Why does God want older women to mentor the younger women? I see all these younger women teaching other women and I wonder how they do it. I think the Lord wants older women teaching younger women because they have the time to do it.
James Dobson gives a great reason to not be too busy during your child raising years ~
Crowded lives produce fatigue, fatigue produces irritability, and irritability produces indifference. Indifference can be interpreted by the child as a lack of genuine affection and a sense of belonging. Children just don't fit into a "to do" list very well. It takes time to be an effective parent when children small. It takes time to introduce them to good books. It takes time to fly kites and play ball and put together jigsaw puzzles. It takes time to listen, once more, to the skinned-knee episode and talk about the bird with the broken wing. These are building blocks of family life, held together with the mortar
of love. It seldom materializes amidst busy timetables.
This is one reason God wants older women to teach the younger women to be keepers at home. When I encourage you to be a keeper at home, I encourage you to spend your time and energy on raising your children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, love and please your husband, fix nourishing food, keep a tidy home, etc. NOT spend your time on things that take your time away from these important things.
Another reason, I believe, is that older women don't get offended as easily. I read these blogs of young women who close down their blog if they get offended or if they get criticized and attacked, it causes them to get upset and stressed out. They have children to protect, are younger, and don't have the life experiences that older women have.
Another reason, I believe, is that older women don't get offended as easily. I read these blogs of young women who close down their blog if they get offended or if they get criticized and attacked, it causes them to get upset and stressed out. They have children to protect, are younger, and don't have the life experiences that older women have.
If you are blessed to be able to be home full-time, don't use that time on outside ministries. Use it on ministering to your family. Your children will be grown up before you know it and you will have plenty of time to teach the younger women how to be godly wives and mothers.
I will therefore that the younger women marry,
bear children, guide the house,
give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
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Susan · 596 weeks ago
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Leslie · 596 weeks ago
Blessings,
Leslie
Lori Alexander 122p · 596 weeks ago
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Candi · 596 weeks ago
I fell into that same trap myself on Facebook. I was an administrator for a "Created" page spending several hours each night writing the posts and moderating the page during the day. I counselled several women through fb messaging, and had many followers from Africa and one from Europe. It was a definite ego boost!
Being 40 with a 20 year old son (18 at the time), I'm kinda in that transitional phase - not young, but not as experienced as "older" would imply. But I babysit and felt I was not being the 'daytime' mama the children needed spending so much time keeping up with all the duties of a busy fb page administrator. Besides that,my husband is very jealous of my time and attention. He didn't marry me to share me with the whole fb world. I'm his!
So...I deleted my account - permanently! No one knows how hard that was! All my work - the posts, the messages,everything - gone forever with the click of a button. But it was soooo worth it! Now, I am JUST a wife and mother.
A little over a year later, my stepfather died a tragic slow death (Daddy died 18 years earlier). I realized at once how thankful I am to not be over busy with a job or ministries so that I can be there for my mom and still meet the needs of my family and the children in my care.
Tierra · 579 weeks ago
Kelley · 596 weeks ago
I taught my girls (now 29 and 26) that they are an "aged" woman in some girl's life, and I've seen this teaching come full circle. I've personally heard little girls and women younger than me and younger than my girls say of one of us, "She is such a good example to me..." whether that was on such subjects as waiting to marry the man God wants her to marry, dressing modestly and why, taking care of their uniquely feminine bodies, how to spend money wisely, stewardship of time, raising children, marriage, having a wedding God was pleased with, sharing recipes, handwork, crafting, etc. I passed down activities and traits to them, as did their grandmothers, and they in turn are repeating this act.
Of course a 13 year old cannot teach an 11 year old how to love her husband (although my paternal great-grandmother married at 11 years old), or love their children as the Titus 2 Aged Woman is commanded. However, instilling in our daughters and women younger than ourselves-- no matter our age-- passes down a sense of responsibility. "Girls, remember," I've always said, "some girl of some age younger than you is watching your every move."
This is why Pinterest, ladies magazines, fashion-- you name it-- is so popular among women. For the same reason we have Great-grandma's quilts, recipes, etc. Because an older woman or another experienced woman passed these ideas, skills and lessons down. The problem here, though, lies in the USE of time, of which an aged woman has more knowledge and understanding of how vaporous this commodity is. The Titus 2 "aged" woman knows the pangs of regret, hindsight and "druthers." She's learned that time can be invested in TOOLS, TOYS or TANGENTS (as I recently heard a mother say on Focus on the Family). Aged women are to teach the younger, This is a tool, This is a toy, and This is a tangent, and she has the experience to put her money and marbles where her mouth is.
What does the Word say? This is what we are to teach EVERYone, but do I have a teachable spirit? Whoa, is THAT the subject of a complete different post, hmm?!
Love these thoughts and comments read here today.
Kelley~
Dawn E. Brown · 596 weeks ago
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Crystal · 596 weeks ago
However, I do feel that a woman's job should be first to take care of her families needs. I do feel she should be a mother first. I also agree with you that older women are a great resource for obtaining knowledge and advice from.
nayajean 117p · 596 weeks ago
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