Tuesday, April 7, 2015

His Life Will Be SO Much Better With You Home!


Too many husbands don't realize the benefit to having a wife that stays at home. They don't have to worry when a child is sick; who will stay home? They shouldn't have to worry about cooking and cleaning. They should be able to come home to a relatively clean home, maybe not tidy, but clean with dinner cooking. Their clothes are washed. Their bed made. They have a help meet, hopefully, who enjoys satisfying them sexually also.

There are women who decide they want to come home. They are convicted about being home full-time to raise and nurture their children. They want to have time to cook and clean and become organized. They don't want mornings and evenings to be rush hours trying to get everything done. They are exhausted and don't feel like they can do it any longer. 

Their husbands don't want them to come home. They like the paycheck that their wife brings in. They don't realize the price they are ultimately going to have to pay for that paycheck and how much better life can be if their wife comes home.

Therefore, if you desire more than anything to come home, begin gently explaining how much better HIS life will become if you are home full-time. Tell him ALL the benefits for him, for your children, and for your home. Tell him you want to take better care of him by fixing him better food, keeping the home cleaner, and being more available to him sexually.

After you have done this, begin to pray that the Lord would convict and change your husband's mind. Every day give it to the Lord but don't nag your husband about it. Do the best you can do and then you must leave it in the Lord's hands by being content in the meantime.

You see, the problem is most men, even Christian men, have fallen for the feminist's lies also. They think it is a good thing that women are able to have careers and make money. They don't think about the cost to their children's lives, their wife's health, and their marriage.  They don't understand that the greatest contribution a mother can make to God's eternal kingdom is to raise godly offspring. I sure wish the church would be bold enough to teach it. It is all very sad.

Someone else can always replace you in your career, your organization, or even extra church activities, but no one can adequately replace you as the mother of the children God has given you. You were born for this mission. It is your destiny. And it is your heritage. {Nancy Campbell}

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; 
her husband also, and he praises her.
Proverbs 31:28

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Amen! I feel so blessed to be able to stay at home with my two girls. I like how you said our house isn't necessarily going to be tidy, but clean. :)
So So true! My husband has a unique perspective now that he has experienced both. I worked 2 years after having kids because financially I had to until some major changes happened. We both desired for me to be home. After I came home and now have been for 3 years my husband would not have it any other way. He openly admits how MUCH easier his life is with me home. He knows that our children are being cared for by someone b that loves them more than anyone besides him. He loves not having to worry about their care. If they are sick, I'm there. I menu plan and have a meal ready every night. He misses dinner a lot for work, but I have a plate waiting for him in the fridge. He doesn't have to worry about cleaning or laundry when he gets home. We have more time to invest in our relationship ayer the kids are in beef because we can relax and knowing the majority of house work is done by then. He had flourished in his career the last couple years and we both think a big part is because he can focus more art work because he doesn't have stress from home. This has blessed us financially to where he is almost making what we used to make together. Those 2 years working were sooo tough. I had anxiety attacks Sunday nights before going back to work because my heart was HOME. However, having that reference of how it used to be we both have a clearer perspective on how awesome our life is now... even with the rough days that come with 4 kiddos 5 and under. I'm so blessed to have the full spurt of my hubby to be home!! My twin sis doesn't have that support and had a very critical husband... Make me sad!
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What a wonderful testimony, Brit! Thank you for sharing. It seems God always provides for us a way to keep His commands.
Very well said! :)
This can be a tricky subject for some households. Thank you for your advice on how to approach it! Praying daily :)
So thankful my husband asked me to stay home. I wouldn't change it for anything! Another thing that improved for me, in addition to what you've already mentioned, is my relationship with God. I have more time to read His word, pray and teach it to my little girl. I have grown a lot spiritually. Before, when I was working crazy hours with doctors in the OR (although it was high-paying) I was stressed, tired and emotionally spent that I would go days without studying the Bible or praying. I'm not saying working women aren't able to have a close relationship with God and I'm sure I could've done things better. It's just so much better and easier and I know this is where I'm supposed to be!
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We can't do everything, Katie, and this is why God made clear roles for the sexes. Life always works better when we do things His ways.
Linda thank you for being open and honest! Be encouraged. What you said is such a reality for a lot of women. God is able! I understand how you feel..
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Daddy's Girl · 520 weeks ago

Just to encourage those who are not home yet, but have the desire. Keep trusting God! I am still working full time but I have the desire to come home. Although I'm not home full time yet, I still believe that my time will come! Although my environment-friends and family don't encourage this lifestyle, I still believe! It gets hard sometimes thinking that this could be my reality, but I still believe! It gets hard waking up to go to this 9-5 knowing that I have to still come home, cook dinner, nuture my kids, and still be available for my husband..it's really tough! Trust God through it all. In the mean time, I've cut back on activities that requires me to be outside of my home including activites at church. I've learned how to say no to many things! I have been frugal with my spending, finding ways to save and getting rid of things that I don't need. Meal planning, less eating out. Being physically active with my family and not spending money on every organized sport opportunity. There are other adjustments that can be made while you wait! Trust God and go before the Lord like never before. He will give you peace through it all.
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Thank you, Daddy's Girl. These are very wise words and hopefully encourage other women.
Most women are undertaking these tasks regardless of whether they work or not and many do both jobs very well. Husbands don’t necessarily see how some women struggle to find the time to go to work and keep their homes in order because they only see everything completed but not the effort that went into it. I don’t think they are being hoodwinked by any lie, they just don’t necessarily understand the difficulties some women have (I say some, because not all women find this difficult as it depends on the sort of work they do). Certainly in Australia, many younger women are working part-time so they are able to pick and drop off their children at school plus keep their homes clean without getting exhausted. I think this is a positive move for many women who perhaps can’t afford to give up work completely (our mortgages here can be very large depending in which city you live in, I live in a very expensive location). Those women who are struggling do need to have an honest conversation with their husbands about their level of exhaustion and struggle they are having with juggling these two activities so their husbands understand what is involved. They also need to pray together and follow what the Lord asks of them.
So true. I believe many marriages end instead of working out problems because the wife has her own way to make a living.
It is sad that most of the churches are not teaching these biblical truths but I'm thankful that mine does! Homes and marriages just work better when they are done God's way by doing what we were made to do.

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