laugh a ton! I can't recall one argument, cross word or unkindness between any of us, ever.

We have now known each  for almost 40 years. None of us have ever been divorced. We all love Jesus and all of our husbands love Jesus. We are growing older together. The top picture was taken almost 40 years ago. We all gathered together the past few days and took a picture of all of us in the same order except the woman in the center. She's a different person whose name is Lynn; the sister of Jan, the second from the right who has become very dear to all of us and fits right in.  

Most of us were in each other's wedding. We went to all the baby showers that we were able to attend. We'd all gather for many New Years Eves and celebrate together with our husbands and children. All of our husbands enjoy each other and get along great! {We wanted some of our children to like each other and get married but that never happened!}

We supported Sandy when her husband got sick and passed away. We've ALL had trials and sufferings. There's been illnesses, prodigal children, financial strain and rough times in some marriages. We laughed, shared, ate and cried this weekend together. We shared our faith and our hope in the Lord. We pray for each other. We love each other. We are blessed.

A friend loves at all times, 
and a brother {or sisters in Christ} is born for adversity.
Proverbs 17:17

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Kathy in Illinois · 533 weeks ago

This is such a happy post! How wonderful you all have remained friends for 40 years and get together when you can. You all have aged well!
God bless, Kathy in Illinois
What a wonderful, encouraging post! I too went to Westmont and have friends that I am still in touch with too. All are married, no divorces and all are still following the Lord. We had wonderful times together and it was my first time having lots of Christian friends. It was a very happy time in my life. Thanks for the encouraging post and letting me relive my happy memories too!
Lori

What a blessing friends are, and how lovely to see these pictures!
thank you for sharing them
Blessings
Helen UK
What an amazing blessing God has given you in those friends. Makes me think of my twin aunts who are just two years older than I & how I need to write them a letter. Love & prayers, in Jesus, Cynthia P.S We were talking in church today about agape love & how that it a love like no other that God gifts the family of God with! Wonderful!
Wow! Thanks SO much for sharing. You are definitely blessed. I would love to find something like that. I think I will pray for that and keep your example in my "specific" prayers.
Wonderful story and pictures. I know the joy. I have friends who date back to the cradle. The survivors still meet once a month for lunch, with walkers and canes. We've loved and enjoyed each other for 85 years__or starting when we were aware of each other.
I hope I am as lovely as all of you when I'm your age.
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Lady Virtue · 532 weeks ago

This is a great post, Lori; thanks for sharing. It's so rare to see lasting marriages and friendships these days. I echo Jamie's comment, also; the pics of you and your friends are lovely. :-)
Great pictures capturing the years together! As another poster stated, I have not been able to find a "true" friend in my 36 years. I've had some good ones for a time, but none that were like a sisterhood. Maybe this is an area I should spend prayer time on. Thanks for the encouragement!
Dear Lori,
I'm struggling with a "frenemy" relationship, and I'm having a hard time learning to humbly love her. I've talked with my husband about this, and he has encouraged me to ask a wise older woman I trust. I hesitate to ask anyone from our church, not wanting to put a wedge between the two women. I believe it started with jealousy on her part, but since then I've given way to a "fighting back" attitude. I want to let go of this, but I'm not exactly sure where to start. Do you have any advice?
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Rachel, Good overcomes evil! You simply love her, be warm to her, and always be friendly with her for love covers a mulitude of sins. Fighting passion with passion ignites into a fire. Be Jesus to her. I have won "frenemies" back this way! God's ways work.
Thanks, Lori.

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