Monday, February 13, 2012

Delight In Your Husband!


We have mentored some unhappy couples. We've known many people who have gotten divorced. The sad thing is that most of these couples who are unhappy with each other and argue all the time or have gotten divorced are nice people. One-on-one with the wife is a wonderful time spent with her. She's a good woman. Talking with the husband, I can tell he is a good man, also.

What happens?  Why do two nice people end up fighting and getting divorced?

They stop learning to enjoy each other.  Life is short!  It is too short to make any body's life miserable.

Take my parents, for instance. They argued all the time when I was growing up. They are both nice people. Now they enjoy each other {better late than never}. The same goes for Ken and me. All four of us are all nice people. We just forgot to keep enjoying each other.

I write this blog, because I want more couples to enjoy each other and stay together. It only takes one person to stop arguing and start smiling. Why not it be you?

I am mentoring one young woman  She's only been married four years, but so regrets not knowing all that I am teaching her  a long time ago. I tell her it is better now than never. It is never too late to start enjoying your husband and having a better marriage.

Realize he isn't going to change. Stop letting little things that he does bother you. Start encouraging him. Lighten up and start having fun. Thank God for him every day! A thankful heart accomplishes much.

I believe most couples could have a good marriage as long as they aren't married to a truly evil man or woman. All it takes is a decision of the mind to start thinking good thoughts about the other person. Your actions flow out from your thoughts. Renew your mind with God's truth.

Set your mind on enjoying your husband. Don't get offended easily or hold grudges.  Make the decision to walk in love.Decide to be joyful and not argue anymore. Start serving each other. This is what being truly rich really looks like...

Fulfill ye my joy, that ye be like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind.  Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.
Philippians 2:2,3


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I love this...thanks for sharing and happy V-day!
We get asked how we do it - staying happy together. Our answer, it takes three! God - husband - wife. :)
1 reply · active 684 weeks ago
"Life is short! It is too short to make any body's life miserable."
Oh man....this is so true. What right do I have to control my husband and make him dread being set up for failure, nagging, and inadequacy? I certainly don't have the right to make his life miserable....I need to write this on post it notes all over my house and repeat it to myself when I'm being ugly.
Good advice and thank you :)
I have a winner! He's great!
I love loving my husband. I love being the one he needs here on Earth. I love fulfilling his desires, and being the one he still chooses to make love to, after all these years, and all these children. I love that the more I give, the more he softens and the more he loves me. I love watching him mature in Christ, and become a better leader of this home.

I am a blessed woman to have a man who loves the Lord. He is not perfect, and I am not one of these new "spoiled princesses". I am thankful God has blessed me to give me the knowledge to see that marriage is about giving and not what you can "get" from your spouse..and, as a reward reflective of our Creator Himself..sometimes you get blessed in ways you couldn't have manipulated your way into through being selfish and immature.

What a blessed institution the Christian marriage truly is!
I like to think back on the reasons I fell in love with my husband to begin with. When we talk about how we met, and our "early years" we can't help but feel those feelings all over again. Life has a way of making you forget WHY you love each other. Great post!
What a wonderful reminder!!

"Make the decision to walk in love" - it is a choice and daily I need to choose to be a blessing to my husband!!
Thanks for this. Just wondering... do you mentor people for free? and do you mentor through emails etc?
3 replies · active 683 weeks ago
Thank you so much for your heart. I am so excited that you are using this platform to support marriages. I just want to encourage you in your heart and all you're doing.
I love this post! I agree, most of the time people just get in a rut of doing life, raising kids, and they forget to really enjoy each other. I know my husband and I did. Now, we (and by "we" I mean "mostly me") have done exactly what you say. If we have an issue with each other, we address it and move on. We truly enjoy being with each other.
He is away for work right now and I truly miss him. Not his help around the house. Not his help with the kids. I miss him, because I thoroughly enjoy him when he is here. All it takes is determining to make those very changes that you suggest.
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Camila Barini · 684 weeks ago

This is so encouraging! Thank you so much for your words of wisdom! :) I would love to have a mentor like you! =D
it is so true. so often we get overwhelmed with little quirks that we nitpick in our husbands. I hope to do even better at enjoying my husband. :)
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Thank you for sharing! I love to love my hubby :) :) Stopping by to say hi and check out your blog. Found you on the Heavenly Homemakers link up. Happy Day to you!
Cindy http://vegetarianmamma.blogspot.com
I am so thankful that I am completely in love with my hubby! The key to any happy marriage is putting the LORD in the center of your marraige!!!
great advice. thanks!
Oh, thanks for posting this! I stopped by from Leila's. Who knew it was exactly what I needed to hear? Not that my husband and I fight...we're just in a rut and busy and he seems distant. Could he be distant because lately I've been focusing on the negative ways he is like his father (who doesn't like me much)? Lots to think about!
Wonderful words of wisdom. I've been married almost 34 years, and I can testify to the truth of your advice!

Love your blog...hope you'll stop by mine and say hello!

Cindy at Notes in the Key of Life
So, SOOOO true Lori! I am so grateful that my hubby and I still really enjoy being together. I would much rather spend time with him than any of my girlfriends and I know he feels the same. I was just thinking today about how many things roll off my back now that bothered me when we were first married and I wish I could go back and tell that newlywed girl to just relax and let it go! :-) As we watch so many marriages falling apart around us we are so grateful to be the best of friends and enjoy one another. Blessings to you for sharing this at Inspiration Friday this week!
Vanessa
What a sweet post! Good for you! Keep being a good example for the rest of us. This encouraged me. I have a hard time with grudges. I will try to keep this in mind.
Great thoughts! You get a lot written in five minutes. So cool. I do delight in my husband. Doesn't mean we don't argue but we are devoted to eachother. How great that you mentor others. I heard recently, "If you want or expect some one to be incredible for you, why not become that incredible person instead." Similar to what you said.
Ohhh, so many marriages WOULD be saved if we would learn to accept the person, yes, take delight and allow God to renew OUR hearts - not wish for Him to renew THEIR hearts!
Ditto to everything that has been said, and especially to what you wrote. We married, we loved, we cared deeply, and we must fight the forces of culture, of just getting worn out so that we don't drift apart.
Choosing to remain married in the good times and bad can take work, and I am so glad you are here helping to mentor wives.
This is a subject that is close to my heart these days as I have dear friends who are on the verge of calling it quits, and I wrote about rescuing marriages last week.
My hope is that we can turn the tide, one saved marriage at a time.
I've been delighting in my husband, four children and 2 grandangels for over 27 years now. This is a beautiful post :) Have a wonderfully delightful day.
sweet, my husband is my partner in everything. If we drift it is along a lazy river, giggle.Hugs P.S. thank you for linking to Thursday Favorite Things linky party

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