Thursday, November 19, 2015

The Heavy Burden Men Carry


When we were young and raising children, Ken worked extremely hard and has for many years. He was gone traveling half of the year and when he was home, he spent many hours in his office every day talking to clients and working on scheduling, building plans, etc. He took the job that God gave him to work hard and support his family very seriously.

My dad was the same way. He traveled almost an hour to work each day and got home every night around 7:00 after leaving around 6:00 in the morning. He never wanted my mom to work and knew he was the one to support his family.

Men carry a heavy burden of supporting their families, yet this is the way God intended it to be. As Melissa in the chat room said, "An older woman encouraged me when my husband was working TWO full-time jobs. She said, 'He was made to work. He can handle this.'" This is why God gave them ten times the testosterone and a much more muscular build than women. They are also much stronger than us and have more energy to accomplish the role that God gave them. 

Women, on the other hand, are the "weaker vessel" according to God's Word. God gave us the role of bearing and nurturing our children. He gave us the role of WORKING in our home; not being lazy and entertaining ourselves. It takes a lot of time to train and discipline children, keep a neat and tidy home, fix nourishing meals and be a help meet to our husbands, but since our work is in the home, we don't have to deal with the stress that our husbands have to deal with in meeting deadlines and making their bosses, clients, etc. happy and satisfied plus bringing in enough income to support a family. 

Why women ever fought for the right to leave their homes so they can have careers is beyond me. Why would they want to take up the man's curse along with their own of pain in childbirth? It ended up being a big, fat deception from Satan since women thought they could find contentment outside of the home. They are not built for careers in the same way that men are. There is nothing in the Bible that matches the feminist's agenda: having careers outside of the home; having equal pay with men; being able to do what men do; birth control that gives a woman the right to decide when to have children; abortion when pregnancy was inconvenient; preschool so they could work, etc. Show me one verse that supports the feminist's agenda! You won't find one so please never say you are a feminist if you love the Lord and His ways, since feminist's ways are completely contradictory to His plan for women. Instead, believe God's Word and His ways for men and women.

Thanks to the feminist's movement we also have many divorces. Since women so badly wanted careers, they expect their husbands to be "mommy's helper" and are upset with them if they are not. They are trying to find satisfaction outside of the role the Lord has given them and they will NEVER find it there. 

God's role for you, women, is very good. If your husband works his tail off providing for you, thank him! Spend his money wisely. Live within his income. Make sure you always make him a priority in your life. Build him up to your children and others. Providing an income for your family is a heavy burden they must bear all of their lives, so instead of complaining {which is sin}, express your appreciation often to them for this is God's role for men.

And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life; Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field; In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.
Genesis 3:17-19

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shanon brugh · 488 weeks ago

Haha, was this written for me?
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Lady Virtue · 488 weeks ago

Lots of great points here, particularly the one about the woman's God-designed weaker vessel nature being suited for the role of wife, mother, and keeper at home. Your question about why women would want to take on the man's curse along with our own is also one I've wondered about frequently. The Bible says that male and female created He them. Males and females are very different, but complimentary to each other when we function in our God-given roles. The Lord knew what He was doing.

Excellent blog post today!
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I worked for many years, all through high school and college and a graduate degree. I didn't marry until my mid-thirties so I had a lot of time out there in the work force. Over the years, I found myself becoming very calloused in order to cope with the workplace and the tremendous amount of frustration and anger in my coworkers and eventually in myself. I would compare it to a person who worked with their hands all the time, eventually developing hardened, calloused skin. To this day I have to take this to the foot of the Cross. I don't want my daughters to hear that edge in my voice or see it in my dealings with family and friends. When I speak to young moms in my church or neighborhood who express frustration at being home, I tell them my story. I assure them that working outside the home is WAY overrated. Those little children will rise up and call you blessed one day. They are a far better investment than any career.
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My family is unconventional. My husband and I were only blessed with one child -- now 17. We both have degrees and I'm good at working and making money and my husband loves to cook and decorate -- and he's a very manly man.

Throughout our son's life, we have taken turns at staying home and nurturing him -- with the other working good jobs. My son is a wonderful Christian young man who's gotten the best of both of us. My husband and I made these decisions very prayerfully. I guess my question is -- does God not approve of our lifestyle? If I had been a stay-at-home-mom and my husband had to work all the time, we would have both been unhappy, so we kind of split the bill. Is that really wrong?

