Friday, November 4, 2011

Enjoy Your Homemaking


When I had four young children at home, I didn't realize how important my job was just being at home raising children. I thought I needed to be in some type of ministry, so I wore myself out. I so wish someone would have told me ~

The calling of motherhood is the most noble and important work in the world, and the most rewarding. We are linking hands with God. We are creating eternal beings, children who will live forever. Yes, we mothers join hands with God as we bring his children into the world. He has given us the great responsibility of training their trusting little minds.

Your God-given role is that of mother and
homemaker. Enjoy it.

I feel sorry for women who limit their families to only one or two children. If only they could see ahead and know the joy and the satisfaction that a large loving family can bring in later life. I know they blame the cost of living, but my husband always earned a low wage, but we managed.

To enjoy our role as women we need to accept that motherhood and homemaking is our God-given career. Our families really depend on us to fill this role well. We should take a pride in this career, and do it well, and do it femininely.

Fascinating Womanhood discourages mothers from working outside the home when at all possible. Yes, we might buy fewer luxuries than our neighbors, but that’s more than made up for by the joy of tender and loving relationships with our husband and children. And there is the added bonus of much more free time to develop our minds and our interests, and to enjoy our homemaking and spending time with our friends.

The author then encourages women to make some good friends, know what is going on in the world, keep a clean and tidy home with nutritious meals, and stay close to Jesus.  She also gives some great suggestions for raising children.

I know I write about this topic a lot on my blog but I am commanded in Scripture to do so ~

That they may teach the young women to be keepers at home...
Titus 2:4,5

I will therefore that the younger women marry, 
bear children, guide the house...
I Timothy 5:14

One of my friend's daughters went to Pepperdine University, which is very expensive. All this daughter wants in life is to be a wife and mother.  Others would ask her why she is going to college if that is all she wants to do with her life. She would happily respond, "I am going to be a very smart wife and mother!"  I like that.

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I know some women would disagree with this post but, honestly I LOVE your point of view! I just wish that when I was a young mother I had understood what my role was and had stopped trying to fight it so much. I worked and spent so much time away from my family that I can never get back. I FINALLY quit working outside the home when my youngest children (twins) were 8 yrs. old. I have been home full time, I homeschool, and feel like I am doing what God had intended for me to do all along. Our bank account took a hit when I stopped working but I don't miss ANYTHING about my former life. Funny how when you do as God asks, life is so much better! I look forward to reading your next bits of wisdom!
I am grateful everyday to be home
I do not take it for granted
it is a Blessing to watch our children grow up
I would not have wanted to miss a single
moment
Wonderful post Lori
Love
Pam
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Tania Rees · 699 weeks ago

Tracy, I totally agree!!..your story is very similar to mine... I was a mother at age17 then age 20 then age 30 and I'm a very blessed mother of my first boy at age of 36. I was encouraged by my own mother (who thought she was doing the best for me at the time) to return to work while she cared for my young baby...Those years are long gone and I missed out on so much with my first two children!..I was determined not to miss out again when baby no.3 came alone, I was alot older and I was in a position to stay at home. I have become a Christian within the last 4 years and with God's guidance I have truly been shown that true happiness and fulfillment comes from putting everything into the one and only career for me and thats as a wife, mother and homemaker...!
Parenting is an incredible and critical full time ministry and calling... and the children certainly are given by God. It is not a ministry that can be ignored by any godly parent. Certainly 'noble and important' are excellent words to describe it.

I very much agree that it is wise, if at all possible, for at least one parent of all children, at least when they are small -- to avoid working outside the home, and also to avoid over-committing themself to other ministries. There is nowhere in the world that we are as likely to be effective for Christ than in our own homes.

However, it is neither a "God-given role" to mothers only, and it is a stretch of the normal use of the word "career" to be applying such a label to a ministry relationship... even a full-time ministry relationship.

"Role" is a strong word, which implies that one's identity is tied concretely to one's activity. Such a view of self is unhealthy. Parenting is such an important ministry that I understand why some people would choose to call it a role -- but I tend to take both my identity and my ministries more seriously if I can (a) know who I am, apart from what I do as-ministry, and (b) know that my ministry is a call and a duty that comes not from biology, but through the leading of my Lord and Saviour.

I do think that my identity in Christ is tied to all of my activity in the Kingdom of God... but then my "role" is to a child of God -- anything else is a detail of my assignment, not a part of my identity.

I also think it is critical to remember that male parenting ministry is just as much a duty and a call to ministry as female parenting. We should not be putting ourselves on a pedestal, as if mothers are the only recipients of this particular high and noble calling.
As a mother of six children aged from 25-7years, who has both worked while raising children and held a music ministry role in the church, I remember reading the book fascinating Womanhood and weeping,
I wept from relief, because of the freedom it enlightened me to.
My role at this time in my life while my children are still under my roof, is to raise my children and to be a helpmeet to my husband.
This is all I need to do. I do not need to feel pressured into other roles of ministry, I do not need to leave my husband and family to fend for themselves.
My role is one that is full of hospitality in my own home and if the opportunity arises yes of course I am willing and able to help further the Gospel where I can but I should not feel obligated outside of my home by pastors, churches or any one else to leave the role given to me by God.
I found this so freeing.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic, it is indeed much needed.
Blessings to you.
Nell
Dearest Lori,
This is a Wonderful Post....I could not agree with you more. I am a graduate of the Fascinating Womanhood online course and will be retaking in January to become a certified teacher. I LOVE your blog and follow you daily.
Thanks for posting the TRUTH about womanhood, we need more and more people to understand the importance of frugality, doing without, and staying home to mind the household.
I am so lucky, recently I was able to stop working and am now home full time again and loving it! Thankfully I was home while my children were young, then we went through financial problems and I went to work, however, this did not relieve the problem. It caused more stress and confusion and disorder in the home than was worth the money. I want to be remember for how good of a wife, mother, and servant of God that I was, that I was generous and devoted to taking care of the less fortunate, not that I made a lot of money and advanced in my career.

Sincerely,
Jenny
I love being home with my kids! And I'm lucky enough to have a husband who thinks it's more important for me to be home than anything we could buy or do. I'm blessed!
Love this!!!
I am 41, with a 21 year old, 17, 9 and 3.
I am so glad that I didn't listen to the world tell me that 1 boy and 1 girl is all we need!
I love my life of domestic loveliness and homeschooling!
These are the best years!
Great post, I totally agree!
I am grateful each day that I was able to be a SAHM. I know so many people who feel they can't financially do it, but we manage.
I'm thankful God's plan does include women being mothers and homemakers. I've been in the position of working outside the home truly being needful in the past. I am thankful beyond measure for that no longer being my reality. God's plan is always the best for us.
oxo Judy
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Hi, I am a new follower on GFC and FB from Katherine's Corner. http://babyfeetandpuppybreath.blogspot.com/
Hope you can drop by, say hello and follow me back.

This is an amazing post, I am loving your blog.
What a good affirmation of our purpose to be helpmeets at home, loving and nurturing those in our family. It is the healthy family, then, that can move out and bless others as an outflow of love to the Lord! I totally agree that ministry should be only after the needs of the family are met and that it not stress the family. I waited to write this blog until our young people were really young adults (19. 19, and 20) They still need us to be involved and on board to process all the things coming at us today. Praise God for the truth :)
Also, I forgot to thank you for linking up at "EOA" Wednesday!! I appreciate the encouraging exhortation !! Bless you and your household!

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