For all of you who would like a recipe for a rotten marriage, here it is!
A wife and husband who both work full-time.
Two young children in preschool.
Wife expects husband to put away the kid's jacket, get the baby bottle, rinse his plate, put his shoes in the closet, take out the garbage, and fold his own laundry when they get home from work.
When he doesn't do these things, yell at him, "Actually, can you just do it? It's not helping me out. It's just putting your kid's sh*t away."
He obeys his wife.
View your husband as your partner and your equal.
Instead of ever asking him to help you out again, since you are partners, simply tell him to get his sh*t out of the way since this will: (1) not diminish his value; (2) won't put undue responsibility on you; (3) will set an example for the children you want them to see and (4) it won't diminish your partnership.
Tada! Then you'll have a happy and healthy family!
Now, can any of you reading this raise your hand if you think this will produce the results she intends for it to produce? Zero chance. In reality, this will produce a rotten marriage which, hopefully not, will end in divorce. Can you see how far from God's design for marriage and our roles this is and how feminism has destroyed marriage, children and family life? Wives with young children shouldn't be leaving their children all day. A husband who has been working hard to provide for his family shouldn't have to fold his own laundry and do a lot of housework when he gets home.
Oh, but God's ways are so backwards and ancient. Yes, they would just set women back into the Stone Age where they would be home all day with their precious children disciplining, training, teaching and playing with them. They would have all day to shop for and cook nourishing food for their family, do the housework and be ready to love on their husband when they came home, instead of coming home to fast food, having little time with their children and swearing at their husbands.
I write posts for my blog trying to convince as many Christian women as possible the futility of feminism and going against God's design for us. We are the "weaker vessel" and God created us to be at home caring for our family; for those who are married with children. This is one of those GOOD things that God commands older women to teach young women and it is a very good thing! Unfortunately, even Christian women continue to listen to the lies of Satan that have wreaked havoc on everyone, including society. Go quickly back to the ancient paths that God has designed for you. Please don't be like the feminists who shout at God, "We will NOT walk in it!" Instead, (1) go home; (2) raise your children; (3) be your husband's help meet; (4) work hard at home and (5) find rest for your souls. This is the recipe for a healthy family and marriage!
Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. But they said, We will not walk therein.
Jeremiah 6:16
Lady Virtue · 484 weeks ago
Sadly, also, many men expect and want their wives employed in the labor force. That is the husband's responsibility, not the wife's. The devil has fooled many into thinking that men and women are the same and have no value to each other except for a financial and/or sexual one. May God open blinded eyes, causing us to turn to Him in repentance and walk the old paths.
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Mrs.M · 484 weeks ago
Teaching their children apologetics, theology, history, and reading great literature with them. Reading and learning about finances and economics in order to better run the household and the family budget. Learning about nutrition and home healing remedies. Exercising their creative talents by baking, cooking, decorating, creating, etc. Discussing world events and politics with their husband over dinner. Being a fruitful member of the household of God by actually having the time to participate in ministry and devote to prayer. Using their gifts and talents to help further their husband's career. whether that means proofreading speeches, entertaining colleagues, or giving wise perspective (when asked) about problems at the office.
To say a woman needs a paid career to use her gifts, talents, and brain is such a narrow-minded view of the matter!
Lori, I think you would really enjoy this article on the matter, below is a brief quote from it. http://botkinsisters.com/article/the-truth-about-...
"In Scripture, man’s work and woman’s work are equally valid – wifehood, motherhood, homemaking, and femininity are not belittled, and women are not guilt-manipulated into living and acting like men. On the contrary; woman’s distinctiveness from man is praised and honored, and her unique role is held vital. Women were to be protected and cherished, to “attain honor” (Prov. 11:16) and be “praised in the gates” (Prov. 31:31). It wasn’t until the advent of women’s “liberation” that women were told, “Your value as a woman is determined by how well you can perform as a man. Being a woman is no longer enough.”
jeff · 484 weeks ago
Thank you for your ministry. I would like to say that even a SAHM can be a feminist even if she is doing the laundry and making meals. Feminism is of the heart, not just what we see in the world and in christianity. My wife has settled down in her rebellion, but it is still there under the surface and is very palpable with the looks she will give me, the comments she makes and discussion on things.
She sees the big picture of feminism, but doesn't see that subtle female rebellion IS feminism. Even a young lady raised in a strong christian family has feminist tendencies, which is rebellion against her father or husband and even to her mother.
Our son is at the age where he can leave home. He is very handsome and has a very masculine way about him, more so than I did at his age. Girls and even grown women are very attracted to him.
She does not see how the subtle rebellion in young women will tear him apart and when/if he gets married he can find himself manipulated (like my wife did me) into following her rebellion and ultimately tearing his house down around him. Not to mention the courting world is no different than dating... he could be accused of things and be guilty before being proved innocent. I am doing my best to teach him, but my wife sees it as misogyny to teach him about gender dynamics what it is like out there.
He is a great leader and I don't want him to be without a helpmeet, but cannot fathom the difficulty young men face in this age. I guess that is why they are MGTOW.
Anon M · 484 weeks ago
My husband doesn't help me around the house. He says if I want help, that's why God gave me children. To train them to help. Occasionally he helps out. But it's because he chose to. And sometimes he won't because he doesn't know how I like things done or what the routine is. Some husbands will jump in and help if they see a wife is struggling. And that may mean keeping kids busy or taking them out so mum can get peace and quiet for a while. The woman who wrote the article was looking at it from the wrong perspective. She should of thanked him for spending time with the kids. And put the kids coat away herself. About the only thing she got half right was that she was going to quit nagging him about it.
Talita · 484 weeks ago
I am busy walking Chinese (Mandarin) classes. Here in Taiwan is a great need for woman to understand their role as a woman. Here it is all about work, work, work. Confucius doctrine, if I could say it like that.
It will be a miracle if I can ever teach in Chinese. God help me. I am terrible with other languages except my own. To be able to communicate in English is a miracle in it self.
Lori, I study Chinese, I learn from your blog, I follow Erin's blog and read her books and so as No Greater Joy's teachings as well and I study my Bible.
Hopefully as my children are leaving the house I will be well equipped to teach the younger woman in Taiwan. (I am Afrikaans speaking)
Thank you for your ministry.
Lauren · 484 weeks ago