I love to read this blog as spiritual encouragement and love that so many families homeschool, but I believe that God gave my family different talents and we've used them.
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But, what I DO love about the feminist movement is that it makes the revealing of the fruit so much easier! False teaching is becoming so easy to spot, all we need to do is look at their lives and you can see what flows out of their mouths and actions about and towards the men in their lives.
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Wow! This was a great post. Thank you for being in His timing to post this. What the older woman (as well as what you had to say) said to Melissa was exactly what I needed to hear this morning. When I read the part of "He can handle this" the Holy Spirit said to me "and so I can I"! My husband works 2nd shift as a machinist (a very physically draining job) and his hours are increasing a lot which is a blessing but he has also been to the doctor and blood work has shown that his testosterone levels are pretty low so my worry levels have increased a bit. As his wife I'm trying hard to figure out healthy ways to naturally increase his testosterone without chemicals. Time for more prayer and more research. Thanks for the "pick me up" post! ;-)
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I am in a difficult position and would appreciate your input. My husband has always been a hard worker as the family provider, Several years ago, he lost his job and took something "temporary" that was 100% commission, with no base. We struggled for quite some time, until an opportunity opened up at the school my children attended. I took the job so I was able to be with them during the school day, be off when they were off, and bring in some additional income. A few years later, my husband wasn't bringing in much money at all, so I took an additional part time job to help tide us over. It's now 4 years past that, and I am still working 2 jobs. My husband has lost another job, and has tried several things to provide an income, with no luck. He is a godly man with so much to offer, but cannot find a job. He's struggled with depression, but the Lord has been faithful. He is coming out of the depression and feeling more hopeful. I am seeking your advice. We love the Lord and seek to obey him, but I don't know what to do. It's very hard on me working two jobs, and very hard on him not being able to find one. I have encouraged him to take something, anything, for the time being. He thinks about it, but so far, hasn't taken that step. We live simply, don't take vacations, drive old vehicles, and are very frugal. I'm at a loss for what I should do. Any advice would be appreciated.
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Christine Williams · 488 weeks ago

I am in absolute agreement with this article! I was also a working woman, I ended up having a 'great' career. My breaking point the first time around was when being dropped off to work, my eldest son (4 at the time) would pipe out the car window "See you tomorrow mum". That got me right at the heart strings & from that moment I slowly declined into a pit of bitterness. I was still working full time at night, trying to care for the home during the day. My husband & I never saw each other. We then fell pregnant with our second child. Again I worked right up until due, birthed our blessing & then fell into a very bad case of PND. To 'get over it' I was advised to go back to work, which I did & became even worse. I was a wreck, crying all the time, hating, bitter woman, who even at the time, shouted I regretted both my husband & children. I made the decision to become a stay at home mum. We were ridiculed, told it wasn't going to work, I have even been accused of being a 'lazy slob' (although my home & appearance say otherwise). It is a hard road & can be difficult as I personally feel like I am having to defend our choice. Having said that, I have never felt more joyous, my home has never been this beautiful & our marriage has never been stronger. xx
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By the way, this article was spot on! Loved it, Lori!
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I am struggling a little in this area. I have been a stay at home mom to my children now 17, 15, and 11. My husband is wanting me to go back to work, but only working about 2-3 Saturdays a month (I have a degree in health care). He isn't pushing me. In fact, if I told him that I really DON'T want to, he would support that. But, I KNOW that this is really what HE wants, so I feel I would be going against him. He works really hard, even doing side jobs, and a little extra income I know would ease his mind. Any thoughts?
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A little while ago, my husband read out an article to me written by a woman who complained and nagged at her husband for laying around all the time and left his muddy shoes in the middle of the floor and never helped with housework. One day when he came home from work, he did as usual, and she started to pick up around him as he slept. All the while feeling increasingly angry at him for being lazy once again. She went to pick up his very expensive-not even 6 month old boots and turned them over to see if he had any mud stuck on the bottom of his boots. And she got the shock of her life. In the bottom of his shoes were holes from being worn through. And she started sobbing. Her husband had been working so hard he had worn out his boots already. She had written that article as a warning to other women to not go down the same path. Great post!
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I'm new to this blog and trying to understand your teachings. If women are not supposed to be in the workforce, who should be performing certain professions/jobs that are geared towards or better-suited for women such as nurses and gynecologists? If I were hospitalized with a serious illness, I think a female nurse would be much better suited to care for my needs than a man. Also, I'm not comfortable with a male OB/GYN, so I'm thankful that there are women working in those professions. What do you think? And do you think all these roles were performed by men in biblical times?
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