Sunday, February 12, 2012

The Marriage Killer


No, it is not adultery, surprisingly.  It is nagging!  Nagging slowly eats away the marriage, according to Elizabeth Bernstein from The Wall Street Journal.  It is typically the wife who is the one nagging.  Even Scripture has verses specifically directed towards women ~

A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike
Proverbs 27:15

It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house
Proverbs 25:24

The author said that nagging your husband makes him feel like a little boy being scolded by his mother.  Wow!  That statement sure puts it all in perspective and helps us understand why it is so dangerous to marriages.

So how can learn to stop nagging your husband?

By accepting him and loving him just the way that he is and not trying to change him.

By looking at all of his good qualities and dwelling on them.

By renewing your mind with God's truth.  Study the Bible.

By looking up all the verses of what a godly woman looks like.

By doing a word study on arguing, quarreling, and strife in the Bible.

By studying and meditating on all the verses about peace in the Bible.

By forgiving him and realizing that no one is perfect.

I KNOW you can accomplish this.  I nagged Ken for 23 years.  I have not nagged him at all the past eight years.  So if you nag, admit it and start working on changing this ugly, destructive habit.  With God all things are possible.  Your husband will love it if you stop and it may even save your marriage!