Betty Friedan, the founder of the National Organization of Women, grew up without a mother's love. "We really absolutely did not have a mother loving us." Then as an adult, she had to deal with the rage she had towards her mother. Her home was one of conflict between her parents and was an unhappy home. She got married and participated in a violent, abusive marriage..."sugar bowls, books and the like seemed to fly." She later divorced and decided that women were trapped in their suburban home in a "comfortable concentration camp" with prisoners stuck inside.
Since she had a terrible mother with a horrible childhood and then a bad marriage, she made it her aim in life to cause many women to decide that being in their homes, married, and with children was a very bad idea. Thus began the feminist movement, when more and more women decided to leave their homes to pursue careers in hopes of finding "meaning and fulfillment" outside of the home, instead of raising children. Home was boring. Marriage was difficult. Children were inconveniences. Most of the prominent women who began the revolution known as the feminist movement had difficult childhoods; "Friedan and Greer had openly rejecting mothers, and Steinem, an absent father and an emotionally ill mother." {source}
These women who were raised in terrible homes by being unloved and abandoned by their parents championed the cause for all children to be raised the same way they were by getting mothers out of the home and their attention on their careers, instead of on their marriages and children. Does anyone understand this at all? If these women were raised in loving, warm homes, they would have felt completely different about mothers being at home bonding with and loving their children. Their mothers were not this way so they caused mothers to flee their homes and have, in the process, destroyed the lives of millions of women {and men since they also need mothers full-time when they are growing up} and unborn babies. Their homes may have felt like concentration camps, but this is not how God intended home to be. We, as the body of Christ, should not take these women's words and allow them to influence our decisions. No, we must take the Word of God and live by how God tells us to live our lives. {Friedan, later in life, realized her mistaken teachings.}
These women who were raised in terrible homes by being unloved and abandoned by their parents championed the cause for all children to be raised the same way they were by getting mothers out of the home and their attention on their careers, instead of on their marriages and children. Does anyone understand this at all? If these women were raised in loving, warm homes, they would have felt completely different about mothers being at home bonding with and loving their children. Their mothers were not this way so they caused mothers to flee their homes and have, in the process, destroyed the lives of millions of women {and men since they also need mothers full-time when they are growing up} and unborn babies. Their homes may have felt like concentration camps, but this is not how God intended home to be. We, as the body of Christ, should not take these women's words and allow them to influence our decisions. No, we must take the Word of God and live by how God tells us to live our lives. {Friedan, later in life, realized her mistaken teachings.}
God says women are to be keepers at home. Marriage is a model of Christ and the Church. Children are blessings. I have known too many women who have problems with rage who were not loved and cared for by their mothers. Children need and want their mothers to raise them. Studies have proven how crucial it is for mothers to bond with their babies for emotional stability and security. Betty Friedan didn't have emotional stability nor security so she began a movement to tear down the only institution that can give these to children.
Going against God's stated commands in the Bible will never produce good fruit. God's place, the home, for woman is the most important place for you to be. Being a loving and submissive wife is His plan for you and to deeply love and nurture your children is what He wants you to do. Betty got it wrong. Home isn't a comfortable concentration camp; it's a comfortable, secure haven of rest for weary souls when it is a home that has decided that "for me and my house, we will serve the Lord."
By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.
Proverbs 24:3, 4
My people will abide in a peaceful habitation,
in secure dwellings, and in quiet resting places.
Isaiah 32:18
By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.
Proverbs 24:3, 4
My people will abide in a peaceful habitation,
in secure dwellings, and in quiet resting places.
Isaiah 32:18
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Mrs. G. · 467 weeks ago
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Guest · 467 weeks ago
What, in your opinion caused their mothers to be that way and to create horrible childhoods for there daughters? -- at a time when SAHM was the norm and movies, books, and magazines portrayed SAHMs as very loving, happy and content..
Is it possible that there were many, many more women like Friedan's mother than we know? That the picture of the happy SAHM was not completely accurate? I know many older women who describe their SAHM mothers as unloving and rejecting. My husband describes his mother and his childhood that way -- she has not changed.
Lady Virtue · 467 weeks ago
I just wanted to leave this comment to encourage you and pray for God's blessings for you!
Ken · 467 weeks ago
The child of an alcoholic often becomes an alcoholic, divorce and abandonment begets the same in the next generation, abuse of a child also often creates an abuser who does not know how to deal with their rage. I have explored this question as to why and the answer seems to lie in the fact that as children they never were taught or developed the right training of their frontal brain and seat of emotions, so as the God's Word says,
"The LORD is slow to anger and abundant in loving-kindness, forgiving iniquity and transgression; but He will by no means clear the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and the fourth generations" (Numbers 14:18).
Here Friedman and other early feminists had awful childhoods so instead of fighting for the family unit and for children, they instead took their hateful anger and perpetuated it on a whole generation of women and children... all in the name of defending women's rights. Feminism hated children so much that it chose to isolate them in Day Care or chose sudden death before the baby could even come out of the womb. All in the name of freedom and the betterment of society.
Cannot at least the Christian parents see the the lies of Satan and how he twists God's best to wreak vengeance upon good people who are now deceived into believing that right is wrong and wrong is right. May Christian couples everywhere come to see that God's purpose and design is never wrong and ultimately proves the most fulfilling and rewarding life for parents and children. After all, our children are the greatest gifts and responsibility we will ever have here on earth, and will lead to our greatest rewards.
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Mrs.M · 467 weeks ago
Not to mention, what I want or enjoy is really not the point. The point is what is best for my family, and what does God command of me. So even is I preferred the workplace, that still wouldn't be reason enough to abandon God's design and command that women be keepers at home.
Talita · 467 weeks ago
As a teenager I suffered from depression because my mother did so. One day I was talking to a born again Christian and told her my lot. She was emediatly angry at my way of thinking and told me 'Child, Christ died for you, you never need to believe this lie.' Thank God for that day, I suffered from quite a bit of other emotional problems, but I never again believed that I am prone to depression. This way God is always faithful and just and I could already overcome a lot.
It is mind blowing how hurt can make one so self centered and destructive. And it is our children suffering from it. The biggest, best and richest inheritance we can give our children is a God fearing, loving life. Not money and possessions and power.
Thank you for your diligence and love sharing God's word and truth, may we al abide in it.
God bless you Lori.
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Liz M. · 467 weeks ago
I grew up believing all of these things, sadly. It really is a cycle. My mother was distant and unhappy, her mother had been more so, and the people who raised my grandmother were even MORE so (they treated her very badly)...it just gets handed down from one generation to the next. I was so angry and unhappy growing up that I pretty much hated happy people, thought they were all fake, and wanted (on a subconscious level) to destroy their happiness. Looking back, it was just hurt and envy on my part. Thankfully I have changed and now I try to promote and protect what I know to be true and good, even if I didn't have it growing up.
I can't find the link right now, but I'd read a very good blog post about how dysfunctional, unhappy people disproportionately influence popular culture. So many books, movies, music, etc, are written by people with alcoholism, drug problems, abusive pasts etc...it gives the impression that all of life is ugly and that all families are secretly terrible. But really it's just that happy people don't attract as much attention. Stories with a dark side are what sell.
anninas · 354 weeks ago