The Beginning of Wisdom ~ Chapter Six

Many wives believe they are more spiritual than their husband. Many come to me and complain about their husband's lack of spiritual leadership in their home. I understand them since I used to be this way until I read this chapter in Debi's book. We think we are more spiritual because we read our Bibles and pray more than our husbands. We go to Bible Study and would never think of missing a church service, plus most of us don't struggle with sexual things like they do. We must be SO much better than them. Right? Wrong!

When we are criticizing our husbands, judging them and comparing them to us, we are sinning. God made them our leader and head over us and commands that we respect and honor them as our leader. He commands we obey them in everything and submit to their leading, NOT sit in judgment of them. A woman who really knows God will know that true spirituality is obeying God's recorded Word, not cultivating her "spiritual" sensibilities.*

 When we continually walk in disobedience to God, we will reap the consequences from doing it. Our actions and reactions do indeed reap painful results in this present life as well as in eternity. We live under a law of sowing and reaping that is as certain and unrelenting as disease and death.* We will NEVER have a good marriage if we think we are more spiritual or more anything than our husbands since we are not building up but tearing down. Do NOT cultivate bitterness in your heart toward your husband. Bitterness is a poison that will come back and bite you and may even destroy your life. Don't be your husband's Holy Spirit but encourage him instead. Allow the Spirit to do His work in your husband since this is not your job. Remember, a wise woman builds up her home but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands with bitterness and a critical spirit.

By the time many women are entering their fortieth year, they are teetering on the edge of mental instability. They have spent several years of their life irritated at their husbands, daily feeling hurt and responding with coldness and bitterness. Instead of practicing being thankful and merry, they are practicing bitterness.* Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled {Hebrews 12:15}.

Bitterness defiles you. The definition of defile is "to make foul, dirty or unclean; pollute." When you dishonor His marriage plan, clearly recorded in His word, He will stand against you while sin eats away your soul and destroys your health. The consequences of sin are always cruel and costly.*  God is VERY clear in His Word that we will reap what we sow, so sow beauty, women. Sow the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit that is so precious to our Lord. I am convicted as I write these words. I love being challenged, convicted and reminded of God's glorious ways. I pray you are as well.

Seek wisdom, dear women. Stop doing marriage your way and producing rotten, polluted fruit but instead begin living in the fear of the Lord and doing it His way. Don't listen to the many preachers and teachers anymore who make people comfortable living in their sin; who never speak about the many wives who are in rebellion to their husband's leadership and living a life contrary to the Word of God. Find pastors that preach about godliness and holiness who rebuke, exhort and encourage their congregation to walk in the Spirit and live lives pleasing to the Lord. 

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.

Psalm 110:11

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questions and insights you may have!

*Quotes taken from the book.