When I was growing up, I'd go to homes of my friends whose mother worked full-time outside of the home. They were cold homes. We'd eat a bunch of junk and watch soap operas. Another friend would go home during the lunch hours in high school to have sex with her boyfriends. No one was home watching over it and guarding it from evil.
My mom was always home. Even through high school, the first thing that I did when I got home was yell, "Mom, I'm home!" Then she would come to me and want to know all about my day. When I was sick growing up, she'd set me on the couch with pillows, blankets, coloring books and crayons. I watched cartoons and sipped on lemon honey and water. Everyone loved coming to my home since there was always someone there watching over it and guarding it.
There are too many children coming home to empty homes these days. I walk by a preschool every day. Yesterday, I heard a newborn crying and it broke my heart. The baby's own mother isn't with him/her to care, nurture and cuddle her own baby. How can this possibly be a good thing?
In my neighborhood, there is someone home in almost every single home. The majority of mothers are home raising their children or the husbands work from the home. It makes this neighborhood feel secure. There's only been one divorce on my whole street in the 17 years we've lived here and all of the children have grown up to be hard-working, responsible adults. It's almost as if we're in la la land but this was life in most of America just 80 years ago.
Women left their homes to go find "fulfillment" and left a trail of devastation in their path. All of the promises of feminism have been empty promises. I was thinking about not using the word 'feminism' anymore since it offends so many women but I decided that it is more important for me to teach Truth than to water it down to be popular. Years ago, a woman who has a very large blog told me privately that she could never write what I write because it would offend way too many of her readers! I never want that to me a motivation for me.
Yes, evil has existed since Eve ate the apple so sin and pain have been around since almost the beginning of time. BUT women leaving their homes all day long has only happened in the past 80 years or so and it has only caused pain and suffering; broken marriages, lonely children, and empty homes.
As C.S. Lewis wrote, "Homemaking is surely in reality the most important work in the world. What do ships, railways, mines, cars, government, etc. exist for except that people may be fed, warmed, and safe in their own homes? The Homemaker's job is one for which all others exist."
As C.S. Lewis wrote, "Homemaking is surely in reality the most important work in the world. What do ships, railways, mines, cars, government, etc. exist for except that people may be fed, warmed, and safe in their own homes? The Homemaker's job is one for which all others exist."
If there is any way at all that you can come home and fill your home with your presence, please come home. I know I write about this often but it doesn't seem like there are many writing about it so I will keep encouraging women to be keepers at home since God commanded that I do this. Find joy in God's will for you! It is the very best and safest place for you to be.
She looketh well to the ways of her household,
and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Diane · 517 weeks ago
Pastors. we need you to teach this from the pulpit that it is best if mom is at home.
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Summer · 517 weeks ago
Thank you Lori for always teaching the truth even when it's not popular.
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Anthea · 517 weeks ago
Don't forget that many times the workplace is dull and arduous. The wonderful "adult" conversation is often about what was on the telly last night, or moaning about the boss. I have much better conversation with the children and Handsome Husband now that I am home educating them.
People often say that toddlers are no conversation, but that's 'cos we are too proud to take an interest in their concerns. "Look, ants, Mama!" I looked, and lo and behold, they were transparent yellow ones!
Another time my son asked why some men were chopping down an old tree. The workers overheard me explaining why diseased trees needed to come down. "D'you want to see something interesting?" they asked. We went over to their pickup truck and in the back of the lorry was a pile of wood. They picked up a Stag Beetle, and explained about its life and why they are now quite rare.
Get reading your Bible, too, for when they ask detailed questions about events or doctrine. It will come sooner than you think.
Lady Virtue · 517 weeks ago
Lori, this quote of yours is exactly why I continue to visit your blog regularly. God has humbled me to realize that I need Truth, even when it convicts me. I thank the Lord that you do what you do.
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Roxy · 517 weeks ago
And yes the truth is not popular anymore... Feed them a pack of lies long enough and they get desensitized to the truth; but it is still a lie!
Yours. Roxy
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Miriam · 517 weeks ago
A few months ago my job was made redundant. We don't have children yet and I worried about all those hours spent at home how would I fill my day?
So far this hasn't been a problem, cooking cleaning and gardening take up most of my time and I am loving it. My husband always liked me working but he has had a huge 180 turnaround on this and comments almost everyday how much he loves me being at home, he loves coming home to a warm home, a happy loving wife who isn't too exhausted from my own challenging day at work to be able to listen to him talk about his day.
We are coming in to winter here in Australia and he loves being able to pop home for a hot lunch if he has time :)
This has only strengthened our marriage. I love reading your blog because it reminds me that I'm doing not only what makes my husband and myself happy but it also pleases the Lord.
I pray for your ongoing health Lori please keep up the great work on your blog you have no idea how much it means to me :)
Miriam
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Anthea · 517 weeks ago
There is one house on our street that made me feel all inadequate, it was a splendid front room with dining chairs around a spotless wooden oval of a table. (We live in a terraced house with the bay windows only 4ft from the road, so you can see right into our front rooms.) Then I thought about how I have never met the occupants, and have only seen them twice in as many years. They are home after 7, gone early.
On occasion, I have had friends pop in just after lunch time, knowing that I would be home and that lessons/Table Time would be over for the day. An empty home is a pretty home, but empty, too.
It's funny, we decided to home educate before I gave up working outside the home. Our eldest turned 3, and suddenly - duh, we realised that someone actually had to be home, to home educate them. Yes, I am an unrecognised genius ...
Maria · 517 weeks ago
I have only been married for two years and am now home full-time with our seven-month-old daughter and pregnant with another child (still in the first trimester though, so a bit fearful, as I have had several miscarriages). Everyone around me keeps pressing me to get a job soon and put our daughter into daycare. At present I work from home and am already quite exhausted. Thankfully my husband sees the value in having me at home, although he does want me to work some from home, to bring in extra income. It is hard sometimes to manage it all, but I am so so thankful for having the opportunity to keep our child at home.
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