Crystal from Crystal and Co. Blog asked me to write a post for her once a week. I knew the majority of her readers probably weren't Christian since her blog isn't geared towards Christian teaching, so I tried to write posts that weren't too tough on the women. However, I wrote a post called Staying in a Miserable Marriage and she was bombarded with comments on how I promote abuse and how wrong I am to teach women to obey their husbands.
Okay, I thought, if they already have figured out that I teach women to obey their husbands, I guess I'll write a post on this topic. Therefore, I wrote Are Wives Supposed to Obey Their Husbands? Then, of course, we heard how wives would get abused if I wrote about obedience because we all know that if children begin obeying their parents, their parents begin abusing the children and if citizens begin obeying their government, the government begins abusing the citizens, right? As if submission and obedience causes abuse!
Shortly afterwards, Ken sent me a segment done by a popular television psychologist in which he said something like, "A husband should never ever tell a wife what to do. Wives are like cats and they will just claw you if you do." They showed his wife nodding her head in agreement and mouthing "never."
ALL leaders are allowed to tell those under them what to do. It doesn't mean that those under them are second class citizens; children and citizens aren't second class citizens just as wives are not. The bottom line is that most wives have a deep rooted problem with obeying their husbands.
We easily obey our government, our boss and our teacher, but our husband, no way! We are taught that if we obey them, they just might beat us up. Where do you think this lie comes from? Satan himself. When wives don't submit to and obey their husbands they are disobeying God. A house divided falls. When their isn't one leader, chaos usually reigns. One or the other will end up being the leader and it is usually the wife as this psychologist and his wife so easily proved.
Marriage is the foundation of our society. Within a strong family unit, children are raised and nurtured to be secure. These children grow up to be productive members of society. When the family unit disintegrates, society disintegrates. This psychologist drank the feminist's Kool Aid along with most professionals in the marriage counseling industry and it is causing havoc on marriages and ultimately, we all pay the consequences.
Drink from the Word of Life, instead. It is nourishing to your body and soul. It is Truth. God's Truth and His living water will always trump society's empty, unhealthy Kool Ade.
For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.
Hebrews 4:12
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Jessica · 532 weeks ago
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helen · 532 weeks ago
Great post!, I put submission into practice daily, though of course no one is saying it is always easy, me least of all, but so worth it!.
Its such a tiny thing to mention but I have taken down my 'fancy' curtains downstairs today and replaced them with the heavy ones I SHOULD use in winter.
I had put the nice 'fancy' ones up before Christmas to brighten things up and I MUCH prefer them and was going to leave them up. However, my husband said to me last night that would I put the other ones back up as we really need them in this cold weather. In the past I wouldn't have actioned this request for ages. I really don't enjoy doing this particular job because it takes AGES and is very fiddly with all the hooks and I don't like the winter ones to be honest!. There is nothing wrong with them, they are in good condition and I feel it would be wasteful to buy more when they are still fine.
I made it my first task on the list this morning and when he gets in from work he will be pleased that I have done what he asked without complaining. I wouldn't have been so willing in the past!
I know its a small silly example but being faithful in little things like this helps when the big stuff comes along!.
Blessings
Helen UK
Ken · 532 weeks ago
The whole show is about research done at a university that showed that women, even stay at home Mom's with children, have as much leisure time as men do. The researcher was brought out in a hockey goalie's gear for protection from the upset women who hated his research. At one point one person says, "If so many women are opposed to your findings don't you think you need to redo your research?" In other words, "We don't like the truth of what you are saying, so can you please go color it up so that we can keep believing that our men have more down time than we do." The researcher just calmly stood his ground behind the research.
Dr. Phil asks the young husband why he doesn't just get in there and do the housework and dishes himself. He responds something like, "I do on weekends, but during the week I am tired when I get home and I know that my wife has the time to get much more done around the home during the day."
Then Dr. Phil goes into the most stupid advice I have ever heard from anyone with an absolute, "NEVER tell your wife what to do, EVER." Then he justifies it in that his wife will not listen to a word he tells her to do. The camera pans to her face and she is vehemently shaking her head in approve and mouthing the words "NEVER." She then says something like she has never liked anyone telling her what to do, and Dr. Phil illustrates this by saying something like if the place was burning down and everyone was headed for the exits, if he told his wife to run to the exit she would do the opposite.
SICK! And I do not mean this in a good way. Dr. Phil is inflicting a sickness upon marriages that has to stop. If a spouse, husband or wife says anything to the other spouse, we must stand up and listen and try to do it. Never should we be programmed to do the opposite, and ever should we be unwilling to accept constructive criticisms or suggestions from a spouse.
Dr. Phil, your advice is lethal to marriages and if this is the type of advice you are giving regularly you need to get out of the marriage counseling business. Certainly a young, hardworking husband needs to be gentle in his approach to coaching his wife who is at home all day with two young children, but if they are to be a team together, she needs to look and see how much down time she really has, and evaluate if indeed she does not have the extra 30-60 minutes each day to tidy up more and have dinner on the table.
The idea that a spouse is to be left alone because they may claw you like a cat is the worst advice ever. All the while the audience cheers the stupidity and lack of wisdom this counsel brings to marriages. If we want to heal marriages both spouses must look in the mirror and confront the truth. And that mirror should mostly be your own spouse, and the scriptures, not some popular psychologist who cannot tell his wife anything or she will do the opposite.
Cynthia Swenson · 532 weeks ago
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Jo · 532 weeks ago
PS I own a beautiful black cat (much more fluffy than your picture) and she is an angel!!
Harley · 532 weeks ago
EHC · 532 weeks ago
I have quite a few good Christian friends that have initiated divorce with and divorced their husbands. All of them feel justified in divorcing their husbands (no infidelity in any of the marriages). I know that all of them are sincere Christians but they did not receive godly advice when they were encountering difficulty in their marriages. Can my friends really move forward in their lives without acknowledging they were wrong in divorcing their husbands? How would you counsel divorcees? Would you advise them to reconcile and re-marry their husbands (if neither have re-married)? There's a lot of pre-divorce counseling out there and post-divorce therapy but I don't see much biblical post-divorce counseling.
EHC · 532 weeks ago
Dave · 517 weeks ago