In my post Do You Love Your Children I
taught that if you sacrificially love your children, you will do everything in
your power to be home full-time disciplining, training and caring for them.
This is a full-time job that was created for mothers by God! Another important
way that women sacrificially love their children is by loving their father. You
see, the problem today with feminism and the lies women have been fed is that
many love themselves more than they love their children. They do everything
they can to make sure children don't interfere with their lives much by having
a full-time career so others can raise them and if they aren't "happy" in their marriages, they split.
This is why God commands older women to teach young women to love their children. I
am teaching you that to sacrificially love your children, you will deeply love
their father and do everything in your power to be a help meet to him, submit
to him, obey him, please him, respect him and love him! You will realize that
the greatest gift you can give your children is a peaceful home where mommy and
daddy are deeply in love and at peace with each other.
When women decide they
aren't "happy" with their husband and decide to
divorce them, they are not loving their children as they should; they are, in
many circumstances, only thinking about themselves. Divorce has lifelong and
cruel consequences for children. This is why God hates divorce. Women need to
stop thinking about their happiness and sacrificially love their children more
than they love their self. The second greatest commandment is to love others as
you love yourself. Surely this should take place between a mother and her
children.
If you are married to not such a great husband, your children will more often than not prefer a not-so-great father than none at all. Children love their daddy. Daddy's have a huge influence in their lives. If he is a disobedient man, win him without a word by your godly behavior. Your children will be SO happy that you do this even if it is difficult. It is worth staying with a disobedient husband for the children's sake and because you are a covenant keeper. Christ will not leave us when we are disobedient and wives should not leave disobedient husbands as a concrete example to your children of Christ's love for them. Always remember that God works out all things for good to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. It may not be easy but we are traveling on a narrow path that leads to eternal life. Few want to walk this path since there is suffering and trials along this path, plus self-denial and sacrifice, but it is all worth it in the end when our Savior will someday say to us, "Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord"{Matthew 25:23}.
In my opinion, the Church has stumbled in the area of building up families by failing to teach husbands and wives their roles in marriage. There shouldn't be any divorces in Christian marriages, if both spouses love Jesus. Men should be taught to be the leader of the home and women a help meet to her husband. In this way, there would be no confusion about their roles, very little conflict and many more solid marriages. Since a marriage between a husband and a wife models Christ and His Church, Christian marriages should never fail. I asked the women in the chat room how many of them attend churches where clear biblical roles in marriage are taught and very few said that it was taught but they sure wish it would be.
Therefore, learn to sacrificially love your children's father more than you love yourself. It isn't always easy but obedience to God is ALWAYS the right path to take. There is NO guessing here. God created marriage and He created it until death do you part.
What therefore God has joined together,
let no man separate.
Mark 10:9
