Saturday, October 19, 2013

Rewinding Her Mothering Career


Isn't this the cutest family?  Seven precious children all in a row.  What greater blessing from God can you ask for?  So many couples fear having a lot of children.  The main reason given is financial reasons.  I don't think this should ever be a reason to not have children.

During Israel's bondage in Egypt when they were slaves, they grew mighty and powerful from all the children they had.  God is our provider.  If He blesses you with children, He will provide.  Meditate on Psalm 37:25 and believe it.  Never take your fertility for granted!

 The woman in the above picture wrote a beautiful post about her mother.  Her mother lost her father to cancer after 35 years of marriage.  Her mother wrote down a list of all the things she wish she would have known about her husband and how she should have treated him while he was alive.  Learn from her!

If I could rewind my mothering career, I would have put more energy and emphasis into being a better wife. Our primary vocation is to be a wife first and then a mother. Because of the exhausting demands of small children, most women lose focus on their marriage. Either they overlook their spouse and put him on the bottom of their “to-do” lists or they begin to treat him “as one of the children.” The bond of marriage is stronger than the bond of children because in marriage, “two become one flesh”—one flesh—you are no longer a single person after marriage you become absorbed into your husband.

I wish I had known how a man feels like a failure at work each day, and look to their wives to make them feel like a hero. If he comes home to a wretch, he feels like a failure at work and at home.

You can read the rest HERE.  It is so easy to forget that our main ministry in life is to be a help meet to our husband.  Don't wait until you lose your husband to remember this important truth.

And the LORD God said, It is not good that 
the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Genesis 2:18


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Valid points made here! A good idea to "redeem the time" with our husbands, (and children, too, in some cases) as well as in our spiritual lives! Blessings and wisdom from our Heavenly Father, Lori!
This is beautiful. I certainly made the mistake of putting children first over my husband. He once told me he felt about 3rd on a good day and 4th on a normal day on my list. Great advice.
That is a beautiful family, and I loved this post. We have been pleading with God for nearly nine months now to send us another baby. My heart is broken. However, it has been a growing and bonding time for us as a couple. I have told my kids that daddy is my best friend and they know we are in love. Thank you for the reminder to put our marriage first.
What a sweet family. Reading this post gave me food for thought. I know that some days, I have paid way more attention to my children than my husband. Now our nest is getting smaller/emptying and I need to focus on my good husband each and every day. Thanks for this timely reminder.
This is so true. We only have one child now, but planned on a much larger family. Some of the best advice I got as a young wife was to always keep my husband first, that it does children much more good to see their parents deeply in love in and their mother honoring and respecting their father than it does to spoil them and make them always the center of attention.
First and foremost we as wives are our husband's helpmate and they need to come first and that becomes very clear once the children leave home and there is just the two of you. Sometimes I think mothers get so wrapped up in their children, having children and their homes that their husbands slip back in the pack. Children don't come first, ones husband does.

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