The world's wisdom is foolishness to God. The world tells you that if your husband is harsh, you don't need to submit to him nor obey him. The world tells us that women can preach the Word in pulpits as well as men can, so the admonition in the Word that commands only men to be pastors, elders and deacons must be outdated. The world laughs at the suggestion that a wife should be her husband's help meet. We are not of the world, nor do we care what the world believes. We are told to seek the Lord and His wisdom so this is what we must do.
If you look at your husband and can't find any reason to want to help him - and I know some of you are married to men like that - then look to Christ and know that it is He who made you to be a help meet.* There is NO perfect husband out there. There is NO husband who loves his wife as Christ loves the church since no husband is perfect. There is no perfect wife either and this is why we must continually seek wisdom from the Lord.
The day you married your husband, you made a covenant with him until death do you part. This covenant is an example to a lost world of Christ and His church. Cherish your marriage. Cherish your role of being a help meet. Always remember that your enemy is Satan and NOT your husband. Fight for your marriage with prayer, the Word and with your godly behavior. Don't ever allow the enemy to tear apart what God ordained!
It was nothing short of divine wisdom that enabled me to understand that destructiveness of taking personal offense when my husband did things that seemed unfair, selfish, or harsh...You can decide to be in a constant state of anger and bitterness, or you can ask God for the wisdom to live each day in a state of honoring your man for God's sake.* Taking personal offense, anger and bitterness will NEVER draw your husband to you or make your marriage better. I don't know why we think it will and continue to use the same tactics over and over again while our marriage slowly deteriorates. {Ken told me this was the definition of insanity!}
You need wisdom to see how feeling sorry for yourself is FAR from the heart of God...God's rules are not there to put you in bondage, but to help you make a man want to cherish, protect and love you.* Self-pity is satanic. It's taking your eyes off of the Lord and putting them on yourself. We are commanded to set our affection on things above, not on things on the earth {Colossians 3:2}. Think how ineffective the Apostle Paul would have been if he felt sorry for himself when he was going through all of his difficulties. No, instead he wrote, For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us {Romans 8:18}.
Obey God, women, by obeying your husbands. Trust that the Creator of the universe has it all under control. He has made your husband your leader so learn to be a godly, submissive follower with a gentle and quiet spirit. It will make your husband's job as leader a whole lot easier and it will, most likely, draw your husband to you!
***Please feel free to write quotes that touched you in the comment section or questions and insights you may have!
*Quotes taken from the book.
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HappyHomemaker · 484 weeks ago
This is absolutely my prayer. My PURPOSE and CALLING in this life is to be my husband's help meet, and I know God doesn't gives tasks that you can't do. He has equipped me for my job, I just have to stop back and follow His lead.
Would you have me believe that only in these last few decades, as the world shifted to a "women's liberation" philosophy, that suddenly a few preachers who "studied Greek" in college for three years should discover that the world is right after all?---Pg 53
When my husband, who is a Bible scholar, and for many years, also a student of Greek, wants to know what God says, he always opens his KJV Bible first. ---Pg 53
It seems people always try to change God's word to suit their purpose. Or at the very least, they try to explain why they alone are the exception. I know I am a gullible person sometimes and I have also seen how people try to take things out of context or explain the cultural setting ect... For this reason, I will only read the KJV, and most of the time if I am reading a book that uses another translation, I will look up the verse in my KJV and read it instead of, or alongside whatever translation they are using.
3. God tells the wives to be subject to their husbands in everything, every decision, every move, every plan, and all everyday affairs.---Pg 54
Note that what God commands a woman to do does not hinge on the man loving his wife as Christ loved the Church.---Pg 54
There is peace and joy in knowing that you are right where you were created to be.---Pg 54
I LOVED reading this because it is so true. I sometimes feel like what I do isn't important and fall into the trap that I am only a stay at home wife, what I really need to do in those times is stop trying to make myself seem useful and just trust that I am useful because I am doing as I am called. My husband is my job, taking care of him, our child, and our home. God gave me this job and it is my true calling.
Thankfully, God has offered us women wisdom that allows me to daily choose what my future will be. ---Pg 55
Honestly, this one hits me kind of hard. When I am down in the dumps or anxious and worried, I would do good to read this. Some people won't understand this, but I will still tell it. I lost my mom last year, and yes, it hurt. And I have a tendency to get depressed sometimes, but my husband wouldn't let me. He flat out told me "look, you just have to get over it and go on with life. You can't dwell on it". Some people would call him cruel or insensitive, but it was done in love and it was absolutely what I needed. If he had allowed me to wallow in my grief, I would probably still be depressed and it would have affected our home life in a very negative way. Yes, there are times I miss my mom and would love to tell her I love her one more time, but I just have to thank God that He gave us as long as He did, I know others who have lost their mom in their teens or even earlier, at least He allowed me almost 40 years with her. Sorry, that wasn't suppose to be about my mom, it just kind of went there. Anyway the point I was trying to make is that yes, I choose daily what my future will be, I can choose to be joyful and laugh or I can choose to be anxious and stressed--either way I am the one choosing. And when I choose to be joyful and laugh, wow the peace in our home is amazing!
Lori Alexander 122p · 484 weeks ago
Alisha Jackson · 484 weeks ago
The last year and a half we have had some extreme difficulties in our family and unfortunately it has hurt our marriage a little. We are seeking the Lord and trying to repair what has been broken. I'm so thankful for your blog to help encourage me in what I knew and walked in before hardship struck.
I really like the part you shared about self-pity being satanic. The Lord is reminding me how I must trust in Him. Through this trial our family is going through the Lord has given me the verse Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Thank you for encouraging me daily to be strong in the Lord and love and serve my husband:) I know the Lord can take what Satan meant for evil and turn it into something good. For His glory. Blessed be the name of the Lord.
Lori Alexander 122p · 484 weeks ago
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guest · 484 weeks ago
"It doesn't take a good man, or even a saved man, for a woman to have a heavenly marriage, but it does take a woman willing to honor God..."
"look to Christ and know that it is He who made you to be a help meet. You serve Christ by serving your husband..."
"For many ladies reading this, it will take a miracle for you to have a merry heart, to be joyful and full of thanks. Think of it: God performing a miracle in you!"
on page 55
"The gift of wisdom will remind you that God's rules are not there to put you in bondage, but to help you make a man want to cherish, protect and love you."
on pg 56 Debi asks - "What can you do that will cause you to know God more and cause you to care about the things he cares about?" I think the answer to this is just to spend more time reading my bible, memorizing scripture and taking time out more often for prayer. Sadly, it seems an ongoing struggle to really make time for the Lord and His Word.
Lori Alexander 122p · 484 weeks ago
Blessed Wife · 484 weeks ago
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hE42gIfXgXM
Lori Alexander 122p · 484 weeks ago