Every Wednesday, Dennis Prager has a male/female hour. It gives me a lot of information for this blog! The other day a woman called up and said this ~
I am very unhappily married. My husband works many hours. We have a big, gorgeous home and two vacation homes. I can buy anything I'd like. We have three small children and I stay home full time raising them.
We have gone to counseling for the past five years. It hasn't helped. I have a master's degree and had a successful career.
Dennis Prager asked what she would like her husband to do for her. She responded, "I would like him to leave encouraging notes on the counter. I'd like for him to hug me a lot and tell me he loves me. He gets a lot of kudos out there in the business world. I don't get any. I want a relationship with him."
I didn't hear how Dennis responded because I had to get tires on my car, but I sure know how I would have responded ~
Men show love by working hard and providing for their family. Do you ever thank him for that?
Men don't get many kudos out there in the business world. They normally get torn down instead. Do you ever try to build him up and encourage him?
Raising children is the most important thing you can do in contributing to society. Children need a lot of guidance, love, and training. If given this, they will make a good impact on society. They need the stability of a mom and dad in their home. They want a mom and dad at home. Do you thank your husband for allowing you to be able to stay home so you can raise your precious children and not have to put them in someone else's care?
Did you know you can't demand someone to treat you loving? Being angry and upset with him will not draw him to you but away from you. Do you treat him warm and loving, making sure his time at home is pleasant and happy?
These are the things I would have asked her. Women today think they will be happier if they get divorced. They have so many expectations in a marriage instead of just being thankful and content for what they do have and showing appreciation for the good things their husbands do.
These are the things I would have asked her. Women today think they will be happier if they get divorced. They have so many expectations in a marriage instead of just being thankful and content for what they do have and showing appreciation for the good things their husbands do.
God hates divorce for a reason. It leaves a path of destruction in its wake. Do everything you can to hold your marriage together. Do everything you can to make your marriage good. Stop demanding your way and start loving and serving. That is the path to true happiness.
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves.
Philippians 2:3
Nicole · 697 weeks ago
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Misty · 697 weeks ago
None of that would have happened if I had gotten divorced.
Holly · 697 weeks ago
e-Mom · 697 weeks ago
This woman's complaints are legitimate from an emotional standpoint.
*However* ...
We receive by giving. As you aptly point out, when she starts to express her appreciation and respect to her husband for all he DOES for her then *eventually,* she will receive the emotional support from him that she truly needs. Maybe someone will show her how the "Love & Respect" Crazy Cycle works (by Eggerichs).
A good topic!
Blessings, e-Mom
Erin · 697 weeks ago
Jenn · 697 weeks ago
my husband works later than stated times, not answering his phone or calling home to say he'd be late
tells me not to call his work, he's too busy
takes gifts from women at work, occasionally giving gifts TO women at work
but forgets mother's day, valentines day, my birthday & Christmas - and no, he doesn't give me gifts at random, either
he doesn't spend time with me; we've had anniversary gift cards for dinner out from family for months, yet they sit, waiting to expire
as a teacher, who received a pay cut this year, he spends his summer, Christmas, fall and spring breaks "resting and relaxing" instead of providing additional income, repairing our home so we can sell it (he is fully knowledgeable & capable to do, with his pay cut, we can not afford the payments anymore and a realtor turned us down because many minor repairs are needed) or finding a new job (which he constantly says he wants) ...
which would provide for the growing family (pregnant w/#4) since THAT is the "will of God"
even told me to quit homeschooling, put the kids in nursery/public school and get a job, while pregnant, so we could afford to pay our bills, instead of him working a second job or finding a new one.
I already worked 2 years (through one pregnancy) while he went back to school and played video games - not even working a part time job.
I am merely a cook, housekeeper and nanny. Occasionally (about every other month), warmth at night.
I do not know how to like, much less love.
I want to do God's will. I want to be obedient. I pray for his help, I read books on marriage, submission, etc. I try EVERY day, to be kind. EVERY day, I fail.
Barbara F. · 695 weeks ago
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Kerri · 695 weeks ago
~visiting from Miss Jenny's
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Janaki Nagaraj · 695 weeks ago
Glad to be here.
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Sue · 695 weeks ago
=)
My post today: Divine Nature
Esther Joy · 695 weeks ago
Jenny Matlock · 693 weeks ago
What wise words.
I'm really impressed with this post.
You have shared a lot to think about here.
Thank you for linking to the letter D.
A+
Guest · 681 weeks ago
brokenwings · 643 weeks ago
Not all men like to work hard and provide for their family. some men want their wives to do everything for them