There was a blog post I read about a Christian woman who was in a difficult marriage and she wrote that God told her to divorce her husband. Does God ever tell a woman to divorce her husband? No! If He did, He would have given examples or commands in His Word. He never changes what is written in His Word. He is the same yesterday, today and forever.
There is no place in the Bible that divorce is God's divine will. There is NO place where He tells spouses that they should divorce their spouse if this or that happens. He never tells us to break our marriage vows and be covenant breakers. In fact, He clearly states the opposite, "What God has joined together, let NO MAN tear asunder." Let your Yes be Yes and your No, No. He tells us that in the last days, many will be covenant breakers.
God never calls His children to do the easy thing or take the easy way out; this is why the path we walk on is the narrow path. It is the difficult and hard path. Many times it costs us a lot of personal comfort and pleasure. However, we are called to be lovers of God rather than lovers of pleasure. God will use these difficult times to smooth out our rough edges and make us more like Jesus. Since His Holy Spirit works in us mightily, we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us and NOTHING is impossible with God.
Since we understand that this is not our home and that this is just a small piece of eternity, we can live our lives boldly for Him, even if it means sacrifice and suffering. Many women through the ages have won their difficult husbands to the Lord by remaining faithful to them through the good times and the bad times. There are movie star couples who have everything the world values; beauty, fame and wealth. Yet, most of their marriages end in divorce. Therefore, marriage has nothing whatsoever to do with beauty, fame and wealth. It has to do with obeying God and being a covenant keeper. If you are a godly, submissive help meet to your husband who tries to please him, love him deeply, forgives him freely, and has a meek and quiet spirit, your rewards will be great in heaven.
In closing, I'd like to share a paragraph from Mary Pride's book The Way Home on marriage. "Christians may never, never, never divorce Christians. The world only knows we are Christ's disciples by the love we have for each other {John 13:34, 35}. John plainly says that if we can't love our brothers, whom we have seen, there is no way that we can love God, whom we haven't see {1 John 4:20, 21}. When Christians divorce and both parties still remain in the church without serious disciplining, the message the world gets is that we are grade-number-one, first-class, government-inspected hypocrites. And when it comes to mixed marriages of Christians and non-Christians, it's up to the Christian to show more love, more understanding, more forgiveness than the unsaved partner. Christ called us to love our neighbors, not reject them."
And if ye call on the Father,
who without respect of persons judges according to every man's work,
pass the time of your sojourning here in fear.
1 Peter 1:17
In closing, I'd like to share a paragraph from Mary Pride's book The Way Home on marriage. "Christians may never, never, never divorce Christians. The world only knows we are Christ's disciples by the love we have for each other {John 13:34, 35}. John plainly says that if we can't love our brothers, whom we have seen, there is no way that we can love God, whom we haven't see {1 John 4:20, 21}. When Christians divorce and both parties still remain in the church without serious disciplining, the message the world gets is that we are grade-number-one, first-class, government-inspected hypocrites. And when it comes to mixed marriages of Christians and non-Christians, it's up to the Christian to show more love, more understanding, more forgiveness than the unsaved partner. Christ called us to love our neighbors, not reject them."
And if ye call on the Father,
who without respect of persons judges according to every man's work,
pass the time of your sojourning here in fear.
1 Peter 1:17
Mrs. G. · 484 weeks ago
The book you mentioned sounds really good, Lori. I'll have to check that out!
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Rob · 484 weeks ago
It's getting to the point that Christians have to stop making excuses and start living by truth. Not putting there own spin on scripture.
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Mrs.M · 484 weeks ago
"He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her." Mark 10:11
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Guest · 484 weeks ago
A friend goes to a different church with a female pastor who is on her 3rd marriage!
On another note, where can I get a copy of that book? It sounds very interesting.
Lauren · 484 weeks ago
Rob · 484 weeks ago
What I am learning in my walk is that Christ never leaves us, and will never give up on us, so how we can give up on a marriage.
Yes we al fall short of Christ, but marriage is so important to him that divorce only in my opinion brings shame to him.
Too any times marriages are giving up on too easy and we need to find strength in Christ
Lori Alexander 122p · 484 weeks ago
http://www.desiringgod.org/articles/divorce-remar...
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Anon · 484 weeks ago
From what I understand, not only are you NOT to argue with your spouse. You aren't even supposed to sleep in another room to your spouse. ( work or illness etc are fine.. But not in the spirit of anger or disunity.) My husband studied psychology for a while, then gave it up because all he thought it was was justification for ones sin or rebellion. I'd put divorce in that category.
Christians today really frustrate me with some of the junk they spew out of their mouth. Or how blatantly they sin. I pray that the Lord will come soon!!
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