Saturday, April 25, 2015

Fed Up With Forgiving Your Husband?

You're tired of putting up with your husband and his sins and faults. You're ready to give up and get out. You've done everything you can to make your marriage better but he still isn't living up to your expectations of him. Well, one woman has some powerful words for you if you are in this situation ~

Marriage is a microcosm of the relationship between a believer and Christ. In marriage, we learn of commitment, self-sacrifice, love, and more. The man loving and protecting the woman teaches us how Christ loves and protects us; the woman respecting and serving her husband teaches us to serve and respect Christ. Once we understand this, the concept of divorce is so much more deplorable.

I've had plenty of women come to me with stories of what their husband has done or failed to do, looking for my support, hoping I will validate the choice they want to make by telling them, "Yes, he has done enough. God would want you to go." Instead, I ask a question, "Are you done being forgiven by Christ?" Maybe you have forgiven and forgiven, and you feel like your words fall on deaf ears. Maybe you are tired of having the same conversation over and over with seemingly no end in sight. Maybe you aren't happy about the person he is at this moment. So what? Couldn't our heavenly Father say the same of us? 

What if God was tired of forgiving us because He had done it so many times before, far more times than "we" have ever forgiven anyone? What if He was tired of His words falling on deaf ears, which they do, and decided to cut His losses? Do any of us think that He is totally happy with who we are at this moment? He asks for perfection, and tells us to strive to perfect ourselves, with His help and power, so unless we are perfect than we are not yet what he wants us to be. Forgive as you want to be forgiven. If you are done being forgiven by Christ, then by all means be done forgiving others. if not, then it is time to buck up and learn about patience and self-sacrifice. 

I'm sorry, women, but this life down here isn't easy nor is it supposed to be easy. We learn a lot more through our trials than through our good times. During our hard times, we must cling to Jesus and trust in His strength working through us. I know many of you struggle through difficult marriages but your time is not wasted by serving and pleasing your husband. God sees every single act of service that you do and you will be rewarded for He promises us that we reap what we sow. Therefore, take hope since He has overcome the world and will be faithful to fulfill all of His promises to us.

These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.
John 16:33