Should a couple be financially stable before marriage? Do you realize how many couples in the history of the world were not financially stable when they got married? How come we think all our little ducks need to be in order before marriage? Are all our little ducks ever really in order?
Suppose a couple wants to get married but the man is just beginning medical school, like my parents, should they wait until he is a doctor to get married? I don't think so. He is getting a good education in order to support a family.
If a man has no ambition, no job, and isn't pursuing an education, then I don't think they should get married unless the wife doesn't care if her husband doesn't work hard and she lives on very little or has to get a job herself.
God is ultimately our provider. No matter how much money you have in the bank, what kind of a job you have, and the home you live in, it can all be taken away quickly. We have no permanent security in this world. We live in a very insecure world. This is why we must put all of our hope in God.
We must not make rules for couples to follow that are not in the Bible. God tells us to marry a believer and that it is better to marry than to burn. Sure, most couples have to make sacrifices for the early years of marriage but sacrifice is not a bad thing. Hard times help us to become stronger and depend upon the Lord more.
My parents lived in a condemned building for awhile but my mom always made wherever they lived a home. It is not our circumstances that make us happy and content; it is a thankful attitude and a dependence on the Lord to provide.
Our society tells young people they must be financially stable before marriage. The Bible doesn't say that anywhere. It does say that the men need to be hard workers and provide for their families and the women need to be hard workers at home. As long as you are willing to work hard and sacrifice, you can marry even when you are not financially secure and watch how the Lord provides for you.
I have been young, and now am old;
yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken,
nor his seed begging bread.
Psalm 37:25
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Sonia Parsons · 598 weeks ago
Lindsay Harold · 598 weeks ago
On the other hand, though, it isn't necessary to have all your ducks lined up in a row either. A couple doesn't need to have good jobs that allow them to buy a house. Nor do they need to be able to afford the kind of life their parents have. They don't need cable tv, a new car, a 3-bedroom apartment. They don't need to be able to eat out every month. Their parents worked and saved for years to be able to afford what they have. It's not necessary to have all that before getting married. Marriage is a wealth-building institution. Being married, sharing expenses, and learning to save are things that most married couples have done after marriage, not before. As long as there is some minimally stable and adequate source of income, marriage is fine. The extras can come later.
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Tiffany · 598 weeks ago
I also think of my grandparents, who were married right in the height of the great depression. They lived in the attic of a cheese factory, where my grandpa worked, and they farmed. My grandma gave birth to her first child in the cheese factory, ha! :) Many years later, my grandpa ended up being on the state senate, a businessman, and they had a beautiful family of 6 children. They never had a lot of money but were rich. She always told me that she was glad they had to work together! :)
Nicole · 598 weeks ago
Cynthia · 598 weeks ago
I'd agree that there's a difference between "not yet financially well-off" and "financially irresponsible". When you marry a student, you know that the hardship is temporary.
At the same time, I'd say that a couple needs to be realistic. There needs to be a source of income, and if the husband is a student in a field like medicine, there won't be any time for him to hold down a job as well. This means that the wife needs to be prepared to work and support the family until he is done. The couple will also need to decide how they feel about birth control, because it may not be possible to support a baby right away.
elspethbreathinggrace 46p · 598 weeks ago
I wouldn't change a thing about that.
Fran · 598 weeks ago